Hi everyone,
It is hard to make this short.
Husband and I separated a week ago. This is our second separation actually due to the same reason, lack of trust. We married almost 4 years ago. We are young couples, and both of us are believers. We attend Church regularly. Anyways, last year my husband started acting differently, it happened when I went out to the bars with my girlfriends. He was calling me, but I could not hear my phone at the bar. When I got home, he was furious and yelling at me badly. He refused to let me go out for a while. He complained about me every time I went out with my friends. Every time I went out he makes it a big problem. Sometimes, he was saying things just to make me angry like “oh why are you dolling up only when you go out?” and sometimes he aims for conflicts. Like sometimes he says the girls I hang out with are wicked and horrible. I tell him why? He goes like” They smoke and not polite.” So I tell him. We both used to smoke. Then he immediately starts making a problem of what I say?! He always does something like that. Like trick words so he can start a problem. We had many conflicts. I noticed our marriage is in danger. I stopped going to bars and I never went with my friends anywhere, but he never stopped complaining at me.
I’m a nurse, and also a painter, I make some profit by selling gallery online. I run a website and a market for art supplies and materials. I spend a lot of my time at the Studio Art especially when I’m alone, and have nothing to do at the weekend. I usually paint and arrange projects. I met an art student, and we started painting things together for awhile. Thing is my husband was secretly spying on me. I went out with my friend for a lunch; husband showed up gave us a horrible nasty look and left. My friend did not know why he was staring at me. That moment was the most embarrassing and ugliest thing in my life. It was humiliating that I kept crying for days. I could not forgive him.
He never had issues with me in the past regarding male-friendship, but now he accused me of having an affair, and that he saw me several times with him in different places. I did not deny it, but I only kept it in the right form- Friendship ONLY. I discovered he was opening my credit card bills and checking my phone and laptop when I’m asleep all of that without my permission. He also forced me to give him my Email password! Recently, he asked me for my twitter account info, and D-Art Gallery site which I refused, because it contains private business matters. I’m tired of being controlled based on false accusations and imagination. So, I decided to leave him again but this time i have a strong desire for a divorce. He claims he was doing all of that to protect me, but I hate being controlled like a child. If he does not trust me, then what is the point of our marriage? I really love him, and he sent me an email saying that he's arranging a metting with our pastor and waiting for my respond, but I’m stuck I want him, but I do not want to be controlled anymore- I need him to trust me, and also let me live the way I want as long as I did not do anything wrong or immoral.
It is hard to make this short.
Husband and I separated a week ago. This is our second separation actually due to the same reason, lack of trust. We married almost 4 years ago. We are young couples, and both of us are believers. We attend Church regularly. Anyways, last year my husband started acting differently, it happened when I went out to the bars with my girlfriends. He was calling me, but I could not hear my phone at the bar. When I got home, he was furious and yelling at me badly. He refused to let me go out for a while. He complained about me every time I went out with my friends. Every time I went out he makes it a big problem. Sometimes, he was saying things just to make me angry like “oh why are you dolling up only when you go out?” and sometimes he aims for conflicts. Like sometimes he says the girls I hang out with are wicked and horrible. I tell him why? He goes like” They smoke and not polite.” So I tell him. We both used to smoke. Then he immediately starts making a problem of what I say?! He always does something like that. Like trick words so he can start a problem. We had many conflicts. I noticed our marriage is in danger. I stopped going to bars and I never went with my friends anywhere, but he never stopped complaining at me.
I’m a nurse, and also a painter, I make some profit by selling gallery online. I run a website and a market for art supplies and materials. I spend a lot of my time at the Studio Art especially when I’m alone, and have nothing to do at the weekend. I usually paint and arrange projects. I met an art student, and we started painting things together for awhile. Thing is my husband was secretly spying on me. I went out with my friend for a lunch; husband showed up gave us a horrible nasty look and left. My friend did not know why he was staring at me. That moment was the most embarrassing and ugliest thing in my life. It was humiliating that I kept crying for days. I could not forgive him.
He never had issues with me in the past regarding male-friendship, but now he accused me of having an affair, and that he saw me several times with him in different places. I did not deny it, but I only kept it in the right form- Friendship ONLY. I discovered he was opening my credit card bills and checking my phone and laptop when I’m asleep all of that without my permission. He also forced me to give him my Email password! Recently, he asked me for my twitter account info, and D-Art Gallery site which I refused, because it contains private business matters. I’m tired of being controlled based on false accusations and imagination. So, I decided to leave him again but this time i have a strong desire for a divorce. He claims he was doing all of that to protect me, but I hate being controlled like a child. If he does not trust me, then what is the point of our marriage? I really love him, and he sent me an email saying that he's arranging a metting with our pastor and waiting for my respond, but I’m stuck I want him, but I do not want to be controlled anymore- I need him to trust me, and also let me live the way I want as long as I did not do anything wrong or immoral.
