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I like being in the background...

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BigNorsk

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Our council doesn't like our secretary and can't understand what she does. They have reduced her to one day per week for four hours. Needless to say, I now have more to do in the office. :doh:

If you just do what she did, you are just confirming to the council that you didn't need a secretary. Fill up your schedule a couple of weeks in a row. And when they ask why there's no bulletin, and so on, just say, well the secretary doesn't have enough hours to get it done anymore and I wasn't hired as a secretary, I have a flock to take care of. Then suggest that maybe the council would like to come in for a day or two a week and get those things done.

A little passive agression can go a long ways sometimes.

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If you just do what she did, you are just confirming to the council that you didn't need a secretary. Fill up your schedule a couple of weeks in a row. And when they ask why there's no bulletin, and so on, just say, well the secretary doesn't have enough hours to get it done anymore and I wasn't hired as a secretary, I have a flock to take care of. Then suggest that maybe the council would like to come in for a day or two a week and get those things done.

A little passive agression can go a long ways sometimes.

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These conversations have been had, actually. There even was a suggestion about a volunteer to do the bulletin. But when volunteers were sought, no one wanted any part of it. Time will tell what becomes of it.
 
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Hi Jenley! Sorry I'm so late to the thread to welcome you. :blush:


We once belonged to an LCMS church where the secretary was spreading lies about the pastor, in that he did nothing all day etc.... A couple of months later she was diagnosed with early onset alzheimers. But folks still believed what she said. It was the beginning of the end for our pastor friend.

Hmm...all I can say is :confused::scratch::mad::sigh:

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Hi Jenley
I think I know what you are trying to say. Because you are secretary, people think you know more than what you probably do. I don't see anything wrong with the Pastor wanting input on things like paint and such. He may have even asked others. Even the question about the vicar, he may be asking others too.

As a Pastor's wife, people assume I know who is in the hospital and why, who has what personal problems, who Pastor has visited and when, even that I am a theologian too. They think I have an inside track. I can see where it may be the same with the secretary.

I have learned to act like I don't know what they are talking about when they try to pump for information. This church is very good about not asking for information. When I do give input, I know that it is okay to say something. Or if people are saying something that is not correct, I may make a statement that there is more to a story than we know and that is true of many situations. I had to do that recently regarding a situation I actually knew nothing about.
 
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Hi Jenley
I think I know what you are trying to say. Because you are secretary, people think you know more than what you probably do. I don't see anything wrong with the Pastor wanting input on things like paint and such. He may have even asked others. Even the question about the vicar, he may be asking others too.

As a Pastor's wife, people assume I know who is in the hospital and why, who has what personal problems, who Pastor has visited and when, even that I am a theologian too. They think I have an inside track. I can see where it may be the same with the secretary.

I have learned to act like I don't know what they are talking about when they try to pump for information. This church is very good about not asking for information. When I do give input, I know that it is okay to say something. Or if people are saying something that is not correct, I may make a statement that there is more to a story than we know and that is true of many situations. I had to do that recently regarding a situation I actually knew nothing about.
Exactly! And no, I am not the only one he is talking to and bouncing ideas off of...

Just this afternoon I overheard a lady say "Jen knows everything"
I yelled from my office... Jen does not know everything.
Then got up and walked out into the foyer to talk to the lady.
She then made the comment that I know stuff I can't tell her that I know
I laughed and said... Can't tell ya' and walked away:doh:
 
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These conversations have been had, actually. There even was a suggestion about a volunteer to do the bulletin. But when volunteers were sought, no one wanted any part of it. Time will tell what becomes of it.
Make sure there are a couple typo's every week...

That's how they got me;)
 
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Exactly! And no, I am not the only one he is talking to and bouncing ideas off of...

Just this afternoon I overheard a lady say "Jen knows everything"
I yelled from my office... Jen does not know everything.
Then got up and walked out into the foyer to talk to the lady.
She then made the comment that I know stuff I can't tell her that I know
I laughed and said... Can't tell ya' and walked away:doh:
I love it.
 
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Make sure there are a couple typo's every week...

That's how they got me;)
Just make sure they aren't too funny, or they'll keep you just for entertainment! Which reminds me of a story... I do the bulletin at our church- put in the info, anyway, then Pastor's wife prints it (I always email it to her, so she can add anything that she thinks of). One Sunday she added a note about a signup sheet for some upcoming event, and it said there was a 'sin up sheet' for anyone wanting to help out! :D
 
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Just make sure they aren't too funny, or they'll keep you just for entertainment! Which reminds me of a story... I do the bulletin at our church- put in the info, anyway, then Pastor's wife prints it (I always email it to her, so she can add anything that she thinks of). One Sunday she added a note about a signup sheet for some upcoming event, and it said there was a 'sin up sheet' for anyone wanting to help out! :D

cute story!! :thumbsup:
 
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Just make sure they aren't too funny, or they'll keep you just for entertainment! Which reminds me of a story... I do the bulletin at our church- put in the info, anyway, then Pastor's wife prints it (I always email it to her, so she can add anything that she thinks of). One Sunday she added a note about a signup sheet for some upcoming event, and it said there was a 'sin up sheet' for anyone wanting to help out! :D
Oh man, and at my church, I would never hear the end of it!!
 
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