I need some hardcore advice!

[treegirl2011]

My friend is anorexic and a cutter and I really wanna help her but I don't know how. I've told some adults and they did nothing but talk to her and it made things worse. She's always in my prayers, but isn't there something more I can do? I am so scared! I know how she feels because I've been in her exact some boat...but God helped me out and she goes to Youth but doesn't really take any of it seriously! What should I do?

 

[Soulwings]

Kudos to you for being such a supportive friend. She is lucky to have a friend like you.

I think the best thing that you can do in this case is support her. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs to talk. Support is very important, as I'm sure you know, and since you've been in the same situation she knows you can empathise and understand completely.

If you or your friend need anyone to talk with, I'm here, via PM, email, or IM. God bless you and may He give His strength and peace to your friend.

 

[meh]

You did the best thing you could do which was tell an adult. That was probably scary, and I'm really proud of you for doing that. I'm sure it helps your friend to know that someone understands what she is going through. Since we can't force anyone to stop doing something or force them to get help, I'd say just continue to be an avenue of support for her, and continue praying for her.

 

[berry2000]

Besides praying, which you say you are already doing being a friend she can talk to about her struggles is huge for a cutter. Having a safe person who she can share what she is going through is so helpful. Even just having a friend that will listen to her feelings in general could help alleviate some of the pain. You could also tell her about us so she could come and post here. Would she consider seeing a counselor?

 

[TheMainException]

Alright, you can't go around telling every adult til you find one that understands and helps her, right? Then the world would end up knowing...so...not a working plan. Prayer, great, but i do believe that God helps those who helps themselves (when such things are possible...cancer patients can only be hopeful)...but SI is hard, as you know, to get over and stop. I've been done for almost a year now, but I still get urges to do so. I think the only thing you can do is support her. This is NOT your fight. You fought yours, and as much as it hurts you to see her this way, it's not up to you to go into battle for her. You need to let her work on this, you need to support her and be a support for her, listen to her pain and then pass it on to God. Don't hold it in, cause that could lead to more trouble for her. Always tell her that you love her, always tell her that God loves her. God will work with her when the time is right, he's got his plan laid out on the table for her and he'll move when the time lines up. Just be patient, and even if it feels like nothing will ever happen, wait and pray. He'll listen to his children.

 

[Cat59]

You are doing all the right things, as others have said. Just be aware that at the end of the day, this is her battle and although you can offer support and help, she may be at a stage where she's not ready to accept it or take it. But don't despair or fret that you are doing anything wrong, you are there for her as a friend, not a therapist or counsellor or pastor. Offer her love and support when she hurts and if she seems receptive, point her in the way of leaders in Youth or church that may be able to help.
*hugs* for you for doing an awesome job as a friend!

 

[the_box_of_giggles]

you're doing all you can. pray for her, and if shes ( and you are) with her. make sure she knows you're there. find an adult you know will help her, or be able to get her professional help.