I need biblical advice...

[Kitty_cork]

Okay so I have a situation in my life that I'm not sure how to handle in a way that the lord would want me to. I'll start at the beginning:
I met my husband about 6 years ago and we fell for each other hard. We got married 3 months after meeting and have been solid ever since. My issue is with his mother. It started with her insistence that I call her mom even though I hadn't felt that connection with her yet and it felt awkward saying it especially after my own mother passed away. Next would be her constant need to give her advice even when not prompted. I tried to address this unease I felt about her giving unsolicited advice, especially when it concerned my son, and she told me to get over my feelings and to just take the advice because she knows better. Most recently she complained to my husband that if it was up to me they would never get to have family time with us and that it was up to him to change that. Also she believes that I only treat her as a sitter for my son. Now mind you my son is a little over a year old and she has watched him maybe 7 times in that year because she never prompts any type of get together and when I try to initiate she says she's busy or that she needs at least a couple days notice. And finally she called my husband a couple days ago to tell him that she knows I've been talking behind her back and that no one likes her and that she can't believe she wasn't included in a post I had made on Mother's Day regarding my mom and my step mom. Now to wrap this up I was hoping someone could guide me scriptually on how to handle this situation. I've prayed about it and I just need a little help. Thanks for reading and responding ^.^

 

[MWood]

May God bless you and your family. Any advice that I could give would be wrong and way out of line. This is a family matter and should be handled within the family. Mostly between you and your husband. After all the two of you have become one flesh, and should stand together in all things. God Bless.

 

[Kitty_cork]

May God bless you and your family. Any advice that I could give would be wrong and way out of line. This is a family matter and should be handled within the family. Mostly between you and your husband. After all the two of you have become one flesh, and should stand together in all things. God Bless.

Thank you for the reply. I have spoken in great detail with my husband about this situation and he feels the same way that I do about getting biblical advice so that we can address this in a way that would be according to the lords word.

 

[happycamper843]

Is your mother in law a believer?

 

[MWood]

Thank you for the reply. I have spoken in great detail with my husband about this situation and he feels the same way that I do about getting biblical advice so that we can address this in a way that would be according to the lords word.

The best biblical advice would be you pastor, or someone you can trust that is biblically grounded.

 

[Kitty_cork]

Is your mother in law a believer?

Yes sir she is

 

[Goodbook]

Does she have any other grandchildren.
The bible says something about busybodies.
Although, ruths mother in law Naomi was quite interferring. But had she not interfered, ruth may never have married Boaz. I dont know if Boaz had a mother as well. In that story...cos then she would have had two.

Just say thanks for the advice but you listen to your husband and God. Take it on board if it works, if it doesnt then just ignore it. i dont think mothers can help it really. If your husband has leaved and cleaved...then thats who you married, not his mother.

JEsus said he called his mother or brother or sisters anyone who is following the Will of God..so if shes in His will you can call her mom, but if shes not then dont. I have elders who are motherly to me even though im not related to them.

 

[Goodbook]

Mark 3:35
Also see Matthew 12:50

Quite a funny episode in the gospels.

 

[happycamper843]

Since your mother in law is a believer consider this.

Matthew 18:15 ESV / 4 helpful votes
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.

Then consider this...

Matthew 19:15

And he said, 'This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.'

 

[ScottA]

Okay so I have a situation in my life that I'm not sure how to handle in a way that the lord would want me to. I'll start at the beginning:
I met my husband about 6 years ago and we fell for each other hard. We got married 3 months after meeting and have been solid ever since. My issue is with his mother. It started with her insistence that I call her mom even though I hadn't felt that connection with her yet and it felt awkward saying it especially after my own mother passed away. Next would be her constant need to give her advice even when not prompted. I tried to address this unease I felt about her giving unsolicited advice, especially when it concerned my son, and she told me to get over my feelings and to just take the advice because she knows better. Most recently she complained to my husband that if it was up to me they would never get to have family time with us and that it was up to him to change that. Also she believes that I only treat her as a sitter for my son. Now mind you my son is a little over a year old and she has watched him maybe 7 times in that year because she never prompts any type of get together and when I try to initiate she says she's busy or that she needs at least a couple days notice. And finally she called my husband a couple days ago to tell him that she knows I've been talking behind her back and that no one likes her and that she can't believe she wasn't included in a post I had made on Mother's Day regarding my mom and my step mom. Now to wrap this up I was hoping someone could guide me scriptually on how to handle this situation. I've prayed about it and I just need a little help. Thanks for reading and responding ^.^

Give her advice on something - just make something up - every time you see her:

• "You should paint your kitchen green!"
• "You should shop where I shop."
• "You should exercise at least 3 times a week."
• "You should wear blue more often."

Kindly, "Be of the same mind toward one another." Romans 12:16