I Need some help with trust..

[cnewman]

Hi,

Only recently Have I given my heart to the lord and accepted him into my life.

I have been with the same girl for 4 years. Over this time I have not been faitfull to her. I have now accepted the lord into my life. I Know what i have done wrong. I want to be with the girl for the rest of my life, and i want to marry her.

I want to know if by me accepting the lord into my life, He forgets about the past. I dont want to tell my girlfried that i have been unfailthfull.

What I am asking is advice on what you think I should do?

Any help will be great
Thanks

 

[VivDaGurl]

Only recently Have I given my heart to the lord and accepted him into my life.

Welcome to the family of God!

I want to know if by me accepting the lord into my life, He forgets about the past.

We should confess our sins to the Lord and ask for His forgiveness. The Lord will forget what you had done that is wrong and will not hold any account on you. Repenting from your sins is very important.

I have been with the same girl for 4 years. Over this time I have not been faitfull to her. I have now accepted the lord into my life. I Know what i have done wrong. I want to be with the girl for the rest of my life, and i want to marry her.

I dont want to tell my girlfried that i have been unfailthfull.

I'm very, very happy for your girlfriend that you have the intention of marrying her one day. When two persons come together as a couple, both has to be truthful to one another. You shouldn't hide your wrong doing from her and you should actually communicate and let her know.

Pray and commit this to the Lord. Ask Him to show you when is the best time to let her know. Pray and ask God to prepare her heart before you tell her. When the right time comes, pray and ask God to give you the wisdom so that you will be able to speak to her in such a way where she will not be badly hurt. Pray and ask God to help her to forgive you as well.

I will pray along with you...God bless!

 

[jesus_frea[k]]

Psalm 103
11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
12 as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

 

[sandman]

The saints above me have already answered your one question with the Word now I will give you my opinion …it is only that. I would not consider this advice just opinion.



As stated above God not only forgives you for all your past failings He forgets them also unfortunately as humans we can only forgive. Now I agree with VivdaGurl and on the other hand I have my opinion. Communication is paramount in a relationship as is honesty and integrity. With that said here comes my opinion and it is somewhat of a two part question.

When you accepted Christ your sins were washed clean you were justified {just as if you never sinned} Can you take what you have done and put it behind you? Or is it going to bother you? Is it going to bother you to the point that if you didn’t tell her now, but some time down the road you would feel guilty and tell her. Basically what I am saying is, do you need her forgiveness also to feel cleansed, or do you feel that God has done a good enough job and you can let it go, put it behind you, forgive yourself. If your answer is yes it’s going to bother you, then you need to tell her before you get married.

As I stated I will not offer you advice because every situation is different. You are the one who needs to make that decision, you and only you.

The underline effects of telling her come to mind and I would be remiss if I didn’t let you know them also. As I stated as humans we can forgive but not forget, once you let her know {assuming she forgives you now} she will not forget either, and there could be the seed of distrust planted in her mind which could haut you later on in your marriage.

I should also let you know that most likely it is not going to make a difference to your gf that you were unfaithful before you accepted Christ. The only distinction involved is the fact that your slate was wiped clean you’re a new person in Christ; you were in a relationship and you knew what you were doing was being unfaithful.

Now I would never advocate people being less then completely honest within the marriage relationship and I don’t want to give the impression that honesty is not the best policy. The line of demarcation her is the fact that you are a new creature in Christ old things are passed away….II Cor 5:17 What do we say to that …yes… but, you were wrong you need to come clean. I can’t advise that nor can I advise against that. I can advise that if she asks, you be nothing less then honest with her.

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God bless

sandman

 

[issa]

I'm very, very happy for your girlfriend that you have the intention of marrying her one day. When two persons come together as a couple, both has to be truthful to one another. You shouldn't hide your wrong doing from her and you should actually communicate and let her know.

Pray and commit this to the Lord. Ask Him to show you when is the best time to let her know. Pray and ask God to prepare her heart before you tell her. When the right time comes, pray and ask God to give you the wisdom so that you will be able to speak to her in such a way where she will not be badly hurt. Pray and ask God to help her to forgive you as well.

I will pray along with you...God bless!

i agree. you are blessed to have a prayer partner, take heart. with God on your side, you can be sure that everything works out for the good of all.

it will not be easy and feelings will be hurt, it will take time to heal. but trust Him on this. little by little we learn to trust all aspects of our life to the all-powerful God who made us with so much love.