I need some input here. And prayers.

[Warrior for Jesus]

Ok, let me just start off and say, I am not married and I'm pregnant. My life was going ok and then wham. I didn't see it coming.

BTW, if you don't know, I'm Catholic. Sex without the blessing of a marriage is a big mortal sin, and I know that. But so is birth control. And 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I think maybe, but not for sure, that he and I will be married within the next 2 years, but we have to get some issues solved first.

I'm 43, and working at a dead end job, but I am volunteering on my days off to learn another job. I hope that pans out before the little one is born.

I know I should just put my trust in the Lord and pray for His assistance to help everything that I have messed up work out. He can do miracles, I've heard.

I guess I have not been able to keep my emotions in check. I get in arguements from my boss almost daily. Would not be surprised if I get fired. That would be a laugh as I am one of the hardest working people he has.

I guess I'm just spouting here because I have no one else I can spout off too. I'm wanting to talk seriously with the father of my soon to be child (8 months is rather soon to me). He keeps finding reasons not to talk. Please pray for us.

 

[Blynn]

Moved to prayer forum.



Warrior for Jesus,


I will pray for you.



God bless you
Roberta

 

[StogusMaximus]

Praying.

 

[Christi]

Praying for you. I have a friend this happened to, and things have worked out beautifully for her....she put all her trust in God, her church family gathered around her in support and love, and she has a beautiful 6 month old daughter that is loved by so many. It's almost like everyone in the church shares her! God has been with her every step of the way, as He will you. If you want to PM me sometime, I'll tell you the whole story. It makes me cry everytime I think of the Christ-like people she is blessed to have in her life.

 

[Messenger]

I'll pray for you. Children are truely blessings from God! I have a friend who's son is almost 5 now. She is Catholic and was never married. She still goes to the church with her son who's father has not been around. The little boy is going to be starting the Catholic School. She I'm sure was nervous at first but would never change what happened for anything. Her son is truely a blessing. Don't worry too much it will all work out. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I will pray that it goes well. Love and God Bless

 

[Redeemed1]

Warrior, I'll be praying for you. God has a plan for you, and a plan for your child. I pray that His will for you in this situation will become clear to you, and that you will find a resting place in His sovereignty, His love, His forgiveness, and His grace.

 

[ZiSunka]

Praying.

Don't forget to go to God with this yourself directly, if you haven't already. He is faithful to forgive everything we repent. You've already admited to yourself that you sinned, you might as well admit it to Him, too.

God can make everything work out more wonderfully than we imagine.

Don't think that you have to marry the baby's father just because he is the father. Most catholic churches are very accepting of unmarried mothers these days, especially after confession and reconcilliation has taken place. One woman I know found the church to be a haven for her, forgiving and supportive.

God bless you with a healthy, well-loved child!

 

[soulsisterclaire]

The same happened to me. Now I have a beautiful 9 month old daughter named Zoe(means life in greek) She has been the best thing to have happened to me in a long time. God used her as a means to get my attention back to Him. I have re-dedicated my life to Him. I was saved as a teenager, later backslid which resulted eventually in my getting pregnant with my now 12 year old daughter, Jasmine. (Yes I have a problem with my flesh!) Both of my children are blessings. I would not change anything. I do regret my sin, but my children are not the result of my sin, they are a blessing from God. You must remember that. Children are a blessing.

What I am trying to say, is you will be blessed for doing the right thing in the end. Ask God to forgive to you, He will. Do not judge yourself harshly, just repent and go on to do God's Will, and not your own. Do not let others look down on you. Do not feel less than. EVERYBODY sins! Your sin is no worse than anybody else's.

I agree with the other posts in that you should not get married just because you are pregnant. That is not a reason to get married. Both of my children's fathers are not around. My eldest's father never was, although I do receive Child support from him, that is all. No contact, and that has been fine with me and Jasmine. Zoe's father has a drug problem, he is trying to stay clean, but not managing it very well. I have been waiting on him for 9 years to come around with no luck(pray for him). Still it is easier for me to not have to deal with their fathers. The only hard part is the money issues. But those get better with time. One thing I would say is no matter what, do not talk bad about the father to the child, this gives the child self-esteem problems. I have always told Jasmine that her father is just not capable or mature enough to deal with a child, that it is not her fault or his, that is just the way it is. Life is not fair, who said it would be?

Do not despair! Please PM or e-mail me and we can talk about it. It is not as bad or as hard as it all seems. Really. You need encouragment, I am here for you. I will pray for you and your baby.

Sorry for the long personal post. I get excited sometimes.

Praise God!

 

[forjesus]

I PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR UNBORN CHILD, TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND LEAN NOT UNTO YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING, IN ALL THY WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AND HE WILL DIRECT THY PATHS, PROVERBS 3; 5,6

 

[Avila]

Praying! Now, more than ever, you need the support of your faith family (online and IRL), so don't give up!!!

 

[HisLamb]

Warrior, I'm praying for all three of you. And congratulations on that blessed new life you are carrying. It may not seem like congrats are in order under the circumstances, but this babe is a gift from God, and He never gives us something bad. I pray you will work something out with the father, but I agree that you shouldn't get married just because you are pregnant unless there is love and commitment there between you.

 

[Mandy]

I am praying for you.

 

[pax]

I'll be praying for you.

Peace be with you......

 

[GraftMeIn]

saying a prayer for you now Warrior.