i need some advice...

[flyingangels]

i need some advice. my step dad has been verbaly abusing me. i have tried to talk to him but he would just get angry at me. i need to know what to do. he has never hit me.

 

[luv4godremains]

don't abuse him back, try to be nice, and then, when he stops ranting, walk away, and tell him yuo'll be in your room when he is ready to talk instead of be mouthy. it sometimes worked on my Dad when I went to stay with him at the hols, I dunno, hope it helps ya! good luck
also, pray, lots, pray that he would see that what he is doing is hurting you, and learn to control himself
God bless

 

[ForgivenToo]

Is your stepdad a Christian?

If he is then you need to sit down with him and talk, pray, both of you ask God for help.

If he isn't then you need to lead by example, try not to let him upset you and pray a lot, not just for your situation, but for him and his salvation.

God Bless! and i'll be praying for you.

 

[Theresasjourney]

i need some advice. my step dad has been verbaly abusing me. i have tried to talk to him but he would just get angry at me. i need to know what to do. he has never hit me.

First Happy Birthday...;o)
He must be verbally abusive for some reason..anger issues..the way he was raised...there is some major pain there underlying that anger.
With Gods help maybe you could validate his anger when he gets that way and then ask him about his pain.
Only you know the situation totally though....but the word says that a kind word turns away wrath...I'll be praying for you.

 

[countrymouse33ad]

i need some advice. my step dad has been verbaly abusing me. i have tried to talk to him but he would just get angry at me. i need to know what to do. he has never hit me.

flyingangels, abuse is about control; please remember that. Sometimes verbal abusers do end up being violent, so be very careful. Yes, pray for your step-dad, but remove yourself from his presence when he's verbally abusive. Try not to ever show that you're upset in his presence. Meanwhile, let a trustworthy adult know what's going on, so that you have someone to talk to and someone you can go to if things get worse rather than better.

 

[flyingangels]

hey,
thanks for all your guy's agvice....it means a lot to me....i'll try praying for him....thanks

 

[DeaconDean]

i need some advice. my step dad has been verbaly abusing me. i have tried to talk to him but he would just get angry at me. i need to know what to do. he has never hit me.

Friend I wish I had the answer for you. I am 43 y/o and a long time survivor of both physical and verbal abuse. My mom told me the abuse started when I was a baby in the crib, my dad would pinch me just to get me to cry. Later on, dad would tell me things like I wasn't worth the salt God put in bread, and later on, he began to curse me out on almost a daily basis. I put up with it until I was 16 y/o and could stay out with friends until dad was either in bed or gone to work. It was really bad for me, the more he hit and verbally abused me the worse I acted out. I've been beaten with a rose bush stick, you know the kind with the thorns, i was 7 years old when this happened. I've been beaten with a garden hose, and with a 2x4. Basicly, whatever was close at hand became a weapon against me. I resented it and rebeled aginst it in the only way I knew how, becoming a wild teen. I've been to prison, been through drug rehab, and nothing helped. I became addicted to pornography because I found his magazines. Nothing worked until I put my trust in Jesus Christ. Although I carry scars and some resentment for my dad, I forgive him. My advice would be to try as hard as you can to do everything within your power to please him. If, and only if, this doesn't help, then there has to be a relative you can move in with to escape. But no matter what you do, I urge you to get out of this situation ASAP! I wouldn't want what happened to me to happen to anybody. By the way, have you told mom about this? Did it help? Please get back to me soon, I worry about you and wish only the best for you.

 

[Nashboo]

I understand EXACTLY what you are going through right now. When I was your age I too was verbally abused by my stepfather. It was a very isolating feeling having him yelling and shouting threats, while my mother sat there and had to choose between him or me. I felt torn. I wanted her to be happy, but hated the fact that I couldn't love someone that she loved. He would blame me for their issues and once he told me 'you broke up one marriage and you are about to break up another one. you make my life a living hell'. He was implying that I broke up my father and my mother's marriage which couldn't have been true. I was only 3 when that happened. He was very hurtful.
Hunny, I don't really have any great advice for you. The only thing that has remotely worked for my situation is staying out of his way. I MIGHT tell him goodmorning in passing, hello when I come home or the like, but rarely do we have a coversation. We hardly are in the same room with one another. We both act as if the other isn't there. We are both Christians and are both praying for a relationship...a healthy relationship..but so far, nothing. At least he isn't abusive anymore. The last time he was abusive was two days after my 19th birthday. It was also the FIRST time I ever stood up for myself. I actually talked back to him...but I wouldn't recommend that. It threw him for a loop and made him think 'woah..she's growing up and can have her own opinions..I'm not in control anymore'...whereas a lot of men can actually feel threatened and it will cause them more rage.

I will be praying for you....I will be praying for you hard. I know what you are going through. If you ever need or even just want to talk, PM me.

 

[The-Doctor]

Its been already mentioned about abuse escalating to physical violence. If it gets too much yes walk away but have you thought about calling the police? No one should have to put up with any form of abuse verbal or otherwise.