Hello, I need some help. I am a very confused teen with horrible memories of a violent home. I have been miserable the past few years and have been near suicide many times, but something held me back. I don't know what it was; maybe it was my fear of pain; maybe it was my fear of going to hell; or maybe it was that I knew somewhere in my heart, no matter how religiously confused I was at the time, that I knew the truth somewhere. Somewhere. I think that I am beginning to find my way again, however, I need help. I have read this website a few times, and the people are really nice. Which is why (I finally get to the point, lol) that I would like your support. I have been all over the internet recently researching the rapture, and it is my belief that the day is growing near. I am struggling with my faith for a few reasons, because of questions that I have. The one that bothers me the most, is that I am gay. I do not want to be. I realize that God did not intend for it to be this way. However, and though I realize many people will disagree with me, but I did not choose this. I believe, though I could be wrong when I say this, but I believe that it is not wrong to be homosexual, however, it is wrong to commit acts of homosexuality. Is it okay to be homosexual and just remain celebate? The reason why I am so bothered by this is because I have heard that homosexuals can't get into heaven, however, I didn't choose it. If this is true, and I can't get into heaven, why is it so? I didn't choose it. I try to be a good person. I try to resist the temptation of homosexuality and remain celebate. (If you answer any question, please answer that one) My next question is, why are women degraded? I believe that all, including women, are equal, so why does the bible degrate women and say they must obey their husbands? What makes the husband the one in control? Another question is, if there are parts of the world where people never hear about God and Jesus, why are they given eternal damnation if they never even hear about him? It is something that is beyond their control. I thank you for your time, all of you on this website have given me hope that I may be able to make it through this life in one piece. Thank you.
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I need some help
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cyberwing
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Welcome to you, StaindSoUL21! I'm very glad you are here at CF! Now as to your other questions, I think you should understand, Jesus LOVES you!!! Our precious Jesus loves you so much He has reached out and touched your heart! That is why you have come seeking with an open mind instead of an argument in your heart. If you willfully choose homosexuality OVER Jesus then yes, you wouldn't belong to Him. But DEAR precious lamb, you are NOT doing this. You have recognized you have sin in your life. (Sin can be overcome too with Jesus' help!) Guess what? Sin is sin and I'll never throw stones at you because I have sin in MY life that HE has forgiven me for!!! That is the first step to reaching out to Him and being forgiven and becoming HIS, a desire to change and be what JESUS wants you to be!
I would be more than happy to help you if I can. I don't have all the answers but I sure do know WHO DOES!!! Jesus is the most awesome and wonderful friend any of us could ever ask for. HE is our soon coming Bridegroom! HE is our Counselor! HE is WONDERFUL!
I knew a young man struggling with this problem because of an abusive creep called his father. This man went to church every Sunday but beat and belittled his children every other moment of the week. 'Ye shall know my followers by their fruit.' AHEM.....
His son turned to the gay lifestyle because he was so starved for a father's love! Perhaps this sounds familiar? Anyway, after he contracted AIDS no one wanted anything to do with him and suddenly his gay friends shunned him. It was his Christian Brothers and Sisters that would hug him, we didn't care if he had AIDS, we aren't afriad of a disease from the enemy, it will not harm us. 'If ye eat or drink anything poisonous it shall not harm you.' So I ask you, who loved this young man more?? Who bore the right fruit to be called Jesus' servants?
Precious lamb, we have all fallen short of the glory of God. I struggle with sin in my life too. I'm just a sinner, climbing the same ladder you are! My Lord has been so good to me, I am strengthened enough to perhaps reach down for a few that are just starting and help them gain a rung. If you start to think you are so much better than everyone else, I have found you need to stop and look around yourself, because pride may have blinded your eyes to the truth of your OWN faults.
Remember, man is full of weakness and sin. ALL mankind falls short of the glory of God so do not set any man on a pedestal, always ALWAYS keep your eyes on Jesus, the Christ. It is only HE that is the Messiah! {{{big cyber-hug}}}
~Cyberwing
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StaindsoUL21,
In reference to your questions that you asked in your post, As said above there are several different forums that you can go to and post the same questions.
In regards to the homosexuality, the Sexuality & Christianity forum is sorta off limits to you since you are under 18. But, you could post in the men's or guy's forum freely.
The depression can be addressed in the Forum for Struggles, Depression and Recovery. I post there regularly and will help in any way I can.
As far as the subject of women being degraded, you could post in the womens forum and post freely there.
I hope that this is of some help to you...Any questions or concerns, PM me, All right ? God Bless
In reference to your questions that you asked in your post, As said above there are several different forums that you can go to and post the same questions.
In regards to the homosexuality, the Sexuality & Christianity forum is sorta off limits to you since you are under 18. But, you could post in the men's or guy's forum freely.
The depression can be addressed in the Forum for Struggles, Depression and Recovery. I post there regularly and will help in any way I can.
As far as the subject of women being degraded, you could post in the womens forum and post freely there.
I hope that this is of some help to you...Any questions or concerns, PM me, All right ? God Bless
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hey, welcome
in answer to one of your questions at least if the people suffer eternal damnation for not having heard the word of god, then it's our fault for not having told them
have a look around and enjoy your time here!
in answer to one of your questions at least if the people suffer eternal damnation for not having heard the word of god, then it's our fault for not having told them
have a look around and enjoy your time here!
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Welcome to christian forums I'm glad you found this site, it is a safe place for you to be. You have come with quite an array of dufficulties and you obviously need some answers. I can't tell you about your homosexuality, I really do not understand it, your so young, but to my way of thinking if your not acting on these impulses then don't start now. If you have been saved then what you need to do first is get to know Jesus, he will help you figure it all out, one step at a time, one day at a time. Just as Christ loved the church and s the head of the church so he put man to be head of the home; in the biblical way of thinking a woman is not to be lower than a man, just a loving partner with him, He is held accountable to God for his decisions in the marriage, and you are accountable to him, he is your partner. The world has changed so much in the 30+ years I've been a christian, that is why we are where we are today, Gods plans for relationships and marriages have all been re arranged by men and the whole structure of the family has been destroyed, thus this is what we have, dysfunctional family's non existant parents and youth fumbling around in the dark. Please learn the word of God, let Jesus be your very best friend and just give all these fears and problems to the lord, lay them down, go ahead, it's just that eays, now leave them there and let Jesus love you., you will not be dissappointed. He has brought you this far, He will not let you go now, you just need to trust Him. Easier said then done I'm afraid, but that is how you grow in the Lord. I will pray for you and talk to you whenever you need to talk,so stay with us, and stay in Jesus. Goid Bless you little one, and you are right Jesus is coming soon. Molly
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