I need help.

[coolchicka]

I wanna be a christian again and I dont know what to do or how to come back to God! Im backslidden.







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[ozmum]

Thats wonderful.
In prayer hand yourself over to God completely.
Don't wait for a feeling .Believe that God has accepted you.
Then I suggest you go to http://www.homechurchresources.com/
and read Enrich Your Prayer Life and
Bible Studies to Do at Home .
Both available for free download or you can even request a free print copy.
The newsletters are excellent too.

Start a daily reading Bible habit.This is transforming.
Commit to at least half an hour a day.

 

[Determinedheart]

I would definitely find yourself a good church

 

[heymikey80]

I wanna be a christian again and I dont know what to do or how to come back to God! Im backslidden.

You can turn around. Head in His direction. Don't feel like you have to do it all, it's not completing the list of moral duties that makes you a Christian. It's relying on Him.

Maybe just take it step by step? Romans 6-8 has always seemed to me to be the core of this struggle for everyone.

 

[LilLamb219]

Well, we cannot MAKE ourselves into Christians or even good Christians.

What do you believe or have faith in? That's the important questions to ask yourself! Do you believe that Jesus died on the cross that should have been your death for the forgiveness of your sins? Do you believe that you are redeemed? Or do you reject those things? If you do believe, you're a Christian. If you don't believe, then maybe you can tell us why you don't believe and we can give you scriptures to show what God has done for you?

As others have posted, we all fail miserably and sin without even trying! But God turns us back to Him and gives us comfort in knowing the the work of the cross was not in vain.

 

[sandman]

The term Christian derived from, and simply means Christ-in ….which you never lost, only lost touch with.
I guess you can backslide mentally/physically…whatever…. but it’s impossible to backslide with God. Being human we sometimes have a tough time grasping Gods love and grace but the truth is…… you do have Christ in you, you are saved, and your position as Gods daughter never changed, and never will, that’s the greatness of being saved by grace; you did nothing to earn it, and nothing you do or don’t do will ever alter who and what you are in Christ.
Your walk

This backslidden feeling you have is your analyst of yourself, and your relationship with the Father, it’s your realization that your walk with God, for whatever reason, has at best been “on the stove, with the heat off”. …..This is a good realization as long as you don’t condemn yourself for it; condemnation is self defeating and it’s not from God. Remember you are righteous now! Not because of what you do or don’t do, but because of what God accomplished through His son Jesus Christ at the cross. So whether you feel righteous or not is irrelevant, the truth is you are, because you were made righteous in Christ.

Turn on the heat

I think the suggestions in the previous posts are good. Going to a good church will help with building excitement …… but it will not carry you through, which is why God continually reminds us to put on the Word, renew our minds, hide it in our heart, live it, walk it, breath it…………..Don’t become religious, but become religious about it. In other words make it part of you, of your daily life because it is what you are all about. Just as you need physical food you also need the spiritual …..the Word. If you stop eating the physical you will become weak, sickly, and eventually die ….spiritually it is no different; you’ve probably seen that.
Memorizing scripture is an excellent way to start building the word in your life. Selecting scriptures that are relevant to your life make some 3X5 cards with the scripture on them and everyday learn a new scripture, and review the ones each day that you have learned. Psalms 119:11 Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.
The heart spoken of here is the inner most part of your mind, it’s the seat of your personal life where your believing emanates from; our minds were designed to hold {retain} the Word of God
Jer 15:16 Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.

The more your put the word on in your life the more dynamic your life will become.
One more thing …..it’s not the amount of time you spend in the Word ….it’s the amount of the Word that is spent in you that will make the real difference.

 

[Criada]

God sees your heart, and He rejoices!!
Look to Jesus, read the gospels, and keep praying!

Bless you

 

[BrotherDaniel]

I wanna be a christian again and I dont know what to do or how to come back to God! Im backslidden.

Sister in Christ,

God welcomes you into His heart!

God Bless You and Your Loved Ones!

Amen!

 

[NewChildofGod]

Here is an article that may help:

Preparation for Personal Revival

Psalm 139:23-24 says, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test my thoughts. Point out anything in me that makes you sad, and lead me along the path of everlasting life" (TLB).​

Confession of sin is necessary for fellowship with God and revival among God's people. The word "confess" has as its root meaning, "to say the same as." Confession, then, is agreeing with God about your sin.
Below you will find a series of questions to help you think through areas of your life that may need cleansing. On reading these questions, as you are convicted of sin, confess it at once to God. Be willing to make it right. Then you can claim cleansing and forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (NIV).
Be sure to name your sin to God: "Lord, I have not put You first in my plans," or, "I have neglected Your Word and prayer." Do not make the least excuse for sin of any kind in your life. Proverbs 28:13 says, "He [or she] who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy" (NIV).
You may wish to write down the specific sins that come to mind as you read the questions. Then, when you're finished confessing, tear the paper into bits and throw it away as a reminder that God does indeed cleanse you from "all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9b). Embrace the promise of Psalm 103:12: "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us."
Personal revival from the presence of the Lord begins today--if you desire it.

1. Matthew 6:12-15 Is there anyone against whom you hold a grudge? Anyone you haven't forgiven? Anyone you hate? Anyone you do not love? Are there misunderstandings that you are unwilling to forget? Is there any person against whom you are harboring bitterness, resentment of jealousy? Anyone you dislike to hear praised or well spoken of? Do you allow anything to justify a wrong attitude toward another?
2. Matthew 6:33 Is there anything in which you have failed to put God first? Have your decisions been made after your own wisdom and desires, rather than seeking and following God's will? Do any of the following, in any way, interfere with your surrender and service to God: ambition, pleasures, loved ones, friendships, desire for recognition, money or your plans?
3. Mark 16:15 Have you failed to seek the lost for Christ? Have you failed to witness consistently with your mouth for the Lord Jesus Christ? Has your life not shown to the lost the Lord Jesus?
4. John 13:35 Are you secretly pleased over the misfortunes of another? Are you secretly annoyed over the accomplishments or advancements of another? Are you guilty of any contention or strife? Do you quarrel, argue or engage in heated discussions? Are you a partaker in any division or party spirit? Are there people whom you deliberately slight?
5. Acts 20:35 Have you robbed God by withholding His due of your time, talents and treasure? Have you failed to support Kingdom work either by service, prayer or giving?
6. 1 Corinthians 4:2 Are you undependable so that you cannot be trusted with responsibilities in the Lord's work? Are you allowing your emotions to be stirred for things of the Lord, but doing nothing about it?
7. 1 Corinthians 6:19, 20 Are you careless in any way with your body? Do you fail to care for it as the temple of the Holy Spirit? Are you guilty of intemperance in eating or drinking? Do you have any habits which defile the body?
8. 1 Corinthians 10:31 Do you take the slightest credit for anything good about yourself, rather than give all the glory to God? Do you talk of what you have done rather than of what Christ has done? Do your statements begin mostly with "I"? Are your feelings easily hurt? Have you made a pretense of being something that you are not?
9. Ephesians 3:20 Are you self-conscious rather than Christ-conscious? Do you allow feelings of inferiority to keep you from attempting things you should in serving God?
10. Ephesians 4:28 Do you underpay? Do you do very little in your work? Have you been careless in the payment of your debts? Have you sought to evade payment of debts? Do you waste time? Do you waste time for others?
11. Ephesians 4:31 Do you complain? Do you find fault? Do you have a critical attitude towards any person or thing? Are you irritable or cranky? Do you ever carry hidden anger? Do you become impatient with others? Are you ever harsh or unkind?
12. Ephesians 5:16 Do you listen to unedifying radio or TV programs? Do you read unworthy magazines or web sites? Do you find it necessary to seek satisfaction from any questionable source? Are you doing certain things that show you are not satisfied in the Lord Jesus Christ?
13. Ephesians 5:20 Have you neglected to thank Him for all things: the seemingly bad as well as the good? Have you virtually called God a liar by doubting His Word? Do you worry? Is your spiritual temperature based on your feelings instead of on the facts of God's Word?
14. Philippians 1:21 Are you taken up with the cares of this life? Is your conversation or heart joy over "things" rather than the Lord and His Word? Does anything mean more to you than living for and pleasing Christ?
15. Philippians 2:14 Do you ever, by word or deed, seek to hurt someone? Do you gossip? Do you speak unkindly concerning people when they are not present? Do you carry prejudice against true Christians because they are of some different group than yours, or because they do not see everything exactly as you do?
16. Philippians 4:4 Have you neglected to seek to be pleasing to Him in all things? Do you carry any bitterness toward God? Have you complained against Him in any way? Have you been dissatisfied with His provision for you? Is there any unwillingness in your heart to obey God fully? Do you have any reservations as to what you would or would not do concerning anything that might be His will? Have you disobeyed some direct leading from Him?
17. Colossians 3:9 Do you engage in empty and unprofitable conversation? Do you ever lie? Do you ever exaggerate? Cheat? Steal? Do you overcharge?
18. 2 Timothy 2:22 Do you have any personal habits that are not pure? Do you allow impure thoughts about the opposite sex to stay in your mind? Do you read that which is impure or suggests unholy things? Do you indulge in any entertainment that is unclean? Are you guilty of the lustful look?

Once you have confessed your sins, ask God to fill You with His Holy Spirit, who will give you power to resist temptation and sin (1 Corinthians 10:13; Philippians 4:13; Ephesians 1:19-23; 2 Timothy 1:7; Romans 6:1-16).
Why not pray this simple prayer right now, and ask the Holy Spirit to fill you and direct your life?

Dear Father, I need You. I acknowledge that I have sinned against You by directing my own life. I thank You that You have forgiven my sins through Christ's death on the cross for me. I now invite Christ to again take His place on the throne of my life. Fill me with the Holy Spirit as You commanded me to be filled, and as You promised in Your Word that You would do if I asked in faith. I pray this in the name of Jesus. As an expression of my faith, I thank You for directing my life and for filling me with the Holy Spirit. Amen.
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[coolchicka]

I dont think anyone in my current church likes me. When my mom was alive she tried to be friendly to some of the people in the church. They always told her that they were busy and would get together with her when they were not busy. But my mom would always see them making time for other people in the church. So my mom gave up. Everyone else in our church usually always goes out to eat after church together but no one ever thought of inviting me my mom and my dad. No one hardly ever asked us to come over to their house to fellowship but everyone else would get invited.

So after my mom died when I was 14 I basically gave up on my current church like someone would say hi to me I would brush them off. I mean I still went to the church for my dad and participated in youth group and went to youth camp. But now I have been going maby 1 time a month sense the last time I went to church camp June of 2006. Theres people at the church you cant trust like if you tell someone in the church you think you can trust something personal they go blab it to others then you get called into the office about your personal issue which origionally you wanted the first person you told to not tell anyone.

My dad wont leave this church though. He continues to go. There really arn't really many good churches in our town like the church that im from is like the only non-denomational church in town all the others is catholic, lutheran, methlodus, etc, etc etc...... The next non-denomational church closest to us is a mega non-denomational church about 25 miles away.......

 

[LilLamb219]

Nothing wrong with a Lutheran church

You've stated you think no one likes you and then you've also stated that you brushed people off when you were younger. That might have harmed your relationship and now you need to work to get it back to a different level.

If you know people blab, don't give our info you don't want people to talk about. It's ok to keep your secrets to yourself and still have plenty of things to talk about.

 

[Criada]

God loves yu!!
Hold on to that!
Other Christians are not perfect - we are all sinners, and people may let you down.
But God never, ever, ever lets you down!

Lord, hold coolchicka in Your loving arms. Comfort and console her, Jesus, as only You can do. Send true friends to support her Lord. Let her know the joy of fellowship. Let her know that You are with her, and will never let her go.
Bless her, Lord, in Jesus' name

Amen

 

[flyingsum0]

Yo Sis take it one step at a time. Ask questions here. Talk to other Christians and you may want to try praying for a couple mins a day. No need to rush, Jesus is thrilled anytime someone wants to come back to Him.

If you ever need someone to PM send them my way...its hard to turn believe on and off, but if you take baby steps its much easier.

Bless yah Sis!