I need some advice?

[JamieDR]

I was sexually abused when I was 10 to 11 years old, I'd known the man his name was Luke all my life he had never seemed creepy or anything wrong with him. Then one day he just took whatever problems he had out on me, although I'm still not sure what I did wrong to him to make him punish me in that way, but I hear on TV shows and supposed 'experts' saying things like those who have been sexualy abused in childhood are likely to grow up to be paedophiles themselvs. I have a 3 year old daughter I absolutely do not have any sexual feelings towards her or any children for that matter, and I'd never do anything to hurt her but if those people are right is it possible I could just change just like Luke did? And if so what can I do now to protect my little girl? Can my faith in God protect her and will it be enough to keep any evil impulses away?

I have noticed there have been a few views of this but nobody has replied can somebody atleast try to help me? :/

 

[Laurilee]

Not sure I can help you but I am wondering if your friend Luke did always have these kinds of feelings without anyone knowing. I don't know how old you are but I would have thought that by now, you would have known if you were going to feel such things. I believe that if you have no desire to sin, and have faith and trust in God, then you will be OK. But I am no expert. Whatever feelings any of us have that are wrong, we do not have to give in to them when we know they are wrong. Sorry I can't offer any more than that but you deserve a reply. God bless you.

 

[mjmcmillan]

In the meantime, don't borrow trouble ahead of time. You worry that you might turn into a monster--- it may not happen. Then, you would have wasted that time worrying yourself sick over something that doesn't happen.

DO take this concern to God. It's not for nothing that God says to bring all our cares to Him, and He is certainly able to handle this so it never happens the way you fear it might.

 

[Johnnz]

You seem to have a good heart. There is nothing inevitable about you offending. That's not part of who you are no want what you want for your life. Live confidently in the freedom and wholeness that Jesus gives to you.

John
NZ

 

[babychrist]

Jamie,

I don't know what to say to make you feel better. In addition to what others have said, about asking God to protect you and your little girl, maybe it would be helpful to see a counselor about this. Someone whom you can confide in and on whom you can unload your anxieties. If you go this route, try to find a counselor whose also Christian. Even a close friend might be the answer.

You'll be in my prayers.

BC

 

[clep]

He wasn't punishing you, he was gratifying himself. It wasn't about you, it was about him.

I was sexually abused and have two children, twenty and seven years old. I have never had the tendency to be a pedophile. I am a living example that the "experts" are wrong. I believe more parents are overprotective and or permissive when they have been abused.

Luke always had something wrong with him, he just hid it well. He didn't turn into a pedophile overnight, just like you aren't going to.

I don't see how you have to protect your little girl. You would know if something was wrong. I don't think you would let it get to the point of abuse.

I admire your need to protect your child, but it seems unwarranted to me.

 

[puregrl]

I can tell you love your little girl. And yes if a person was abused in any way as a child they are likely to do it to their kids themselves, this is according to statistics. But it does not say 100%, does not say it will happen, does not say that no matter what you do you will abuse your child to. It says according to statistics. Statistics are nothing, they are no prediction for you. You make your own path and you seem to have chosen the right one, just keep walking down it. Nothing says you will do it, so dont worry about what others have done, they dont decide your future. You do.