I NEED like a bizzillion accountablity partners :)

[Iwannaflyaway]

Ok heres the deal. It's a new year. I would like to work on some things. I am going to be very open because I want to stop doing these things that are separating me from God.

I have a problem with sexual sin. Although some of you may not think masturbation is a sin. i do. I would like to stop.

Secondly I have a problem with looking at pornography.

I have been recovering from sexual abuse so although it is understandable why i do this it is not OK for me to continue.

I would like accountablilty partners. I NEED accounablilty partners.

I am pretty posotive I am not the only one dealing with this stuff so if you deal with it as well i would love to be your accounablity partner. I am tierd of doing these things and feeling so much shame and then hiding from everyone including God. I woud like to be able to come here and confess. or come and share my struggles. If you like any particular verses I would love to hear them. I just need a place that will fill me up with the love of Christ intead of condemning me.

Thank you!

-Chelsey

 

[Justaman0000]

I don't think i could be a complete accountability partner because i am at the end of the same battle you are going through. While I say i am at the end I mean I have almost full self-control. While being tempted by the lust of the flesh will never cease completely because sex sales in todays world. It is eveywhere, and you can only cut yourself off from it for so long before you must face it head on. but i can give you some advice.

Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said, 'Do no commit adultery.' But i tell you that anyone who loks at a woman (or man) lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

First of all if you are just starting out, you will want to stop with the pornography. Cut yourself off from it and anything that causes you to even think about. Be faithful in prayer, and if you happen to slip and watch it again, then Fast for a full 24 hours. Deny youself from all food and water and humble yourself before God, do this everytime you slip. I even resorted to sleeping on the floor to deny myself any comfort because i felt that i did not deserve it. The master's dog sleeps on the floor not a bed (I have even kept to sleeping on the floor for other reasons now as a form of humility).

touching yourself does indeed seperate you from God because with it comes lustful thoughts. I have kept to the same method of fasting and prayer everytime i have slipped with this. Eventually you will just do it less and less. Or you will starve.

This all takes extreme effort and faith in Jesus Christ. Not everyone can just quit something imediately whether it is drugs, alcohol, or some other sort of addiction.

 

[drich0150]

If you are looking for true accountability, then find a partner you have to look in the eye. There is too much amenity here to make this an effective way to be held accountable to your actions.. Internet porn, and Internet accountability.. The problem is right after you tell your partner your doing good, you're only one or two clicks away from the very thing your fighting.

With this type of sin I found it best to be held accountable by a "real" person you have to report to, rather than an avatar and a paragraph.

 

[Mack7]

Greetings and may God bless all who read. May God bless you in being open in confessing this battle you are facing. Keep your faith in God. Stay in prayer with God concerning this. Read the Holy Scriptures, do not let the enemy make you feel guilt that would cause YOU to separate yourself from the unconditional love God has provided to us in the gift of Jesus as our personal Lord and Savior. God will never abandon us.

There is power in the name of Jesus and there is power in God's Word. You have to believe and stand on this. Seek deliverance by trusting in God. Remember it is written in Romans 10:9-11,"That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed." Amen?

Speak God's Word into your life. It is written in Psalms 31:1-3, "In thee, O Lord, do I put my trust; let me never be ashamed: deliver me in thy righteousness. Bow down thine ear to me; deliver me speedily: be thou my strong rock, for an house of defence to save me. For thou art my rock and my fortress; therefore for thy name's sake lead me, and guide me." Amen! I feel what you are going through because I was there! The Lord has taught me to stand on His Word and to speak His Word and to trust in His Word and through Jesus, all things are possible. There is power in God's Word. You can depend on it as written in Psalms 138:2, "I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou has magnified THY WORD ABOVE ALL THY NAME." Amen. Trust and be blessed.

 

[jellybean99]

Pick your vice: sex, drugs, booze, gambling, cruelty, crime, greed, deception, hatred, pride, vanity--there are others. You feed one and it gives you great pleasure. Feed it again and the desire grows; you feed it some more. Things seem under control until you run low on food. Then you think of ways to feed your vice; it usually involves another vice, another snake to feed.

Before you know it, a hungry boa has you by the throat and it won't let go. You'll do anything to feed it so it will loosen its grip. You are forced to indulge more vices like selling drugs, stolen merchandise, or your body and soul. No matter how much you feed it, the boa won't let you go and you've got snakes all over the place being fed by your family, your friends--anyone or anything you could use to feed your pet vice.

Perhaps you'll get lucky and escape its death grip and will be wise enough to answer the question, "What's wrong with the odd vice?--we only live once, after all. Then again, you might succumb to its grip and die in a gutter.

Until then, you'll continue playing with baby snakes, not realizing what they'll grow up to be until it's too late

Psalm 107:1-22

1 Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good!
His faithful love endures forever.
2 Has the Lord redeemed you? Then speak out!
Tell others he has redeemed you from your enemies.
3 For he has gathered the exiles from many lands,
from east and west,
from north and south.
4 Some wandered in the wilderness,
lost and homeless.
5 Hungry and thirsty,
they nearly died.
6 “Lord, help!” they cried in their trouble,
and he rescued them from their distress.
7 He led them straight to safety,
to a city where they could live.
8 Let them praise the Lord for his great love
and for the wonderful things he has done for them.
9 For he satisfies the thirsty
and fills the hungry with good things.
10 Some sat in darkness and deepest gloom,
imprisoned in iron chains of misery.
11 They rebelled against the words of God,
scorning the counsel of the Most High.
12 That is why he broke them with hard labor;
they fell, and no one was there to help them.
13 “Lord, help!” they cried in their trouble,
and he saved them from their distress.
14 He led them from the darkness and deepest gloom;
he snapped their chains.
15 Let them praise the Lord for his great love
and for the wonderful things he has done for them.
16 For he broke down their prison gates of bronze;
he cut apart their bars of iron.
17 Some were fools; they rebelled
and suffered for their sins.
18 They couldn’t stand the thought of food,
and they were knocking on death’s door.
19 “Lord, help!” they cried in their trouble,
and he saved them from their distress.
20 He sent out his word and healed them,
snatching them from the door of death.
21 Let them praise the Lord for his great love
and for the wonderful things he has done for them.
22 Let them offer sacrifices of thanksgiving
and sing joyfully about his glorious acts.

 

[Elijah2]

Hi Chelsey,

Welcome.

Ok heres the deal. It's a new year. I would like to work on some things. I am going to be very open because I want to stop doing these things that are separating me from God.
At 21 we always want to stop doing things that separates us from our Lord Jesus Christ, and here I am 71 years of age, and I can ask the same thing.

I have a problem with sexual sin. Although some of you may not think masturbation is a sin. i do. I would like to stop.
Any sexual immorality is sexual sin. The Bible is silent on masturbation, but when it becomes habitual, then it is immoral, and it becomes sin.

Confess, and repent it and then ask our Lord Jesus Christ send some mature Christian across your path who can help you overcome and conquer your habit.

This practice comes from the lack of love in our inner man. We are not loved, and we find it hard to express love. Masturbation is our way of expressing our hurt and offended feeling toward those people who have done this to us, and in a way it’s a self-rejection.

You do need good GOD-anointed Christian counselling through the healing ministry. I am sure there are many such ministries on the Google search engine.

Secondly I have a problem with looking at pornography.
This can also be overcomed and conquered by help from a good GOD-anointed Christian counselling through the healing ministry.

I have been recovering from sexual abuse so although it is understandable why i do this it is not OK for me to continue.
You say you are recovering from sexual abus, have you had any Christian counselling on this abuse. Have you forgiven those who have abused you? I know that it’s a very hard position to come to, but forgiveness is where healing begins, and when you can forgive and love that person who has abused you, as in accordance with His Commandments, then the life out of our eyes can begin to become rosy.

I would like accountablilty partners. I NEED accounablilty partners.
You can be accountable if you like by PM, but I do believe you need to be looking eyeball to eyeball of a mature Christian who can support you and bring you to your “inner healing”, because we carry much deep down within our “soul”, and all of that affects our heart so deeply.

I am pretty posotive I am not the only one dealing with this stuff so if you deal with it as well i would love to be your accounablity partner. I am tierd of doing these things and feeling so much shame and then hiding from everyone including God.
Shame and guilt comes from the enemy. And the enemy loves a Christian who: has deep emotional feelings of hurt, and rejection in their soul; are proud; allows their will to control their life; have many unconfessed and unrepented sins; and have unforgiveness in their heart.

I woud like to be able to come here and confess. or come and share my struggles. If you like any particular verses I would love to hear them. I just need a place that will fill me up with the love of Christ intead of condemning me.
If you are feeling condemn, then you need good GOD-anointed Christian counselling through the healing ministry.

See if you can get a copy of Neil Anderson’s “Set Free”. It has good information on how to overcome and conquer emotional, sexual, mental and spiritual captivity.

 

[BigNorsk]

You know what, I don't think it does much good to just have someone to say you screwed up again. What you actually need is belief, faith that is.

Let me explain. If you believed that if you opened one door to your house, someone was standing there ready to kill you, would you have to have an accountability partner because you keep wanting to open that door? No, you wouldn't need anyone because you have a belief and you do what you believe.

So to it is with porn. You do it because you don't really believe it is wrong. You desire it, you think about it, you actually believe it's something you like instead of something eating you and killing you.

If you get right in the head, you don't have to have some schoolmaster standing there to rap you with a ruler, as long as you keep desiring it, it doesn't really matter, you still are wrong even if you go awhile without looking.

It comes down to what do you actually believe. You do what you truly believe. We live by faith, it controls us. Setting up a law and having someone to tell when you fail again is simply a way to fail.

Marv

 

[waynebo]

I think we all need help,i'm here.

 

[Fowler]

Hey there!
I didnt mas last 47 days... But Yea its good in the end i was swallowed by doubts and fear... and yes I admit i gave up. Even worse I borke my vow... I ask God to forgive me. I start this battle again. Dont allow doubts to enter your mind.

p.s. Btw I started diary where I put down every moment of struggle. I also put down what thoughts shud be kept away. Whenever i face them just read my notes! I hope it will help ya!
Amen!

 

[faithful follower]

I am here if you need an ear or a prayer.

God bless you. You don't need condemnation; you need love and acceptance. I offer both.