I need encouragement.

[lPraisinghim]

I need advice on moving out. And starting a new life. I need to know that others can see the picture like me and I am not the bad person here. I've been unhappily living at home for the last few years. My mom is super controlling draining jealous and shameless. I know it doesn't make me look good to say those things but it's true. Whenever I get my hopes up in life my mom does her best to shut me down. Whenever I do good she ignores my successes and isn't happy for me. When I wear nice clothes or feel good about myself she has to say anything to make me feel bad/insecure. It's so hard to accept that she is jealous of me or doesn't want me to be happy but that is the conclusion I've came to. The al mighty wants me to be happy and make the world a better place but I don't feel encouraged here. I need some kind of practical advice/reassurance. I have regained my faith but I don't want to start my new life without protecting myself from controlling destructive manipulation. What scares me is not having anyone to turn to when I need help in life.

 

[Winken]

Are you old enough to head out on your own? If not, check out local options. Be careful .... lots of gamers out there. They eventually show up.

 

[lPraisinghim]

Yes I am. I want to move from the city because my mom knows to many people that I know. And I don't want her talking about me twisting perceptions. :/ Should I tell my friends how she is? I always feel guilty and judged when I reveal how my mom is no one believes me because she is so "charming".

 

[7trees]

Yes I am. I want to move from the city because my mom knows to many people that I know. And I don't want her talking about me twisting perceptions. :/ Should I tell my friends how she is? I always feel guilty and judged when I reveal how my mom is no one believes me because she is so "charming".

I know the kind of character you are describing. They attack then play the victim. They flatter others but abuse you. If you complain you look bad. Is this so?

My advice is to go as far away as you can as soon as you can- hundreds of miles. However go where there are other young Christian people to fellowship with.

God bless

 

[lPraisinghim]

I know the kind of character you are describing. They attack then play the victim. They flatter others but abuse you. If you complain you look bad. Is this so?

My advice is to go as far away as you can as soon as you can- hundreds of miles. However go where there are other young Christian people to fellowship with.

God bless

Yes :/ that is exactly the case. I tried to help her but now ik I can't change her. Thanks for understanding. Ik what I have to do... I'll do it eventually.

 

[7trees]

Yes :/ that is exactly the case. I tried to help her but now ik I can't change her. Thanks for understanding. Ik what I have to do... I'll do it eventually.

I hope all goes well for you.

God bless

 

[Winken]

Yes I am. I want to move from the city because my mom knows to many people that I know. And I don't want her talking about me twisting perceptions. :/ Should I tell my friends how she is? I always feel guilty and judged when I reveal how my mom is no one believes me because she is so "charming".

Be careful and loving in how you address others about your Mom. Don't do it angrily. Don't "put her down." Watch for the gamers.

Past my bedtime. GNite, & be blessed!

 

[lPraisinghim]

Idk if you meant it or not but I am getting a judgy tone from you. You don't know what I've been through and although she is my mom I have every right to be angry with her.

 

[Imnotjokingwellnotmostly]

Welcome to the forum! I pray things work out for you. God bless you.

Winken? What do you mean when you say "gamer?"

 

[Winken]

Welcome to the forum! I pray things work out for you. God bless you.

Winken? What do you mean when you say "gamer?"

There are folks who play games with others, seeking to gain an advantage. The advantage they gain is usually not in one's best interest.

 

[David4223]

Hello and welcome.

Please note this forum is for introductions only. Please feel free to take a look around and post your question in a more appropriate forum

 

[Imnotjokingwellnotmostly]

There are folks who play games with others, seeking to gain an advantage. The advantage they gain is usually not in one's best interest.

Ah, I see. Thanks for explaining!

 

[FundyJohn]

Welcome, I'm new as well and thought I would take a shot at welcoming other new members.