I need some professional help

[abrienda7]

When I say professional I mean someone who can tell me exactly what to do with the assurance that it will work!!!
I need to build up self-confidence and self-respect!!!
And not try to modify myself every time I fall for a guy, thinking he wouldn't like me if I stay myself!
And stop thinking that I can't get the guys I like cause for some reason I’m not good enough for them!
I’m really pretty, people have many times told me I should get into modeling or something, and there's always someone hitting on me, and every time I was drunk enough to try to seduce someone: I’ve always got the guy, and I’m intelligent, and I’m fun and cheerful, and interesting, and complex but in a good way!
But being sort of aware of all this, it doesn't help me get out of this really annoying state of mind!
It’s like I’m aware of it, but it's like an outer body experience when I say these nice things!
In practice I can't feel it nor enjoy it!
And that's all I want!!
There were times when I felt really great about myself, the way I should, the way we all should, but that was a long time ago, and short lived!
Please, someone, anyone, tell me what to do?

 

[tapero]

Hi there,

Are you seeing a professional for help? It sounds like that might be a good course of action.

Blessings,
tapero

 

[madison1101]

Therapy involves work. A good cognitive therapist will give homework. The only way it will work is if the homework is done, and worked on regularly.

Are you in therapy now? It has helped me tremendously. I strongly encourage you to look into it if you are not already.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[restore]

I listened a sermon today, there is a short story inside, a husband would eave home for 2 weeks,he let two big dogs to protect the house and wife and kids. when he back, his wife told him:"u will never know what have happened...."
"there is a little dog from neighbour, each day came to this house garden, and jumped here and there, it believed itself belonging here, the two dogs tried v hard to drive it away, biting , and chasing it etc. But the second day, the little dog came again, still jumping and walking like at its own home. The two dogs still tried v hard to drive it away, just could not.The third day, the little dog came again, the two big dogs ran away to hide under basement."

I m from a v hard childhood and lack self respect too, still trying, but this story let me know that, the real enemy is myself, I should just never mind how others see me, I just need to lift higher my head and jump in to the garden, and walk.

 

[njcl]

my dear every man and woman puts on a act when they meet somebody they like,i do,you do,your next door neighbour does else if they saw the real us with its warts and all they would no doubt run a mile,we try to convey assurence and confidence,for most there nervous as anything because there trying to impress the prospective partner hoping they will capture them,what happens usually after 2 years of marriage?,love settles down into a more sensible pace with honesty because by then they have dropped their guards and feel fine with each others imperfections,think you are suffering a self worth issue but hey so am i,sooooo