I like a guy, how do I get to know him better?

[sweetlambofgod]

just ask him to hang out or for coffee

 

[JPPT1974]

Just get to know one another
As a friend first
Then take it from there!

 

[Deliberatetourist]

Take a step back in your thinking. That's what I would do. I don't think you're to the point yet where you should think about it as "pursuing" him (if you're using the term how it is often used). Pursue a friendship with him. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about a girl and a guy spending time together as friends. Ask him out for coffee. Not like a date. Like going out for coffee. Don't worry about letting him know you're interested. Just be interested in being his friend, and see where things go. It's dangerous to start off being interested in dating eachother. At least, many people have been burned by that. Anyway, this post felt like a huge ramble... hope there was something of use in it!

Why beat around the bush about it? Obviously there is something about this dude that is attractive and that facet of his existence is most likely not the sole observation of the OP. Face it...us guys have short attention spans. If she drags her feet she may end up being friends with a guy she likes who fell prey to a more assertive female. It's a jungle out there. Here's my advice. Make your intentions known to him. Us guys like a woman to appears to know what she wants, especially when it's us. But before you go out on that date get a copy of a popular feminist guidebook and read it very carefully. Then under no circumstance ever entertain any of that garbage in your mind or talk about anything remotely related to it. Anything from the Oprah book club should do.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Someone help, I need some dating advice!

I work as a receptionist, and there's a client at work that I've developed a little bit of a crush on. We chat quite a bit whenever he comes in (I usually see him about twice a week) and he seems like a very nice guy (and yes, he's a Christian ). Some of my coworkers think he's interested in me too. I'd really like to get to know him better, but I won't ask him out because 1) I'm at work and 2) I'd rather be pursued than to do the pursuing. He's quite shy and seems like he's the type of guy who would find it hard to ask a girl out. Actually, I don't even want a "date", I just want to go for coffee to get to know him better and see if he's someone I'd be interested in (okay, maybe that's a date, but I'm not talking in a romantic sense since I hardly know him) So, what can I do to let him know I'm interested? How obvious should I be? Should I just go for it and nonchalantly ask him to go for coffee? Ahh, these things are so complicated
Thanks a bunch!
Jen

Would your work (manager) have an issue with you trying to date a client? You might want to find that our first. I know that dating a co-worker is frowned up, I'm not sure about a client but I think it might be because if you did date the guy and you two broke up with hard feelings the business you worked for might loose his business as a result.

If that was ok with the boss and all, then I would first try and see if he is married or dating. Guys rarely will tell someone if they are already attached sigh: ). My bf is a really shy guy and if someone starts a conversation with him he will just talk and in most cases it will never come up that he is dating and I think that many girls would think that he is interested in them when he is just being nice...lol...

 

[Nera]

Just start talking to him.
You might even find out he likes you back