I lost my chance to be saved.

[Valetic]

His plan for me was to submit to His will, give up the relationship and to serve Him wholeheartedly, perhaps go to the mission field. I didn't do His will, you have to do the will of the Father to go to heaven. Matthew 7:21.

Wrong again. The will of the father is eternal life through Jesus Christ. You have a different walk in life being married than you do as being someone who is single celibate.

 

[Kim R]

You are so don't let anybody else tell you otherwise. You are safe.

But God is gone. I look for Him everywhere and He is gone.

 

[Kim R]

i am sure that is not true. you are alright, its probably just your anxiety making you think that? i don't know. Jesus is the only way to eternal life so of course if we dont follow him how are we ever going to get there and be an over comer without falling apart in this world and without Jesus. i am kinda going through something similar and i am scared too, really scared, i keep hesitating, but if i say i love him soon or later i'll have to decide or go because if we are not with or for Jesus we are against him so...how did God tell you this?

Right and I didn't follow Jesus. You have to follow Jesus to go to Heaven. Now it is too late, there is no opportunity for me to follow Jesus anymore. God told me this through just sensing His direction and warning of Hell.

 

[Valetic]

But God is gone. I look for Him everywhere and He is gone.

Where can you go from his presence? When you were saved you acknowledged Him. You have shared your testimony. You are safe.

 

[Serving Zion]

Whatever voice she heard was demonic, clinical, or mental. Not God.

That is not necessarily true, but I will say that her present torment is (1 John 4:18).

 

[Valetic]

That is not necessarily true, but I will say that her present torment is (1 John 4:18).

Why would God tell one of his children that if they married this person that they would go to hell?

 

[Kim R]

and it has nothing to do with salvation being free, with Jesus we are free, he frees us, we have walk with him and in him to overcome this world so you wont fall apart, we'll never make it without him, he is the only way girly.

Well, I am without Him and I'm not gonna make it.

 

[Serving Zion]

Op, at this time you are struggling to recognise Him, that is all. I would like to share this booklet with you, that He often uses to remind people of who He truly is. God is love, and those who stay in love stay in God, and GOD IN THEM!

Keep this in mind, that the world will know we are His disciples by the love we have for one another.

Love does not rejoice with injustice, but rejoices in the truth!

 

[Valetic]

Well, I am without Him and I'm not gonna make it.

As I said you are going to make it kicking and screaming or not. Have some medicine.

Romans 10

9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.

Romans 8

38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

[Serving Zion]

Why would God tell one of his children that if they married this person that they would go to hell?

Love rejoices with the truth. Humans condition is notorious for disobeying Him (Romans 6:16). I do not know what conditions were on the table at the time that would have made hell a just reward for going into marriage with that man, which of course is the defining factor. Either way, she has believed that she disobeyed God, and that is enough for the adversary to get a foothold - regardless if it is valid. There is no honour among thieves.

 

[Tutorman]

But God is gone. I look for Him everywhere and He is gone.

God is everywhere, the demon or whatever is was that you were hearing is gone.
God loves you.
God has forgiven you.
God is not angry at you.
And God will never leave you, nor forsake you.

 

[Job3315]

Brother I do not wish to offend you when I say this. She blames herself for losing salvation. She might resent him for getting her to marry him. But God wouldn't tell His child if they didn't do some work like not marrying someone that they would go to hell and you lose salvation.

She needs to let go and love and respect her husband and he needs to love her also. She also needs to realise she just confessed her born again experience and that she is safe forever more!

She need only be still and know He is God.

She probably needs to study up some more if she fell for this false gospel. It's obviously got her all messed up.

Whatever voice she heard was demonic, clinical, or mental. Not God.

You are not offending me. I actually agree with you in what you say, I just have another point of approaching it.

What I am trying to say is that sometimes its just better to own and accept the situations we get ourselves into and then part from there.

I am a sister.

 

[Valetic]

I am a sister.

My bad. LOL

 

[Valetic]

Love rejoices with the truth. Humans condition is notorious for disobeying Him (Romans 6:16). I do not know what conditions were on the table at the time that would have made hell a just reward for going into marriage with that man, which of course is the defining factor. Either way, she has believed that she disobeyed God, and that is enough for the adversary to get a foothold - regardless if it is valid. There is no honour among thieves.

From what I got, she got saved and then down the road God told her not to marry this man or else she was going to hell. And the way she makes it sound is like an actual loss of salvation. I'm not convinced as that sounds contradictory to His word.

 

[Serving Zion]

From what I got, she got saved and then down the road God told her not to marry this man or else she was going to hell. And the way she makes it sound is like an actual loss of salvation. I'm not convinced as that sounds contradictory to His word.

God's speech does have a way of trying the mind and revealing the very intention of our heart. It is entirely possible that she has misconstrued what He said (and even more likely that it has been misrepresented to us some 2.5 years later).

 

[W2L]

It is entirely possible that she has misconstrued what He said

Yes thats true. It would still be a sin though because she went against her conscience. However God is merciful. The scriptures say His mercy is new every morning. Praise the Lord.

 

[Valetic]

If it was as you guys say then God was warning her that life is going to be hell. That's the only way I can see it happening this way. I'm still unconvinced regardless.

 

[Serving Zion]

If it was as you guys say then God was warning her that life is going to be hell. That's the only way I can see it happening this way. I'm still unconvinced regardless.

She clearly doesn't appear to be in the better place (yet - Hebrews 12:22-24).

 

[Valetic]

I suggest she study more. Maybe see a pastor. Maybe a little deliverance? This family is definitely on my heart tonight. Will be praying here shortly

 

[Thedictator]

Please help. I posted awhile back but can't find that thread anymore. I thought I was saved for 11 years. A few years ago I prayed and asked God to show me what was causing my mild anxiety and depression. He showed me that I did what the Rich Young Ruler did. During 2004-2006 God was asking me to give up a relationship and follow Jesus. I did not. I did what the Rich Young Ruler did and held onto my idol, I married the person. You have to follow Jesus to be saved. "He who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is not fit for the Kingdom." Luke 9:62. Ever since I got married I started to decline as a person. I can't accomplish anything, I can't overcome anything, I do not have the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus has left me. I will spend eternity in hell.

What do I do? I sit and rock back and forth like a mental patient. My husband is angry at me. Figures, I am going to hell and my husband is mad at ME. I'm not the one who forbade the relationship. Most importantly, I am scared to death. I so badly want to fix this but it's too late. Do you have any idea how that feels? I will never be a part of God's Kingdom and I so badly wanted to be. I just didn't know it worked like this, that you could be damned for this. Anyway, I keep deteriorating whereas Christians go from glory to glory. My husband is saved and I have to sit here and watch his life when he is the one who pushed me into the marriage causing my damnation. I told him 1000 times we couldn't be married.

What do I do? How do I handle all this fear, sadness, and anxiety. It is 24/7. I can't even be a mom to my 4 beautiful kids. I have tried a million times to get saved it is just too late. I feel like going to the mental hospital (I have been there 8 times). I feel like I need to do something or go somewhere but I don't know what or where. I need comfort but I'm afraid it's over for me for all of eternity. Had I known what I was giving up by getting married. Every girl dreams of being married. I feel like good took a little girl and just decided to beat the cr*p out of her for fun, because of sick and twisted motives. I am 35 and have never been in love and never will be. Please help me I am panicking as I have been the past 2.5 years since I found out. I need help mostly with the panicking.

You need to get some professional help, find a good Christian Therapist. You have some serious problems to deal with, that you will not get from this forum.

First God did not tell you that you could not get married, Read 1 Corinthians 7, God is telling Christians that if they fill the need to get married it is ok to do so, especially if it keep you from sinning. God does not go against his own Word. What ever idea gave you that God told you not to get married is false. You have badly misinterpreted scripture and twisted it's meaning. The way you follow Jesus Christ is to do what the Word says about salvation and live a Christian life that the Bible has commanded us to live. No place in scripture dos it say you follow Jesus by not getting married. If you are having problems with your marriage it is not because God told you not to get married. I believe you are trying to blame God your problems, instead of dealing with them. So go get some real help because you really need it.