I miss being hugged

[jerseyfresh]

I am very recently single. I am single b/c my boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me (again) and I had enough. The "funny" thing is the night before I found out he'd cheated (again) was the first night in a very long time that I prayed. Having grown up in the faith I turned my back on God about 3 years ago. In my prayer I told God what I wanted and what I thought I needed, but also said that I knew He knew what was best for me. Well, He very clearly told me what I was suppose to do. I'm slowly learning to fill my void with Christ and not turning to other men or substances to fill that... but I can't hold Jesus after I have a bad dream, He can't kiss my forehead or play with my hair. How do you other single people handle those issues?

 

[jenn82]

You know what it's really hard to answer that question. I have struggled with the same thoughts and feelings.

I don't really have a good answer. I know Jesus is there and I am learning to just talk to Him like He is with me, but for the physical part that it is natural for us to desire, it will take some time and possibly they won't, but they will fade. I still have the desire to be held and there are times when all I want is a hug...today was one of those days...but I know someday God will bring that special man I am going to marry and he will know how to make me feel extra specialy special.

I don't know if that really helps or not. Maybe someone else will answer better.

Jenn

 

[Tenorvoice]

I am very recently single. I am single b/c my boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me (again) and I had enough. The "funny" thing is the night before I found out he'd cheated (again) was the first night in a very long time that I prayed. Having grown up in the faith I turned my back on God about 3 years ago. In my prayer I told God what I wanted and what I thought I needed, but also said that I knew He knew what was best for me. Well, He very clearly told me what I was suppose to do. I'm slowly learning to fill my void with Christ and not turning to other men or substances to fill that... but I can't hold Jesus after I have a bad dream, He can't kiss my forehead or play with my hair. How do you other single people handle those issues?

All that I can offer you right now are some relaly kind words to comfort you. You seem to be doing the right things right now, spending time with God, and in His Word. There was once a preacher that said "...There is a God shaped Vacume in our hearts, and the only thing that can fill it is God..."

I have been down the same road that you are traveling, and I will be honest with you its not easy.

But stay strong in your Faith and Trust in the Lord and He will be there for you my dear.

One last thing, you may not be able to "physically" be with Jesus (as in to have him touch you, kiss you on your forhead, or anything like that), but we can (this is figurative of course) climb into His lap and talk to Him about everything that is going on in our lives. He wants to know, He wants to spend time with us. So the next time that you are having a hard time getting to sleep or even every night if you want to, you can climb up into His lap and fall asleep in His arm while talking to Him.

What better way to go to sleep then our last thougts to be on Jesus our Lord and Savior.

Hope this helps you some my dear.

Tenor

 

[blue_eyes36]

i miss being hugged and cuddled to, oh well mabey someday again !!!!!LOLOL


Amy

 

[whitestar]

I have not even dated in years....my advise is babysit little kids..they love to give hugs...and little girls like messing with your hair and fixing it up. No it won't be the same KIND of touching...but much more innocent actually.

I have a son...he rarely hugs me though! So I hug my cats...lol...

I twirl my own hair and give myself a hug sometimes too! Sure why not...I am nutty...it works...

Just remember though the temptation of touching can be used to get you to sin...the bible calls it the devil's tricks....

Go hug people at church too...old ladies like hugs...for many of them, they have been widows for many long long years...they like hugs! I give them hugs at my church too.

Gee..I just realized I get more hugs then I ever thought I did...how about that!

Hang in there!

God bless
whitestar

 

[JPPT1974]

Here are some hugs for you!

 

[silkamilkamonico]

harden your heart.

block it out and take that part of your life and get rid of it.

Just know the circumstance and repeat to myself, "this is just the way it is".

yeah it sucks but what do ya do, sit and dwell on it?

 

[winglovesall]

Hugs -- I'll give you some right now!

I think you should keep developing a stronger relationship with God. He has a special man in his plan and he knows when it is the correct time.

Also with your previous relationship -- try to look at it positively -- question yourself whether this person showed you something about yourself or what have you learnt through that relationship. Things happen for a reason and like that the relationship itself -- it happened for a reason and you just have to identify those reasons.

I am sure you will find some -- try expressing more around Christian Forums -- it is a great place to join in because you've got a wonderful family!

 

[mina]

I know how you feel, I really miss being hugged. I also miss someone asking me how my day was and actually caring what I have to say.

 

[Lia]

Coming from an impure past, I know exactly how it feels to long for a physical touch and words of affirmation. There are times where my body just screams and wants the things that I desire. But I can't do nothing about it.. you just need to be patient and let God fill that void in your life. And God's grace is sufficient and enough to satisfy all of our needs. He will sustain you if you keep on holding on to Him (Psalm 145:16 - You (God) open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing).


More Than Enough
All of you is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with your love
And all I have in you is more than enough

You are my supply
My breath of life
Still more awesome than I know
You are my reward
Worth living for
Still more awesome than I know

And all of you is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with your love
And all I have in you is more than enough

You are my supply
My breath of life
Still more awesome than I know
You're my coming King
You're my everything
Still more awesome than I know

More than all I am
More than all I need
You are more than enough for me
More than all I know
More than all I can say
You are more than enough

God's grace to you!!

 

[Born_to_try]

I know how you feel.

 

[winglovesall]

I certainly know how you feel -- but be patient and stay positive --

 

[W8t4God]

jerseyfresh please dont give up because the orange is twice as sweet when it has ripened. It may be enduring now but the question one must ask themselves is. Do I want a good man or do I want the man God has hand picked to fit and attend to my every need? A good man may hold on but the man God picks will count it an honor to tred through the tough time with the woman God created for him, because hes the man Christ created for her. Trust God! Remember lean not on your own understanding but rather on the will of God.

 

[JPPT1974]

Here are some more hugs with kisses from me to you!

 

[fishstix]

I am very recently single. I am single b/c my boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me (again) and I had enough. The "funny" thing is the night before I found out he'd cheated (again) was the first night in a very long time that I prayed. Having grown up in the faith I turned my back on God about 3 years ago. In my prayer I told God what I wanted and what I thought I needed, but also said that I knew He knew what was best for me. Well, He very clearly told me what I was suppose to do. I'm slowly learning to fill my void with Christ and not turning to other men or substances to fill that... but I can't hold Jesus after I have a bad dream, He can't kiss my forehead or play with my hair. How do you other single people handle those issues?

You don't need to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to get hugs. Friends can hug too.

 

[wildthing]

and more

 

[Niels]

I hear where you're coming from, although I haven't been hugged much in a long time. Yes, pets can offer a degree of affection... but I should mention that fish may not always be as huggable as cats and dogs .

I pray that you handle the situation with class and integrity. And I think you're doing the right thing by posting about this here. Most of us, being single, can certainly relate to a lack of affection in our lives.

 

[winglovesall]

I've never been hugged by any female what so ever. I would love to experience it but you know, one special girl will be sooner or later.

 

[simi]

=) hugs are special. i havent had one in awhile but God will bring me the man of my dreams one day, when i am ready!

God's timing is the best! i gotta be patient

 

[winglovesall]

I agree with Simi!

I've gotta be patient and I am young. I would love hugs but the only people that I've hugged are my parents and my grandparents.