hey guys... ok the thing is...my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost two years. He brought me into christianity( best thing that ever happened to me) Over the two years, our faiths have been strengthened by eachothers. its been awesome. a few years ago my boyfriend was into pot.. but the oast two years he;s been turned off by it.. he gradually moved away from it even before he met me. his friends are still into it now and then (especially since its summer. he hasnt smoked pot since before he met me, and all of a sudden he wants to start getting back into it a little bit.. just everynow and then with friends, you know? But i dunno.. but i just dont feel right about it, and i've told himthis. and i know he wouldnt do it if i told him not to, but i really want him to make his own decision. he says he thinks it probably better than alcohal which i can understand... but somehow i dont find it as bad. we drink everynow and then, actually practically never... just on special occasions. i just dont see it.. i dont know why im so against pot but i just am.. help me guys!! i just dont know what to do.. or how to explain it to him. please write me back, that'd be unreal!!
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i need advice guys...PLEASE
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bumblebee62331
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If your boyfriend has had a past problem with pot, it is not a good idea for him to get back into it, even if he says he can control how much he does it. Because he will quickly slide back into it again.
I think the thing to get at here is why does he want to get back into it? Is it because he feels he is drifting away from his friends because he doesn't do it anymore? Does he feel pressured into it? Are there any problems in his life that might make him want to do drugs to escape from?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and really talk about why he wants to do drugs again. I think if he had the strength to give it up two years ago, he has the strength to do it again - and he has the strength to be totally honest with you as to why he wants to do it.
I think the thing to get at here is why does he want to get back into it? Is it because he feels he is drifting away from his friends because he doesn't do it anymore? Does he feel pressured into it? Are there any problems in his life that might make him want to do drugs to escape from?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and really talk about why he wants to do drugs again. I think if he had the strength to give it up two years ago, he has the strength to do it again - and he has the strength to be totally honest with you as to why he wants to do it.
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thank you so much, i will definatly have a talk with him.. we;; i've had a few already.. the thing is, he thinks that it shouldnt be a big deal if its, "once and a while," but i dunno.. its so hard to explain... because he has an older brother that's been through alot of drugs and such.. so i know his brother was his like, antidrug so... im pretty sure he wont get all hardcore into it..Byootaful said:If your boyfriend has had a past problem with pot, it is not a good idea for him to get back into it, even if he says he can control how much he does it. Because he will quickly slide back into it again.
I think the thing to get at here is why does he want to get back into it? Is it because he feels he is drifting away from his friends because he doesn't do it anymore? Does he feel pressured into it? Are there any problems in his life that might make him want to do drugs to escape from?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and really talk about why he wants to do drugs again. I think if he had the strength to give it up two years ago, he has the strength to do it again - and he has the strength to be totally honest with you as to why he wants to do it.
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Once and a while might lead to "all the time". Also, all it takes is one bad batch of pot, or a police raid, or even just a friend who dobs them in, and he could be seriously in trouble.
Can he talk to his brother? I've seen drugs destroy people. It's terrible and I would hate for you and your boyfriend to go through that. Pray with him. Get him to pray and really listen to what God is trying to tell him. Every time he does drugs, it destroys him a little.
I'm sorry I'm so depressing. I hope I've helped a little bit. You might get a lot of advice if you go to the recovery section. They have a forum there called Substance Abuse - maybe even getting your boyfriend to read a few of their stories and testimonies might help? Is your boyfriend a member of this site? There are so many supportive people here who would not hestitate to talk to him, give him advice and lend an ear.
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yah.. thats a great idea, im really gunna work on him. It was just so strange he brought it up one night.. i think it might have been his friends.. you kno, the peer pressure type thing haha. thanks so much for yourByootaful said:Once and a while might lead to "all the time". Also, all it takes is one bad batch of pot, or a police raid, or even just a friend who dobs them in, and he could be seriously in trouble.
Can he talk to his brother? I've seen drugs destroy people. It's terrible and I would hate for you and your boyfriend to go through that. Pray with him. Get him to pray and really listen to what God is trying to tell him. Every time he does drugs, it destroys him a little.
I'm sorry I'm so depressing. I hope I've helped a little bit. You might get a lot of advice if you go to the recovery section. They have a forum there called Substance Abuse - maybe even getting your boyfriend to read a few of their stories and testimonies might help? Is your boyfriend a member of this site? There are so many supportive people here who would not hestitate to talk to him, give him advice and lend an ear.
Advice... its been a great help.
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Not a problem.
Keep us updated.Take it as a good sign that he was so willing to talk to you about this. At least he doesn't want to go behind your back, that's a great thing.
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He might have just wanted to test the waters; see your reaction. If you don't want him to smoke, make sure he knows that.
However, even though I don't smoke, I don't think its something to make a huge fuss over.
However, even though I don't smoke, I don't think its something to make a huge fuss over.
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Byootaful said:If your boyfriend has had a past problem with pot, it is not a good idea for him to get back into it, even if he says he can control how much he does it. Because he will quickly slide back into it again.
I think the thing to get at here is why does he want to get back into it? Is it because he feels he is drifting away from his friends because he doesn't do it anymore? Does he feel pressured into it? Are there any problems in his life that might make him want to do drugs to escape from?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and really talk about why he wants to do drugs again. I think if he had the strength to give it up two years ago, he has the strength to do it again - and he has the strength to be totally honest with you as to why he wants to do it.
I agree. The key thing is finding out why. It is obvious he feels like he is missing out on something. There is something he wants that he thinks only by smoking pot will he get it. It might be the friendship he had with those friends. It might be the feeling he got while doing drugs.
He needs to understand, though, what he is getting back into. Help him to focus on how good his life is now. Help him to focus on why he quit in the first place. Was it to grow closer in his relationship with God? If so, help him to understand that by choosing to go back to drugs, his relationship with God will suffer as a result. If he feels like there is something missing in his life, help him to understand that pot will not fill that empty spot.
I apologize in advance for this statement: He needs to understand that the "grass is not greener on the other side".
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pray about it. he has had a past promblem w/ it adn sometimes it's tempting. really sit down and talk w/ him.
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i unno.. but i think that pot is way worse then drinking... i drink alot.. and i have friends that are potheads and i see the effect of both...
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Er... I may be thinking of something else, but isn't pot illegal? And I do know it's harmful. On that note, so is drinking (it's illegal too, if you're underage). So I personally consider it best to stay away from both. 'Sides, you're not a very good witness when you're drunk or high.
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...at your ages, aren't both illegal?char_worsnop said:
If you've got a problem with him, you should address it.
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I wouldn't freak out about it. A lot of my friends smoke weed, and I've smoked it a few times. But stopped because I didn't want to get in trouble with the law (again). It may not be that he is missing something, he may just want to experiance the feelings again. I know I didn't smoke it because I was missing something, it was because I wanted to experiance the feeling it gave me.
Once again, just pray,
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Once again, just pray,
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drinking and smoking pot is both a sin, it says in the scriptures to obey the government, i've read it at least 3 times in the new testament, so right there you would have already committed one sin ( pot is illegal ) beer is a sin, drinking wine isn't, as long as you don't get drunk, but drinking beer is.
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Letalis said:
Sin. Sin is evil. Sin is disobeying God (also, it is knowing you should do something and not doing it- forget the verse reference for that, NT). God says that as long as the laws laid down by your government does not contradict his word, you must follow it, because our governmental leaders are set it place by God himself. Drinking is illegal (against the law) at their age, which would be breaking the law and making it a sin. And correct me if I'm wrong but isn't pot illegal at any age?
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