i need help for a friend

[eon]

i have a friend and i need help helping her find god. she is into things that keep her far away from him. like, she listens to rock music (the bad kind), she is into weird things like vampires, and hangs around a lot of gothic people. and the last time i called her, her mom answered and said that she had been cutting her wrists and that some guy had proabably done something to make her upset. and i really like this girl, and really care about her so i have to do something, i cant let this happen to her. i need help bringing her to the light. i will do anything to help her.

 

[RomanPrincess]

yes she does need Jesus......you could get her a bible and tell her about Jesus and tell her God loves her and has a plan for her life....and pray for her that she will come to know and accept Jesus into her life...Praying for her and keep on praying,is the most powerful thing you can do to help her. You could also tell her that Living the Christian lifestyle is so much better than any other lifestyle there is.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

If you can be someone she can talk to about things without fear of some kind of conflict then you will have a good start.

 

[Anti Existance]

Your friend needs a counceller/psychiatric help , along with God to help her out of her problems.

Imagine that you are locked up in a room, what helps more cutting or a key to get out? Invest your energy into solving your problems instead of in cutting, redirect that energy. Remember nothing in the universe makes you happy exept Love, therefore love and help other people.

Say that to her, as her cutting is only a symptom supressing , and not solving any problems. Your friend needs a lot of love and support, and try to show her how her ways and the negativity around her will lead to nowhere.

She'll probably be rejective but keep supporting her during her difficult times.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

i have a friend and i need help helping her find god. she is into things that keep her far away from him. like, she listens to rock music (the bad kind), she is into weird things like vampires, and hangs around a lot of gothic people. and the last time i called her, her mom answered and said that she had been cutting her wrists and that some guy had proabably done something to make her upset. and i really like this girl, and really care about her so i have to do something, i cant let this happen to her. i need help bringing her to the light. i will do anything to help her.

Pray for her. Don't condemn her but be her friend and be there for her to listen.

Take it from a former cutter: Caring and being there is the best thing.

 

[Bunn]

i agree with RomanPrincess on getting her a bible. maybe not right away. you don't want to overwhelm her with it all or she might just flee or be more against it.

ease her into it. talk to her about her problems. i'm sure whe is unhappy with the way her life is going. get her to admit that. get her to admit that she wants something better.

then maybe tell her to keep an open-mind and ask if she's ever considered Christianity. and tell her about what God has done in your life or in someone else's life that she can relate to.

just remember to be there for her, listen to her when she needs it, give her advice is she wants it, hugs are always a huge comfort, and let her know she can always come to you if she wants to talk more about God.

and of course do lots and lots of praying for her and ask others to pray for her. it really does work in the long run!

God bless you... things will work out.

 

[bfly]

i have a friend and i need help helping her find god. she is into things that keep her far away from him. like, she listens to rock music (the bad kind), she is into weird things like vampires, and hangs around a lot of gothic people. and the last time i called her, her mom answered and said that she had been cutting her wrists and that some guy had proabably done something to make her upset. and i really like this girl, and really care about her so i have to do something, i cant let this happen to her. i need help bringing her to the light. i will do anything to help her.

hi, eon, you have been given some good advice all ready. Let me add, while your hands may be tied in this situation, God's are not.

May I suggest to you, be in constant prayer for her and make sure your prayers are for her best interest, not your. Remember God knows our heart better than we do.

While you are praying for her best interest to be freed form this self-destruction path she is on, pray for God to increase your faith in Him, that you will become more like Him in every way that is possible, pray that your eyes will see as His eyes and your heart will feel as His heart and pray for God to send the Holy Spirit to woo this young lady and draw her to Him.

Pray that she will begin to see something in you that she has never seen before. Let there be a level of acceptance of her that you have never had or known. You can not change her, so banging her over the head with a Bible or you banging your head against a wall will only bring about more pain. (2 heads a hurting)

Turn her over to God, Continue to pray that you will grow more like Jesus and she will see you as who you really are. When you really turn this over to God, then one of two things will happen.

You will become someone she wants to know more about what it is that make you different of she will make another wrong choice and turn away from God.

She may have to reach the bottom before she desires to make a change.

Not know her age, or anything about her, I don't know if her parents could intervene or not. Sounds like that may be what may have to happen.

I will keep you in prayer and may God continue to be your source for all thing, great or small.

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[fisherman2]

Take her to church with you.

 

[Thewarmwind]

I think the wise thing to do in order to get her to accept Jesus, is to try to avoid pushing her into it, or going directly saying: you need to accept God, here is the Bible.
People badly respond to these kind of things today, because there is some sort of an automatic defense mechanism agains anything christian.
So what you need to do is be clever, like Jesus advised his people.
You need to get her to open her heart to love and peace first, to help her reestablish a belief in good things in general, only then will she be open to accept Jesus, otherwise, in her depression and anger, she would develop negative feelings toward the whole idea of Jesus, and your words.

So, you have to help her heal.
There are some things that people ALWAYS respond well to, even in their darkes hours. A honest feeling of friendship (even fallen people have some kind of friends they hang on to),a kind face, friendly love, humour (though not sarcastic humour), small gifts as signs of friendship etc.
And also, everyone still caries a child in them, the kind of honest child that wanted love and happyness but got lost on the way.
So try to touch that child in her.

If you get her to establish a connection with you on that kind of level, show her first how you love Jesus, and how he helps you in your life. Don't suggest her to try it at first, just show her how it works for you, show here how you have light in your life. If she recognises it for real, she, as any other living creature will not be able to resist this light, because it is the source of life itself.
And she might accept Jesus and God, and all that comes with it.

Of course, this is all just theory, it is EXTREAMLY hard, but miracles happen if you believe and pray. And all it really takes for this miracle to happen is a strong faith (like with any other miracle).

Remember: the mountain WILL move

 

[mjolnir]

i have a friend and i need help helping her find god. she is into things that keep her far away from him. like, she listens to rock music (the bad kind), she is into weird things like vampires, and hangs around a lot of gothic people. and the last time i called her, her mom answered and said that she had been cutting her wrists and that some guy had proabably done something to make her upset. and i really like this girl, and really care about her so i have to do something, i cant let this happen to her. i need help bringing her to the light. i will do anything to help her.

she sounds really cool i'm into that kind of stuff too the vampiric stuff to. once u get ur first taste of blood theres no turning back. o and in case ur wondering blood taste great.