I need to get help

[servant4ever]

Hello everybody,

I don't know if this is the right place for it or not, but here it goes. I realize I need help to forgive people (I am a totally unforgiving person of others and myself). I am also deceptive to a lot of people. This one person I was deceptive to a lot and I confessed this to him tonight and he is taking it hard. I told him I had demons in me and he tried to cast htem out of me and I just pretended there were demons in me and they were talking to him. I am also really selfish. I always think of myself. My final thing I really need help in is anger. I get angry really easy and fast. My whole life is a total mess and I need to get help so I don't ruin all my friendships. I think I lost one of my best friends and it hurts so bad. I am too stupid and I don't think before I do things.

servant4ever

 

[Tavita]

Hi servant4ever,

Have you committed your life to Jesus yet? And repented of these things? He's the only one who can help you clean your life. It's only at the cross that you'll be cleansed.. in the Blood of the Lamb.


(1Pe 1:16) because it is written, "YOU SHALL BE HOLY, FOR I AM HOLY."

(1Pe 1:17) If you address as Father the One who impartially judges according to each one's work, conduct yourselves in fear during the time of your stay on earth;

(1Pe 1:18) knowing that you were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers,

(1Pe 1:19) but with precious blood, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless, the blood of Christ.

 

[servant4ever]

Yes, I am a born again Christian. I received Christ when I was 12 years old. But, I do admit there are times when I seriously wonder if I am truly a Christian. I have prayed about this. My life is so messed up I need to get help about this stuff now before it totally ruins my life.

servant4ever

 

[vinc]

I don't know if this is the right place for it or not, but here it goes.
This could be the right place.

I realize I need help to forgive people (I am a totally unforgiving person of others and myself).
To tell the Truth, it is really difficult sometimes for any of us to forgive another person. We are able to forgive many shortcomings and sins of others easily. But, certain sins of others may make us to take time before we can forgive him/her. We need to seek the help of God (who is Divine Love Himself) in making us forgive another. If we read all the related Scripture Verses from the Bible on the Topic of Forgiveness and meditate upon them, then, we are bound to get some strength to be able to forgive another. If we read the examples of so many people (mainly Lord Jesus Christ) who forgave others who persecuted them, we are comforted and encouraged to forgive others just like them. BTW it is a good thing that you have realized that you are an unforgiving person. I think realizing about one's carnal self is also part of spiritual growth. Because only after then we shall try to overcome our carnal self one by one.

I am also deceptive to a lot of people. This one person I was deceptive to a lot and I confessed this to him tonight and he is taking it hard.
You need not have informed to him at all. You need to inform to God about your deceptive attitude, repent sincerely and seek forgiveness from Him alone and stop being deceptive in the future. Thatz it. We may aggrevate the situation by innocently confessing to that person (Retribution does not work towards good in every case). Every person does not have the same understanding capability or spiritual growth to take it coolly and forgive (even though they may be born-again and water-baptized christians).

I told him I had demons in me and he tried to cast htem out of me and I just pretended there were demons in me and they were talking to him.
Its normal to say that way even though there may be no demons inside a person. Hope those words will help that person in forgiving you.

I am also really selfish. I always think of myself.
Who isn't selfish. Everyone of us have got a "carnal self" in us which we are trying to overcome. I am happy and appreciate that you have that realization for that is good. When we see all such carnal nature in us we even start doubting whether we are true christians or not and how far are we progressing spiritually. But, ideally we ought to endure until all such carnal attitudes in us become visible to us and finally get crucified within us so that such carnal attitudes no longer remain in us. Some carnal attitudes like Anger may take a longer time to die in us. We think the moment we accept Christ into our hearts we become holy saints. That is not true. It is then that our Lord God will start to work in us in order to show our carnal attitudes and help us to overcome them during our lifespan.

My final thing I really need help in is anger. I get angry really easy and fast.
There are some who are short-tempered and there are some who are extremely cool in all situations and slow to get angry. This is a natural trait of that person. And if anyone's life is in a mess, s(he) is bound to get angry soon for no reason also. Glad to know that you have realized this personality of yours also. Most short-tempered people do not bear grudges afterwards (you must have heard the proverbs a barking dog seldom bites). It is just that they remove the heat out of their system just like a volcano ejects out the lava and then remain cool.

My whole life is a total mess and I need to get help so I don't ruin all my friendships. I think I lost one of my best friends and it hurts so bad. I am too stupid and I don't think before I do things.
Sometimes our lives are in a mess because of the decisions that we had taken in the past. And it really hurts and pains us to the core. Our life is usually in a mess until God sets it right. I remember a Bible verse which says, "In His time, He makes all things beautiful". God is sure to clear our mess and make it beautiful in His time. We need to exercise patience and trust in Him to see through our difficulties and mess.

What you are going through is what every christians (or maybe even non-christians) pass through (and have passed thru) in their lives on earth. All these are spiritually good experiences for us.

I appreciate the bitter remorse in you which is clearly evident in your post. I am sure your spirit is alright in the sight of God. The only thing is that you need to exercise patience and trust in Him and seek His help in sorting out the mess. Maybe you may have to take a few steps in order to set right the mess in your life one by one trusting in Him to help you when you take the steps. God may help you directly (or indirectly through people) as you set your mind and/or work towards clearing the mess.

There is another good quote i remember "Life's reverses are only to jet us forward".

Lord be with you, guide you and bless you.

 

[chanis]

have you tried speaking with your pastor and being compelty honest about everything? It's gonna be hard and he might say somet harsh things but you know what it's all to help you...

 

[HomeBound]

There is a promise to you that once a good work is started in you, he will continue that work until his return.