I need advice ASAP

[bliz]

Telling him to be thankful for what he has... is a good Biblical principle.

Being thankful does not mean that we don't still face challenges and have problems to solve but attitude has a lot to do with how we approach things and this young man has attitude to spare... and it will probably serve him well someday but right now it might be tripping him up.

None of knows what God's plan for him is... we are offering opinions and suggestions. Serapha's permitted to make her suggestion just as you are permitted to make yours and I mine.

Perhaps God is telling him not to major in business.

Or perhaps God is telling him to hit the books and study harder.

Perhaps God wants him to fail so he will know what that's like if he becomes a pastor.

There are endless possibilities here... let's not pick on each other for seeing the issue differently. How dull it would be if we all agreed. Accept pf course when I say something... then we should all agree.

 

[servant4ever]

Bliz,

I have done all the work possible. I have read all my stuff. I attend class and pay attention. I have talked to my profs to get help. I'm sorry, but that hurts with you saying I don't work hard enough.

servant4ever

 

[fishstix]

Here's another thing. I'm disabled and I won't be able to do physical type of jobs. Being a security guard or something like that won't be good for me as I can't chase down people if I need to do so. I do work for the campus switchboard as a work study, but I only get $100-150 a every 2 weeks.

servant4ever

There are plenty of jobs out there that aren't physical. I actually just got a job myself that will require little more that a lot of reading and a good understanding of math. And no I'm not suggesting that you should get the same job as me. Look for a job that matches *you*. Being disabled and unable to do hard physical labour doesn't mean that you can't work at all.

Hello,

Please pray for me now... I did talk to one of my 3 profs and I'm still confused. I ended up emailing my mom and telling her I'm lost in 3 of my 5 classes. I just hope they won't be too upset.

servant4ever

That's a positive thing - communication with your prof and your parents is a step in the right direction. Your parents may be upset - after all, parents are human too and prone to making mistakes just like anyone else. If they are upset though, don't let that close down communication on the subject.

Do what YOU want...never do what your PARENTS want. Your life is about YOU and YOUR LORD. Remember that and don't let your parents shove you around. Take to heart what they say and consider it, but if you are led towards Bible...then for all means, go for it!

I wouldn't go quite so far as to say *never* do what one's parents want... No one's goal should be just to do the opposite of what their parents' want. Perhaps that isn't what you were suggesting but it sure is what it sounded like. An adult should certainly make his/her own decisions rather than having his/her parents making all the decisions. But a part of good decision making is being willing to listen to other people's opinions and advice and sometimes not get your own way. That can include parents' opinions and advice. And ultimately the goal of any Christian making a decision should be to do what will please God, regardless of whether that matches his/her own desires or even those of his/her parents.

But I entirely agree with "don't let your parents shove you around". At 20 years old, it is no longer up to the parents to decide what you're going to study in school. It is certainly within their rights to refuse to pay for something they don't agree with, but it is also within the rights of a young adult to get a job and pay for his own education in a field of his choice.

 

[servant4ever]

I think I have a good way of compromise with my parents. I have an idea of an individualized major where I will combine things from Leadership, Communication, Bible and my HR business stuff... I will label it "Church Administration" or something like that. I just have to get my advisor to approve of it and I think I can make my parents happy with that.

servant4ever

 

[MooCow]

As for pretending to go live on the streets... well, be careful - they may take you up on it! Emotional blackmail is unattractive and wrong no matter is it's done by parents or children.

If they take you up on it, go for it! If they don't love you enough to let you do what you truly want to do, then screw them.

I see how emotional blackmail is "unattractive," but it works and it is a legitimate way of getting stubborn parents to let you do what you want.

I agree that parents should have a say in what you study, but there are definitely limits to that. If Mom and Dad want you to be a doctor, but you want to be an engineer, there is obviously a conflict of interest there.

 

[JohnnyV]

If they take you up on it, go for it! If they don't love you enough to let you do what you truly want to do, then screw them.

I see how emotional blackmail is "unattractive," but it works and it is a legitimate way of getting stubborn parents to let you do what you want.

and people wonder why the youth of today feel they are owed everything, you are never going to survive in the real world if you expect to gripe, moan and complain in order to get what you want handed to you... Thats not how life works. You have to work for what you want and a Parents job is to teach you Responsibility not give you whatever you want.

 

[servant4ever]

The thing is, I feel God calling me to the full time ministry and this business stuff is NOT clicking in my head... You can say I'm not responsible, but I do go to class, I pay attention, I take good notes, I do my reading and all that stuff. Yet, I'm failing 3 classes.

servant4ever

 

[JohnnyV]

Wasn't talking about you being responsible servant4ever,I totally understand where you are coming from.
That was in reference to the quote from Blazersax. & no, I am not saying he is irresponsible either, Im just saying that kind of thinking is leading people down the road of irresponsibility and they will have a very hard way to go later in life.

 

[servant4ever]

Oh, ok... I apologize...

My mom replied to my email -- my parents want to talk to me about what I want to switch my major to...

servant4ever

 

[JillLars]

Servant4ever-

Another way to look at this situation:

Why are you failing your classes?

Are you failing tests? If so, what type of tests are they?
Are you getting poor scores on papers?

Once you identify the areas where you are having trouble you will better be able to get help for that problem.

For example: If you are getting bad scores on tests, even though you study, perhaps you could take a seminar on test taking, and test anxiety (many colleges offer them throughout the year). If you are having trouble on essays, consider going to your school's writing center, or getting a tutor in writing, or simply having a friend review your papers before you turn them in. Trust me, peer review is an invaluable resource. If you ever need help with that, I'd be more than willing to give you a hand.

 

[MooCow]

and people wonder why the youth of today feel they are owed everything, you are never going to survive in the real world if you expect to gripe, moan and complain in order to get what you want handed to you... Thats not how life works. You have to work for what you want and a Parents job is to teach you Responsibility not give you whatever you want.

You are totally missing the point of what I'm saying. I give up.