I lost my virginity

[HomeChicklet]

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[ascribe2thelord]

okay well this weekend I went to Il with my brother and while I was there I hung out with a guy I have known for a while. We ended up having sex.

My youth pastor and my parents(not by my choice) know and they are pretty hot.... I mentioned it to a friend who is my accountability partner and she went home and told her parents and now she is forbidden to talk to me. I wouldn't have told her if I knew she was going to do that but she always tells me that her and her parents are always fighting and that she doesn't like to tell them anything. My youth pastor informed me of otherwise.

I don't know its a whole messed up situation and I don't know what to do. I realize that what I did was wrong but I also realize that I need prayer and some encouragement.... Imma go ttyl

Hold on, was this really all you? Are you sure there was no coercion involved in this? At your age you might mistakenly assume that a sexual assault was wanted.

 

[Annoula]

parents can get upset on issues like that. so it is natural. your parents are worried about you.

are other things cleared? like did you take protection?

apart from "sin", sex is also an importan personal experience. if we give too much negative attention to it, we are giving TOO much attention to it.

if you don't like what you did. fine. if you liked it.. fine too.
don't get obssesed about it.


good luck

 

[Johnnz]

You need love and acceptance, not rejection. It's hard enough facing up to what happened.

Do you know why you went over your boundaries? Many young people committed to pre marital chastity don't make it. One major reason is that they haven't developed real healthy views about normal human sexuality, and then get caught out by something that has overwhelmed them.

John
NZ

 

[Pyrogenesis]

First off, let me say that you've done the right thing by confessing. In God's eyes if you've confessed and asked Him for forgiveness then it's delt with. There will be concequences, but you did exactly the right thing by telling your youth pastor and your accountability partner.

You know how many people do stupid things like that? Everybody! God doesn't have a 1 to 10 sin ranking, sin is sin, and everyone sins. The difference is in how we react. Some people would cover up their sin, not tell anyone and pretend it didn't happen. Some people lie and blame someone else. But because you took responsibility for your actions, I believe God will honor you for that.

You know what? God still loves you, as much as He ever has or ever will. You can't do anything that will change that! God's a BIG God, and He's got a LOT of grace; He forgives you and loves you, yesterday, today and forever

 

[mylittlelambs]

In my eyes God is the only one that really matters when you get punished. Yes people will be upset bu they will get over it. If this was a one time thing let the people know. Let them know that you have made ammends to God and that you feel fine about that.

Good luck

 

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[Merlin]

Jesus loves you.
He accepts you as you are.

He does ask that you change directions for your future.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

You made a mistake.
You know you made a mistake.
This can happen to anyone if they're not paying attention, so the people who are treating you like this just haven't learned this yet. Their time will come.

You aren't pregnant and you didn't catch anything. You can be thankful for that.

There are many less christian things a person can do besided have sex. The way your accountability partner and their parents have reacted, to me, is more repugnant than what you have done.

Repent and sin no more.

 

[Saucy]

it will be tough for awhile...but time will heal and you'll be able to talk openly with your parents about it. I know you may not want to do that, but I think it's very important to do so.

 

[Sevion]

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[nekohakase]

Everyone makes mistakes. What's important is what you do from now on.
Also, the decision to have sex doesn't really involve parents or pastors or friends, it's really very personal and carries a lot of responsibility. That's something you have to think about on your own and come to terms with on your own time.
What do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be?

If you regret losing your virginity, then just don't mess up again.
It's your responsibility and your choice.

 

[Lionroot]

[BIBLE]Exodus 22:16[/BIBLE]

 

[CandleLightSky]

For the most part I would say this is not so bad a situation. Except for the parents not talking to you thing I think it's good something like that's out in the open so it doesn't fester and ooze. It's also good that your getting to the doctor cause you just never know with all the STD's around today, plus if you are pregnant you can begin to make preparations- but I hope not, but if you are consider it a blessing just the same.

 

[Psalmangel]

okay well this weekend I went to Il with my brother and while I was there I hung out with a guy I have known for a while. We ended up having sex.

My youth pastor and my parents(not by my choice) know and they are pretty hot.... I mentioned it to a friend who is my accountability partner and she went home and told her parents and now she is forbidden to talk to me. I wouldn't have told her if I knew she was going to do that but she always tells me that her and her parents are always fighting and that she doesn't like to tell them anything. My youth pastor informed me of otherwise.

I don't know its a whole messed up situation and I don't know what to do. I realize that what I did was wrong but I also realize that I need prayer and some encouragement.... Imma go ttyl

You are not alone. i lost my virginity to my cousin. Two sins in a row, but the Lord was forgiveful and that's all that matters, that you have the Lord who will always forgive you and love you. If the truth is in you you should be able to have peace and joy in the midst of all those storms.

 

[Psalmangel]

All that matters is that the Lord can forgive you, and as long as you know that and have faith i that (and perhaps take it personal), you should not be too hard on yourself. If you fall get up and try again. Remember that God is love and forgiving and you will be able to walk through the storm

 

[imperfectchristian]

God, the Bible and most ministers tell us not to have sex before marriage because sex outside of marriage overall is harmful to us. You may not see that now, but when you go to get married and you are not a virgin offering yourself to your husband then you feel like you have robbed them in a sense and given that personal experience to someone else other than your spouse...same thing for guys. Also, a first time sexual relationship experience is very binding. Don't ask me how but you are bound to that person forever emotionally. Now one time sexual encounter...not really but once you have repeated sexual experiences with a person, you will be connected with them forever. I know that sounds strong, but you are 15 and experiencing sex so someone needs to tell you the adult facts of the situation. You have got to make adult decisions about sex because you will most certainly get adult consquences. God, your youth pastor and your parents are going to love you know matter what. It is not a matter of love it is a matter of what is best for you and the rest of your life. Save your sexuality for your husband and you will be thankful and glad that you did. In love sis.

 

[doglover]

I think it's really sad that your parents, youth pastor, and friend and her mom all won't talk to you now. As previous posters have said, you knew you did something wrong, but if you ask for forgiveness, God WILL forgive you. And the job (IMHO) of the people in your life right now is to love on you, not condemn you. You need encouragement, support, and prayer right now, not condemnation. I will pray for you, and I hope that the people close to you in your life will too, and hopefully they'll be there for you.

 

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