I lost a friend to suicide and as far as I know she was a christian at least in the past anyway. It makes me want to cry when I think of her memory. When a song came on the other day on the radio it was a song I played for her once and it is not easy to hear that song . I keep looking at the past and I need prayer to let go of her or her memory and the past. I want God to heal my heart and for my mind to not wander back to her memory. I cannot get over this on my own I need God and prayer. I know theyll be a scar but I need him to heal my heart and soul.
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I lost a friend
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I'm sorry for your loss and you're in my prayers.
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Losing someone to suicide is always tough. I am so sorry ruta. I understand your pain, having lost a friend to suicide a few years ago. I understand about hearing things or seeing things, and the pain becoming intense. This will happen for a while ruta. It is part of the grieving process and it is horrible and so so painful.
In time, these feelings WILL ease. You will never forget your friend, but you will not be so consumed by the grief. Allow yourself to grieve and don't be afraid of it and of the feelings, painful though they are right now. It is so hard to let people go - I know that. But you will do it bit by bit, but not in such a way that you do not remember your friend with love and gratitude for having known her.
I pray for you ruta, and for healing for you, and for the pain to ease. God be with you and please talk whenever you want/need to. Hugs to you.
In time, these feelings WILL ease. You will never forget your friend, but you will not be so consumed by the grief. Allow yourself to grieve and don't be afraid of it and of the feelings, painful though they are right now. It is so hard to let people go - I know that. But you will do it bit by bit, but not in such a way that you do not remember your friend with love and gratitude for having known her.
I pray for you ruta, and for healing for you, and for the pain to ease. God be with you and please talk whenever you want/need to. Hugs to you.
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One of my current friends just found out he has cancer. That friend is still alive today, fighting strongly against cancer, and receiving many prayers. I believe these prayers help this friend, he is so loved.
I will do the same for you, friend, you and your friend will both be in my prayers.
Take care.
God bless.
I will do the same for you, friend, you and your friend will both be in my prayers.
Take care.
God bless.
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I was touched by all the comments. @dogear thankyou for your sympathy and empathy as you yourself are going through a really difficult time, God be with you bro. @ rowan tree yes I do want to talk . To be honest I have been enjoying life and getting on with life I havent really thought about my grief lately. I have taken on board your wisdom about not being afraid of it , that was a really good point. I think many who grieve like myself are afraid to fully grieve to let it all out . A little more about my story it initially hurt so much as it was quite a dramatic suicide - dont want to say to much in respect to the person's family. The difference with me is I dont wallow in self pity anymore about the grief, God has eased the pain and helped me focus on other things . However I am ready and want to when those painful thoughts, memories should arise.
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Losing someone is tough. Please look towards the light and let the emotions hit, even if they hit hard, so they can pass and allow God to heal you. Bottling them all up makes God sad as he created you along with your emotions. This is why we love so deeply.
I'll be praying for you.
I'll be praying for you.
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I want to share a couple of things that can be a great comfort to all.
I was listening on Youtube to a woman whom God takes regularly to Heaven. God shows her things about Heaven, Himself, what awaits us; she listens in to conversations the saints have about their love ones on earth. She said that they don't know she it there, but God allows her to listen to their conversations, then God gives her their relatives contact information, and she shares what she saw and heard. These people can even be contacted for verification and they validate the things that she has seen and heard.
This is intended to comfort the relatives. One things she does say is that our departed loved ones in Heaven speak about us on earth all of the time. They are waiting for us to get there, and they are collecting gifts for you (waiting in your mansion).
She said that their is a "portal" where the saints go up a stairway and then whoever they think of looking over it, they can see them on earth from as close as your ceiling! They look all of the time and can see what goes on in our lives. She said no one misses an important event in your life, graduations, births, celebrations, etc. They are always there. She said God even allows them to attend their going away send offs.
She said if they see sin in their loved ones lives on earth, that they declare that the plan of God will come to pass in your life. They can see the devils that afflict and cause people to do things they would never do on their own.
What is important here is that God has made a way where Heaven takes part in the move of God on the earth. The saints worship with us in our churches, visiting friends and loved ones fellowships, and worshipping with them.
We're told that we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses, and they are cheering us on to fulfill God's plan in our lives. Really, we have not "lost" our friends, and we can get a revelation of this in our spirits, we now know that we still are one with them. They know where we are in the fulfillment of God's plan and they often watch. So make it count and don't get carried away in grief (easier said than done, I know). Realize that they are still with us.
One other important thing. God talked to her about suicides. He judges them on a case by case basis and just because believers commit suicide, doesn't mean they automatically go to Hell like many loudly preach. Many are consumed by grief, carry a sickness, are out of their right minds (by means of illness or medication), etc., and do what they do as a means to end their own suffering. This is real hope my friends, because the enemy comes to torment and consign them all to Hell, but that's just not the case. She saw someone in heaven who killed themself, and God wanted her to contact the person's father and tell them what she saw and heard.
If you want to hear more about this person, check out this link and be encouraged about Heaven as an extension of our lives here, and that they actually take part in what we do here, howbeit the saints in a cheering section. Be blessed saints!
I just picked on of many links on her. This one is actually not read by her, but someone else read one of her books. Her own testimonies are own Youtube as well. These are probably a little better.
I was listening on Youtube to a woman whom God takes regularly to Heaven. God shows her things about Heaven, Himself, what awaits us; she listens in to conversations the saints have about their love ones on earth. She said that they don't know she it there, but God allows her to listen to their conversations, then God gives her their relatives contact information, and she shares what she saw and heard. These people can even be contacted for verification and they validate the things that she has seen and heard.
This is intended to comfort the relatives. One things she does say is that our departed loved ones in Heaven speak about us on earth all of the time. They are waiting for us to get there, and they are collecting gifts for you (waiting in your mansion).
She said that their is a "portal" where the saints go up a stairway and then whoever they think of looking over it, they can see them on earth from as close as your ceiling! They look all of the time and can see what goes on in our lives. She said no one misses an important event in your life, graduations, births, celebrations, etc. They are always there. She said God even allows them to attend their going away send offs.
She said if they see sin in their loved ones lives on earth, that they declare that the plan of God will come to pass in your life. They can see the devils that afflict and cause people to do things they would never do on their own.
What is important here is that God has made a way where Heaven takes part in the move of God on the earth. The saints worship with us in our churches, visiting friends and loved ones fellowships, and worshipping with them.
We're told that we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses, and they are cheering us on to fulfill God's plan in our lives. Really, we have not "lost" our friends, and we can get a revelation of this in our spirits, we now know that we still are one with them. They know where we are in the fulfillment of God's plan and they often watch. So make it count and don't get carried away in grief (easier said than done, I know). Realize that they are still with us.
One other important thing. God talked to her about suicides. He judges them on a case by case basis and just because believers commit suicide, doesn't mean they automatically go to Hell like many loudly preach. Many are consumed by grief, carry a sickness, are out of their right minds (by means of illness or medication), etc., and do what they do as a means to end their own suffering. This is real hope my friends, because the enemy comes to torment and consign them all to Hell, but that's just not the case. She saw someone in heaven who killed themself, and God wanted her to contact the person's father and tell them what she saw and heard.
If you want to hear more about this person, check out this link and be encouraged about Heaven as an extension of our lives here, and that they actually take part in what we do here, howbeit the saints in a cheering section. Be blessed saints!
I just picked on of many links on her. This one is actually not read by her, but someone else read one of her books. Her own testimonies are own Youtube as well. These are probably a little better.
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Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted... This means you.
I am sorry for your loss...Have been there. As others have stated it is a process, but you will make it through.
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I am sorry for your loss...Have been there. As others have stated it is a process, but you will make it through.
Prayers for comfort
Grace
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