I need advice

[Judilyn]

I wanted t0 post this in the mens section but Can't.

Here is my problem. This question concerns the marrige beteewn my dad and step mom.

My dad was recently very ill, (was posted in prayer request) He alsmost died
after a head injury. He had to learn to walk and talk all over again. He truly is a miracle!

Now he is home, praise God, but we have a new problem. He now wants sex constantly. He is 74 years old. Is it normal for a man 74 to want sex all the time?

This problem is embarressing :o to me because I can't talk to my dad about sex! He called me yesterday to ask me if this was normal!

When my step mom will not give in he becomes very very angry and calls her bad names. He never acted this way before his accident, and infact had not had sex for years.

So my questions are

1. Does a 74 year old man still have a sex drive? And are they capable of carrying out thier desires or is this all in his mind?

2. Could it be that he has had a personality change snce the accident?

3. Could it be a reaction to seizure meds that he is on?

any advice is appreciated, they are driving me crazy! They fight all the time over this and get me stuck in the middle of it.

 

[mamaneenie]

Hi, I know I'm not a guy, but anyway, from what I have heard, people who have almost lost their life, get a new energy and lease on life. Perhaps that is where the renewed sex drive has come from. Perhaps he has had a scare, and now wants to be closer to his wife. not sure (a. because I'm not a guy, and b. I'm certainly not in my 70's)

 

[E-beth]

My Grandma and Grandpa were sexually active until lung cancer put him in the hospital bed he never got out of.

It could be that your Dad just feels like he wants to be close to his wife after being so sick. Like he wants to enjoy the time he has been given.

But since it is a problem, call his doctor and ask about it. I am sure it happens alot and if there is a medical reason, he may be able to steer ya in the right direction.

 

[MrsClaus]

I think it is very possible for a man his age to have a sex drive as long as he is healthy in that respect. I also think that head injuries can cause a change in personality.

My daughter takes seizure meds and I don't remember anything about that in the list of side effects.

This is definately something he should speak to his doctor about since it is causing problems between him and his wife.

 

[coastie]

A sudden personality change like this, even after a life changing event, is subject to further medical evaluation, no matter what kind of doc you talk to.

Definately call your doc. There may be nothing wrong, but you should call him anyway. Just to make sure.

The fact that he calls your step mom names for not having sex with him suggests something else to me. I won't go into detail based on specualtion, but this really needs to be discussed with a medical professional.
He can be helped.

 

[Blue Flame]

I'm not going to go into this in great detail because as someone said above, it's something that should be discussed with a medical professional, but yes, there is a chance that the brain injury could have cause a personality change and/or sex drive change.

I can't comment on the 74 year old sex drive, cuz i'm 22, but I hope I still want sex at that age

At any rate, call up a doctor and I'm sure they'll help you out

Good luck

 

[desi]

I wanted t0 post this in the mens section but Can't.

Here is my problem. This question concerns the marrige beteewn my dad and step mom.

My dad was recently very ill, (was posted in prayer request) He alsmost died
after a head injury. He had to learn to walk and talk all over again. He truly is a miracle!

Now he is home, praise God, but we have a new problem. He now wants sex constantly. He is 74 years old. Is it normal for a man 74 to want sex all the time?

This problem is embarressing :o to me because I can't talk to my dad about sex! He called me yesterday to ask me if this was normal!

When my step mom will not give in he becomes very very angry and calls her bad names. He never acted this way before his accident, and infact had not had sex for years.

So my questions are

1. Does a 74 year old man still have a sex drive? And are they capable of carrying out thier desires or is this all in his mind?

2. Could it be that he has had a personality change snce the accident?

3. Could it be a reaction to seizure meds that he is on?

any advice is appreciated, they are driving me crazy! They fight all the time over this and get me stuck in the middle of it.

1. Its rare but possible.

2. Absolutely yes its possible.

3. Yes its possible. Check with the Dr. to see if slipping saltpeter into his food is an option.

 

[Judilyn]

Thanks everyone. I have left this ball in my step mom's court so to speak because I feel that it is best for her to call the doctor. It seems that she has become very dependant on me but she is still VERY capable of doing these things on her own. I am still here to support her but she needs to take the lead on this one.