i met the man of my dreams now what??

[biffy]

i had the best date of my life on saturday!!!!

i met the guy online and we talked for hours (up to 4 at a time) on the phone before the date and discussed how we got along incredibly well but also that he may not see me for a while after Saturday as he lives 4 hrs drive away on a farm and after "seeding" is going to France for a month then they have "harvest" on the farm so very difficult for him to get to the city even for a weekend.....

he emailed me saying that it was a good date, he wished me all the best too and that he didn't know when he'd see me again. Maybe our paths would cross again...

i'm serious it was the best date i've ever been on....any advice on what to do?? do i talk to him about it?? will that sound too keen?? do i just wait and see?? or is he just not that into me?? i mean if he felt what i feel he would find the time but then again...i'm not doing anything yet because i just haven't got a clue what on earth to do!!!!!!!

I hate dating this is driving me a bit mad......

 

[~Nikki~]

I would say just email and tell him you had a great time, and that it would be great to see him again when he gets back.

And then leave it. If he's interested he'll get in touch. If he's not, he won't.

But I wouldn't waste a lot of energy hanging around waiting if the guy doesn't get in touch.

I think most guys are quite straightforward. If they want to see you they'll call, and if they don't they'll generally try and brush you off gently...

I know waiting isn't easy, but I wouldn't chase him. Let him come to you or nothing at all. Put the ball in his court and leave it firmly there.

God bless you...

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I would say just email and tell him you had a great time, and that it would be great to see him again when he gets back.

And then leave it. If he's interested he'll get in touch. If he's not, he won't.

But I wouldn't waste a lot of energy hanging around waiting if the guy doesn't get in touch.

I think most guys are quite straightforward. If they want to see you they'll call, and if they don't they'll generally try and brush you off gently...

I know waiting isn't easy, but I wouldn't chase him. Let him come to you or nothing at all. Put the ball in his court and leave it firmly there.

God bless you...

Very good advice. Guys are afraid of rejection so do let him know that you had a great time and would look forward to doing it again.

I went out for the first time with my bf (online also) in August. It was pleasant and I could tell he really enjoyed our time, but he didn't follow up immediately. I actually sent an email thanking him for dinner, but I could've cared less if he asked me out again. He was busy with work and school. By the time he got around to asking me out again I was hooked on someone else.

When he found out my relationship was over he began persuing me again until I finally went out with him again. So, your date could really just be busy.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

i had the best date of my life on saturday!!!!

i met the guy online and we talked for hours (up to 4 at a time) on the phone before the date and discussed how we got along incredibly well but also that he may not see me for a while after Saturday as he lives 4 hrs drive away on a farm and after "seeding" is going to France for a month then they have "harvest" on the farm so very difficult for him to get to the city even for a weekend.....

he emailed me saying that it was a good date, he wished me all the best too and that he didn't know when he'd see me again. Maybe our paths would cross again...

i'm serious it was the best date i've ever been on....any advice on what to do?? do i talk to him about it?? will that sound too keen?? do i just wait and see?? or is he just not that into me?? i mean if he felt what i feel he would find the time but then again...i'm not doing anything yet because i just haven't got a clue what on earth to do!!!!!!!

I hate dating this is driving me a bit mad......

I would just leave it for now. It was only one date. He is going away. You may never see each other again. He didn't ask you for your address or say keep in touch...seems pretty much over.

I would say just move on with life.

 

[charlie_hunter]

^what she said^

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

PS. And I understand where you are coming from. When I was younger...oh...hmm...I forget how young but a few years back when I wasn't dating and I was doing online searching...I met this one guy online that I thought was totally awesome. We never met but he sent me this wonderful email and I would read it over and over again because it was so sweet and well written-but after like two of those emails I never heard from him again. I was devestated. I surely thought in my heart that this was the right guy for me...lol...

 

[biffy]

he contacted me again....just to let me know he is still alive....but only just!! He said he'd let me know if he was at home for a chat.. I'm happy with that for now if something comes of it then heck i'll be happy but if it dosen't then i'm still happy....i'm glad i posted this in here...well i thought i'd ask the "experts" so to speak hehe...i guess i should pray that God will help me with my patience...yikes scary thing to pray for...maybe i'll just try praying for reassurance and peace within these situations instead...;-)

 

[littlecoda]

these things have a way of either working out or fading. hope this is a good outcome.I do.

 

[~Nikki~]

I asked my husband for his opinion on what you said in your post on your other thread...

He says from a guy's point of view that he thinks your friend is trying to nicely say that he's not interested...but trying to do it gently in a way that will not hurt you.

He also said that if he really liked you that much, then he would forget about his broken heart in a second, because all of a sudden the broken heart wouldn't seem so important anymore...because he likes you instead.

Does that make sense???

Don't want to put a downer on things, but personally I wouldn't let him know how you feel. I would assume that he's not interested, accept it and get on with life, and just take it as a bonus if he contacts you and you find he is interested.

And honestly if he's not interested it doesn't really matter, because who wants to go out with someone who doesn't feel the same? And the right man *will* be interested. So if this guy's not interested don't worry...because then he's not the right guy, and not God's will for you. The right guy *will* be interested. Trust God, and don't try and push something if the door appears to be closing...just accept it as your answer from your heavenly Father who has only your best interests at heart.

That's my opinion...God bless you whatever you decide to do!

 

[Leanna]

i had the best date of my life on saturday!!!!

i met the guy online and we talked for hours (up to 4 at a time) on the phone before the date and discussed how we got along incredibly well but also that he may not see me for a while after Saturday as he lives 4 hrs drive away on a farm and after "seeding" is going to France for a month then they have "harvest" on the farm so very difficult for him to get to the city even for a weekend.....

Maybe I am reading it different but it sounded like he said BEFORE the date that after Saturday he may not see you for a while. If he wasn't interested, why would he still go on the date? Sounds interested to me. Perhaps he really just can't see you for a while. He contacted you again, a good sign... just be patient and not overbearing and see how it all works out.

 

[Carri20]

I would say just email and tell him you had a great time, and that it would be great to see him again when he gets back.

And then leave it. If he's interested he'll get in touch. If he's not, he won't.

But I wouldn't waste a lot of energy hanging around waiting if the guy doesn't get in touch.

I think most guys are quite straightforward. If they want to see you they'll call, and if they don't they'll generally try and brush you off gently...

I know waiting isn't easy, but I wouldn't chase him. Let him come to you or nothing at all. Put the ball in his court and leave it firmly there.

Amen.

I learned the hard way not to let myself get emotional over a guy who wasn't really into me. When he's into you you'll know it. He won't let a farm schedule or anything else come between you.

Whatever you do, please don't pursue him. That's his job, and if he doesn't do it then someone better will.