i posted this on another thread. on jan 6th my wife told me that in light of past issues in our marriage that i thought we had worked through that she thought we needed to spend some time apart. of course i felt like i had been stabbed in the heart. for the next 3 days i sat at work at my desk and cried almost non-stop while people walked by me and tried to console me. i spent the time when i wasn't at work begging my wife not to do this, but still crying while i begged.
i know i haven't been the easiest person to live with and i have made mistakes during our 8 yrs of marriage. on 3 different occasions things have happened where my wife questioned my faithfulness to her. i want to make this clear before i go any further. i have NEVER cheated on my wife EVER. in all 3 instances there were misunderstandings but things were turned around to make me look like the bad guy. so i took responsibility for what i knew to be the truth and thought we had made it through.
fast forward to the present and here i am. she has our 8 yr old daughter who i still get to see for short times during the week and get on the weekends while i wait for her to make a decision on whether or not to stay married to me. it's like waiting to be executed.
am i wrong to feel like i'm the one not being treated fairly right now? she denies there is another man but i'm not sure. Can someone help me with some advice? i have no clue where to go from here. i asked her about counseling but she says with her schedule she wouldn't be able to go.
i know i haven't been the easiest person to live with and i have made mistakes during our 8 yrs of marriage. on 3 different occasions things have happened where my wife questioned my faithfulness to her. i want to make this clear before i go any further. i have NEVER cheated on my wife EVER. in all 3 instances there were misunderstandings but things were turned around to make me look like the bad guy. so i took responsibility for what i knew to be the truth and thought we had made it through.
fast forward to the present and here i am. she has our 8 yr old daughter who i still get to see for short times during the week and get on the weekends while i wait for her to make a decision on whether or not to stay married to me. it's like waiting to be executed.
am i wrong to feel like i'm the one not being treated fairly right now? she denies there is another man but i'm not sure. Can someone help me with some advice? i have no clue where to go from here. i asked her about counseling but she says with her schedule she wouldn't be able to go.
