I have hocd how do I get rid of it?

[Jordan Andrew]

Hi I'm jordan and have what I believe is called hocd for 3 weeks now I am a 14 year old christian and all of a sudden 3 weeks from today I had a thought that I might be gay I researched and researched and took test too see if I was and it came out as straight but I still have instructive thoughts about being gay and never having a family. From when I was 7 I
always visualised myself with a woman and kids and a happily married person but when I turned 14 everything changed I started to get gay thoughts and because people at my school called me gay I started to believe I was even though I like girls. I started to experiment if I was to prove if I was or not but it only made it worse now every time I look at a guy who is considered to be
Good looking by girls I have intrusive thoughts when I never used too I need help please!

 

[Spikey4672]

First off you have to understand that homosexuality is a sin, it is not natural, and it is wrong. If you are experiencing these feelings it is not because it is a part of you as a person it is because sin is trying to take over that aspect of your life. Being gay is illegitimate, nobody is "gay" they just choose to give in to a specific sinful desire. It would be no different than somebody who steals being a robber and who lies being a liar. You have to understand this before you can go forward with fixing the matter. Now the reason these feelings keep coming back is because they are being fed. To even treat them as natural or as a part of you (i.e. Maybe I am gay?) is what keeps them there. There is a very broad distinction between somebody saying I think I am gay and somebody saying I know I am not gay but I am struggling with homosexuality. That distinction needs to be made. Second you are only fourteen, it is a very traumatic time in your life biologically speaking. Added with all the pressure from modern society to glorify homosexuality it is very easy to have these feelings sneak up on you. The best thing you can do is recognize that these feelings are not a part of you, they are sins just like any other, and that what God says is true and he will never put you through anything that you can't triumph over. Find peace in God's Word and in the fact that you literally have the creator of reality on your side so you can win this if you really want to.

 

[mark.blue]

Hi Jordan,

Welcome to CF, I am sorry to hear about your current situation.

Firstly - please remember not to self-diagnose. While you may think your symptoms might indicate HOCD, only a specialist can pass judgement. Medicine, and especially psychology, are quite specific subjects and a general understanding deriving from reading different sources on the Internet is not sufficient to determine you have OCD. If these thoughts are disturbing you, as I seem to understand they are, I would advise consulting a specialist. There is nothing wrong with having OCD. Most people are troubled by unrealistic thoughts at different times of their lives. You are not your thoughts, and just because you have them doesn't mean they reflect in any way who you are.

Secondly - take a moment to think. If you were homosexual, would you feel this bad? In short: No! Somebody who is homosexual does not spend hours debating against themselves whether they like other men. They do not run countless scenarios in their mind trying to determine whether or not they would feel pleasure by being in a relationship with other men. Whether or not they like it, they know they are attracted to other men. You've clearly stated you like girls I believe?

In short, from what you've said I don't think you have reason to worry about being gay. However, if these thoughts are troubling you then by all means please seek professional advice, you cannot imagine how beneficial it can be.

I hope this helped, if you still have any concerns or would like to share any other doubts with us please feel free to reach out.

 

[grandvizier1006]

Sadly, Jordan, your generation is full of sexually confused people. I've had this problem, and the best thing to do is just relax about it. Although the question "Am I gay?" Might seem really I portant to you, it isn't to God. Don't let random thoughts dictate your budding sexuality. It's very hard to "just ignore" an HOCD thought, but when you dedicate your life to God and decide to leave your sexuality up to Him, you'll be ok. Not long as I was scared I was "falling in love" with some guy I barely knew! I have had this problem for about a year, so by this point I realized that it was just my own brain mis-perceiving things. Just remember next time you have these thoughts that they're not the end of your world and that they don't make you gay.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

I honestly believe any thoughts like that is of the devil just trying to convince you of a lie. I have had weird thoughts before that I was like what?! Where did that come from and I realized its a lie from the enemy. Don't worry just ignore those thoughts and don't let the thoughts persuade you to believed a lie.