I want to know why i m so addicted in abuse relationship, i v been in this kind all my life, but now i m still with a guy similar way, he abused about my age, means i m too old for him, also calling me prostitute sometimes, but i just do not know how to end this thing, still talk to him etc, i even do not understand myself,....I need help and wisdom in this matter...
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I have been in numerous abusive relationships myself. The last being the worse.
In my case, I was easily taken by their sweet-talking ways and then after they got me hooked, that's when they turned into a complete different person.
Abusive people can be sweet-talkers. They can sweep you off your feet just by a few words or a certain look. They know how to play the game and they know how to play it well. They seek out someone who is vulnerable to their actions for that's the easiest one's to control.
Basically, it's a control issue with them. A power-boost. The thing I have figured out is: They have a need for control. In some cases, they feel that they have no control over their own lives, so they seek out someone to fill that void.
I once considered myself as a magnet for the opposite person of who I longed to have in my life.
They always asked me when first dating what I wanted out of a relationship and of course, I told them all things I desired and they took that and ran with it. Put on the act of "Mr. Right" and then after getting my heart they went back to being "Mr. Wrong"
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es!!
In my case, I was easily taken by their sweet-talking ways and then after they got me hooked, that's when they turned into a complete different person.
Abusive people can be sweet-talkers. They can sweep you off your feet just by a few words or a certain look. They know how to play the game and they know how to play it well. They seek out someone who is vulnerable to their actions for that's the easiest one's to control.
Basically, it's a control issue with them. A power-boost. The thing I have figured out is: They have a need for control. In some cases, they feel that they have no control over their own lives, so they seek out someone to fill that void.
I once considered myself as a magnet for the opposite person of who I longed to have in my life.
They always asked me when first dating what I wanted out of a relationship and of course, I told them all things I desired and they took that and ran with it. Put on the act of "Mr. Right" and then after getting my heart they went back to being "Mr. Wrong"
's and es!!
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The problem is, as a abused victim, so easy to go for "sweet words"....it seems "sweet words"v comforting and couseling the heart , also let me feel I m with some value. so as a person lacking self confidence, finally be cheated by sweet words.
I still can not discern truth and make clear decision,I hope God can help me more and more....
I still can not discern truth and make clear decision,I hope God can help me more and more....
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I'm praying for you beloved,
one thing that really rung in my head was that if you keep going for the same type of guy ( believe me - been there done that) ask yourself what he is bringing to ur relationship or what do you feel that you are lacking and he is bringing to fill that gap.
Overall you need respect, you need someone who treats you as his princess - if they don't treat you with the respect which you deserve they aren't worth it at all. Someone calling you a prostitute and teasing you about your age in a malicious way is not respect, its harmful and abusive and will have a detrimental affect on your idea of self worth and self esteem.
- Shaz
one thing that really rung in my head was that if you keep going for the same type of guy ( believe me - been there done that) ask yourself what he is bringing to ur relationship or what do you feel that you are lacking and he is bringing to fill that gap.
Overall you need respect, you need someone who treats you as his princess - if they don't treat you with the respect which you deserve they aren't worth it at all. Someone calling you a prostitute and teasing you about your age in a malicious way is not respect, its harmful and abusive and will have a detrimental affect on your idea of self worth and self esteem.
- Shaz
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