I feel horrible for what Im thinking.
My dh and I have decided to foster to adopt, we went through classes and had the homsetudy done very fast and decided the LORD wanted us to foster until adoptive kids were available. Well we got 3 great siblings to foster for a few months. We have had them for just over 2 months now and expect them to go back home again in about another 2 months.
We had them psych eval since they were in their 5th foater home with us since june and were removed from the home under violent circumstances with their dad. Well the lady that did the eval was to check for who it all was on them and to see if they needed counseling for it. She dx them (the 2 older ones baby not as effected) with post tramatic stress disorder. Which is a given with what they went through. Well she alos dx te oldest a boy with mild mental retardation. Now I work with mentally challenged as my job so I am familier with it, I work with more profound and autistic or CP. But I was side blinded by this. At first I was angry that she would dx this knowing the kids had a language barrier which makes understanding harder. But after the dx I have been watching him and remembering things I had wondered about him that was slightly off in behavior that the others, but I was thinking more along add but he can focus well. So now I am thinking maybe he is. But I feel ashamed to admit this, I am pushing to get him retested through the school system for a more accurate dx, but there are times I see it might be possible, and I cant admitt it to anyone. I feel like i am letting him down by admitting it and I feel like others who know us will think maybe I am a bad foster mom. there is so much that has us all questing it, he does think well and when he finally understands he holds iteven showed his sister some things the other day, and surprises us with knowing things or fuguring out things on his own, but then is always asking questions an ddoesnt understand any concept of time finds the words chicken and cow and coconut tree to be the funniest words and uses them in everything even singing.
I just had to get this out to someone, and cant admit it to anyone on the home front.
My dh and I have decided to foster to adopt, we went through classes and had the homsetudy done very fast and decided the LORD wanted us to foster until adoptive kids were available. Well we got 3 great siblings to foster for a few months. We have had them for just over 2 months now and expect them to go back home again in about another 2 months.
We had them psych eval since they were in their 5th foater home with us since june and were removed from the home under violent circumstances with their dad. Well the lady that did the eval was to check for who it all was on them and to see if they needed counseling for it. She dx them (the 2 older ones baby not as effected) with post tramatic stress disorder. Which is a given with what they went through. Well she alos dx te oldest a boy with mild mental retardation. Now I work with mentally challenged as my job so I am familier with it, I work with more profound and autistic or CP. But I was side blinded by this. At first I was angry that she would dx this knowing the kids had a language barrier which makes understanding harder. But after the dx I have been watching him and remembering things I had wondered about him that was slightly off in behavior that the others, but I was thinking more along add but he can focus well. So now I am thinking maybe he is. But I feel ashamed to admit this, I am pushing to get him retested through the school system for a more accurate dx, but there are times I see it might be possible, and I cant admitt it to anyone. I feel like i am letting him down by admitting it and I feel like others who know us will think maybe I am a bad foster mom. there is so much that has us all questing it, he does think well and when he finally understands he holds iteven showed his sister some things the other day, and surprises us with knowing things or fuguring out things on his own, but then is always asking questions an ddoesnt understand any concept of time finds the words chicken and cow and coconut tree to be the funniest words and uses them in everything even singing.
I just had to get this out to someone, and cant admit it to anyone on the home front.
there's one and a prayer. God bless
