I need help!

[evilemu14]

Alright, here's some background information on my problem...

- I'm an atheist and my boyfriend is a very strong Catholic
- I don't necessarily think porn is bad, though I realize any addiction is
- I have a pretty bad porn addiction

I love my boyfriend more than anything, and I want to do right by him. I am trying (and failing) at becoming Christian, but that's not what I'm here to talk about. He doesn't want me to watch porn for obvious reasons, but I cannot stop. I wouldn't mind if he looked at porn as well so he can't say 'put yourself in my shoes' and most of the Bible teachings/Catholic teachings don't really faze me as I am not Christian. I just want legitimate advice on how to stop/why I should stop looking at porn.

Please help! >< :[

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Hello and welcome to Christian Forums!

If you have any questions or need prayer or just want to talk you can always contact me.
Praying for you
http://www.christianforums.com/f47/ here you can look to other women who have the same problems has you.

God Bless,
Krissy_Cakes

Your welcome angel

 

[r035198x]

You could try seeing some professional about it.

 

[Gankutsuou]

Ah my very own girlfriend suffers from the same condition. I quickly realized after careful deliberation that she does not do it purely out of sexual dire or lust but moreso out of habit and curiosity. It is a victimless "crime" to be quite frank, and I personally feel that expressing yourself instead of confining the problem is the best course of action.

However, my answer is probably unsatisfactory because you are looking for a christian cure. Perhaps you could speak to someone at your boyfriends church anonymously?

 

[alexier]

How about letting God completely into your life - learn about all the love he gives and then deal with the addiction - if you do it the other way around you are always going to be bogged down with the crap in your life - remember you can't do anything in your own strength - its in Gods strength - you can only successfully do this if you KNOW God loves you and you are cherised (which you are) and then you can tackle the other stuff!

Welcome to the forums - Im sure you will find many people who experience similar feelings to you, after all noone is perfect
Take care and many Blessings Lexie x

 

[pilgrimgal]

Any kind of addiction can gain more and more control over your life and that alone is a reason to stop. But I agree with others here..turning your life over to God is first and then trusting him for strength, mercy, and grace to quit..but you gotta want to quit.

Thanks for sharing and welcome to the forum.

 

[FaithPrevails]

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[Johnnz]

the issues you are facing will be:

a) Your boyfriend has values related to his Christian belief. As a Catholic he will be against any sexual expression outside of marriage.

b) Christians object to porn on the basis of the general state of the porn industry itself, the presentation of sex apart from any committed relationship ie people as objects rather than persons.

c) A more fundamentalist approach sees even thinking about sexual relations with anyone apart from your spouse as forbidden lust, based on some sayings of Jesus.

d) Catholic teaching on sex tends to be more restrictive than some Protestant views (eg birth control methods) so your boyfriend may hold to such views and sees your sexual interests as very wrong, self indulgent, a misuse of a God given gift.

So, there are some very real underlying issues for both of you.

At a personal level getting free from an unhealthy sex addiction is not easy. Once awakened our sexual drive doesn't become dormant later if we want it to. Examining the reasons why you began could be helpful.

John
NZ