I Need Help With My Life

[helpfulfriend]

I need help! Let me start with A overview. Loaness, Self abuse (spanking), Porn.
About me I still live at home with my mother. dont get out much with friends it ant because that I dont want to it is...
Sometimes I get feeling down and actiley spank myself with a belt just trying to get some of the pain out.
Of course there is porn. on the internet and other meanes that I am struckling with.
I gess what I an saying is that I need someone to talk to. Just someone who will listen. That I can shere my true fellings with. Pray about it and if you feel lead to send me a PM. Thankyou Jimmy

 

[Annoula]

there are always people around us that are willing to listen to us. to truly "listen" to us.

we just need to try and open up a little bit and allow ourselves to feel the comfort that this human exchange can offer us.

letting go of the inner pain and opening up to happiness is much more difficult. pain is usually the "easy" way, but we have to try for something better.

we are children of God and we deserve to treat ourselves the best way we can.

i hope you find inner peace and comfort.

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I know you didn't ask for advice, but I'll post some anyway. Is there a specific reason why you are living with your mother? Like an illness on either your part or her's? If no specific reason, I think you should move out. Just having a place of your own would allow you to begin creating your own life. The feelings of loneliness is only natural when you are alone. You need to go out to meet people, staying at home doesn't make friends.

When alone and miserable, fighting habits, like porn, becomes increasingly hard. Do you go to church or do you have any kind of activities outside your home? If not, get some. Get a lot. It might be uncomfortable at first, being around people so much, but it will get easier the more time you spend.

You need to find a purpose in life. Seek God's will and you will find one. And when you do, you will have found a reason to fight your bonds.

Feel free to PM me if you want.

 

[Anti Existance]

If you are lonely then you have to step towards the people, but be like a castle gate only open yourself to good people/things/events and leave out the vice versa. I don't think there's much you can do about the porn addiction, other then trying to leave it out of your life as much as possible, if you did your best then you did all you could.

Don't blame your parents. Don't blame god. You are responsible for who you are. If you want to change who you are, do it. Blaming your genes or your invisible friend and continuing to live the lifestyle you hate will get you nowhere. Accept that you dug the hole you are in, now you've gotta pull yourself out of it if that is indeed what you want to do.

Lazyness is the cause of failures.

 

[koban4max]

I can relate to you. God talked to me other day to stay away from internet (well, the bad sites anyway). Just pray.

 

[koban4max]

I can relate to you in a way. Just pray. I know it doesn't sound much, trust me, it works.

 

[artjack]

use the forums here instead, it has almost endless topics and is usually working, enjoy and dont get streesed out with it, just try to help people when you can. it will make you feel good helping and being kind,look for topic that you have good knowledge in or want knowledge on, thats the easieist

 

[Godslilgurlalways]

I wanted to let you know that I am praying for you and if you ever need me pm me anytime. I will also have an open heart and an ear to listen and pray

 

[SoapySam]

helpfulfriend.

First, you are harming no one but yourself, so don't add guilt to your problems. Your friends and neighbours probably feel you're a quiet, shy guy who wouldn't hurt a fly.
They're right. Doesn't sound like a bad person to me.

You need to get out and make friends. Maybe you find it hard to start conversations?

Do you own a dog?

There's nothing like a pup for making friends and meeting people. Walking a dog is healthy exercise and you meet other dog owners all the time. You have a shared interest and you can go to obedience classes and the like, which gets you into a social circle. Plus it's fun- and dogs are good listeners.

I'm sure most folk on this board would say join a church.
That works too.

What both (and I'm sure you can think of other ideas) have in common is that you get to socialise.

People are social animals and you are starving yourself.

I saw a wolf once , in a zoo in France. He was all alone. He had been biting the fence till his mouth bled.
Sound familiar?

I wanted to climb in there and break him out. Wolves are social creatures. So are people. Overcome your shyness and get out of that cage you're in.

 

[ajchz]

Dude, no body can help you if you don't want it!

1st, you have to take your own decision and start thinking about it, you looks that you don't feel ok with the things you do, so that means something's wrong

2nd, If you already take one decision, just pray to God, why you say that you don't have friends if he (God) alway's be with you. I know that he always gonna be there waithing that you call his name and he is gonna answer all and he's gonna be there always!

God Bless You, and he's gonna be with you no matter where you are!

 

[godgavemeHIV]

Hey TC, sound like you live a great life.. Keep it up

 

[sunnydale]

As for the not getting out much, maybe it's depression maybe it's something else. but it might be a good idea to go see a psychologist. to help get your life sorted out, see if maybe you have a social disorder.
-which is totally ok- but um if its not that maybe you could call up some old friends, hangout, visit a favorite friendly restaurant, weekly get friendly with waiters and socialize w/ your fellow patrons. as you housing situation i don't know the situation so i can't offer any advise. sorry

hope that helped.