I have been falsely accused....

[aflower4God]

hi all!

i was on a VERY NON-Christian message board and I was asking alot of questions about well known to the pubic person. Anyway, to my knowledge I really thought that this message board was created for that very purpose. Anyway, this one nasty person accused me of being something that i am 100% not!!!! I feel really sick now and I feel like crying. Anyway, here is what I did, i went to that message board and deleted all of my post that pertains to this well known person, why cause I do NOT like to be harassed and called something that is completely opposite of me! I feel like I am gonna get sick because of this libelous accusations that were made against me. I reported this person immediatly but usailly the mods there say put this person on ignore. they are not nearly as kind as the mods here!
Anyway, has anyone ever had to deal with this situation like this one? If so could you please give me some advice!

A side note: I wish that some people would learn that the internet should not be a place where as they go out of their way to deliberately try to hurt others. It is simple, if you do not like that person just do not post!!! And a word to anyone who is ""rookie" to CF, this place is probably one of the safest places to be because of the moderation staff!!!! And the members here seem to be alot more kinder to others!


Thank you friends!!!!

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I'm sorry you've been treated like that. It's one of the downsides of the internet, I suppose. It's so anonymous and "safe from retaliation" that a lot of people act without any regard for others, forgetting even such simple things as common courtesy.

The only advice I can give is pray for this person and then forget all about it.

 

[goldenviolet]

hello sweetheart i'm dee. your post hit a spot of memory witin me from my own exsperiance. i guess this sorta happened to me once. i joined a board that wouldn't let me in the bible studies because i'm mentally ill. they said i had to show that i wouldn't be a disruption and could keep up with them. i wrote a few protests to the admin, inwhich they sent out the dogs one me. i had all sorts of people pming telling me everything i was doing wrong and blah.. blah.. blah.. anyhow; i didn't know about CF then. and i was naive' enough about other christains to really have this hurt me. i was so discouraged and put off; and i felt ashamed of myself and very confused. so, i hear your post saying the same thing. except is wasn't a christain site. will skip that part... lol for now: i'd say you need to shake the dust from your heals, and move on. don't go back. period. fight the curiosity if you have any to go lurk. it will only prolong your upset feelings. which need to run the course of processing and healing. be pacient with yourself, don't be too worried if you can't 'shake' some of these feelings off, as soon as you'd like. trust that the Lord will reveil wisdom from your exsperiances.
and ofcourse; post your heart out in reaching out to fellowship and have healing resources.

now, the non- chirstain site. just a guess i'm going to make. .. you just got a 'revealation' that you don't belong there. sometimes being unequeally yoked means just socializing with people who aren't too good for our growth. always ask yourself the question of your spiritual growth in situations. if it's interfering some how; then you need to try another route.

you said such lovely things about CF and mods. lol
this place really has alot of wonderful people. great fellowship. great resources. wonderful knowledge and wonderful growth. i'm very blessed you feel blessed here. each member is a blessing. you belong here as part of our family. infact, all CF members are apart of this family.

~ blessings and love! dee

 

[aflower4God]

I'm sorry you've been treated like that. It's one of the downsides of the internet, I suppose. It's so anonymous and "safe from retaliation" that a lot of people act without any regard for others, forgetting even such simple things as common courtesy.

The only advice I can give is pray for this person and then forget all about it.

Very true friend...I will just have to pray and pray about this!!!!!!

hello sweetheart i'm dee. your post hit a spot of memory witin me from my own exsperiance. i guess this sorta happened to me once. i joined a board that wouldn't let me in the bible studies because i'm mentally ill. they said i had to show that i wouldn't be a disruption and could keep up with them. i wrote a few protests to the admin, inwhich they sent out the dogs one me. i had all sorts of people pming telling me everything i was doing wrong and blah.. blah.. blah.. anyhow; i didn't know about CF then. and i was naive' enough about other christains to really have this hurt me. i was so discouraged and put off; and i felt ashamed of myself and very confused. so, i hear your post saying the same thing. except is wasn't a christain site. will skip that part... lol for now: i'd say you need to shake the dust from your heals, and move on. don't go back. period. fight the curiosity if you have any to go lurk. it will only prolong your upset feelings. which need to run the course of processing and healing. be pacient with yourself, don't be too worried if you can't 'shake' some of these feelings off, as soon as you'd like. trust that the Lord will reveil wisdom from your exsperiances.
and ofcourse; post your heart out in reaching out to fellowship and have healing resources.

now, the non- chirstain site. just a guess i'm going to make. .. you just got a 'revealation' that you don't belong there. sometimes being unequeally yoked means just socializing with people who aren't too good for our growth. always ask yourself the question of your spiritual growth in situations. if it's interfering some how; then you need to try another route.

you said such lovely things about CF and mods. lol
this place really has alot of wonderful people. great fellowship. great resources. wonderful knowledge and wonderful growth. i'm very blessed you feel blessed here. each member is a blessing. you belong here as part of our family. infact, all CF members are apart of this family.

~ blessings and love! dee

Hello Dee! First I want to say thank you for your warm welcome. Secondly I want to say I am so sorry that you had to endure such negativity at that other site. I think you are great the way you are. And maybe cause of that negative enviornment that you were in it helped you to find CF and to help others such as myself like you did!

You are full of wisdom and I thank God for what you have written to me here! I will definatly pray about this like you have mentioned.
Thank you so much sister and God bless ya once again for taking the time out to write such wonderful advice!

 

[Buttermilk]

Welcome to our little corner of CF

Unfortunately as you have found, with an internet setting, people can hide behind the mask of their computer, and it probably makes them bolder than they might otherwise be.

If you have any problems here, please let us know and we will try to resolve it.

 

[ADDgal]

hi all!

i was on a VERY NON-Christian message board and I was asking alot of questions about well known to the pubic person. Anyway, to my knowledge I really thought that this message board was created for that very purpose. Anyway, this one nasty person accused me of being something that i am 100% not!!!! I feel really sick now and I feel like crying. Anyway, here is what I did, i went to that message board and deleted all of my post that pertains to this well known person, why cause I do NOT like to be harassed and called something that is completely opposite of me! I feel like I am gonna get sick because of this libelous accusations that were made against me. I reported this person immediatly but usailly the mods there say put this person on ignore. they are not nearly as kind as the mods here!
Anyway, has anyone ever had to deal with this situation like this one? If so could you please give me some advice!

A side note: I wish that some people would learn that the internet should not be a place where as they go out of their way to deliberately try to hurt others. It is simple, if you do not like that person just do not post!!! And a word to anyone who is ""rookie" to CF, this place is probably one of the safest places to be because of the moderation staff!!!! And the members here seem to be alot more kinder to others!


Thank you friends!!!!

i am so sorry that you had to go through that. some people use the internet as a weapon. Remember that person is nasty inside and you are of God. This person sounds bitter and angry. Also, I bet that person is jealous of you. You are far better than to deserve that

 

[Anti Existance]

You should have complained at the moderators of that site,

You need to be like a castle gate closing yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events, if you let the enemy into your castle they will only end up destroying it(even if its family), and leaving you crying over the ruins.From there you can keep on crying, or rebuild your life, i advice you to rebuild your life.

Hon, the world outside is a place filled with darkness and hatred, or in other words, if you step into a cage filled with lions, EXPECT TO BE ATTACKED!

You went in there(the lions cage) completely naive on that you wouldn't be attacked. Although you shouldn't fight evil with evil, you definitly need to learn how to deal with these people and stop opening yourself emotionally to people who have only wrong intentions with you.

 

[tigercub]

I too have copped false accusations of a very nasty kind on another forum. (word to the un-wise, don't annoy friends of mods on some forums) I left it ASAP, got new email, ditched a lot of people involved that were (I thought) my friends and made sure my computer was as secure as possible. I also kept all records and saved pages pertaining to the issue, in case it ever comes up again.

I highly recommend you do the same.

 

[bluemarkus]

hello !

well the people of this world are hurting each other constantly, all the world is under the rule of satan, who wants to destroy people. since we live in times where human lives are precious, they destroy each other from within. so don´t be surprised when somebody wants to hurt you.

it is normal that the tone is different in no matter what other community.

 

[aflower4God]

hello !

well the people of this world are hurting each other constantly, all the world is under the rule of satan, who wants to destroy people. since we live in times where human lives are precious, they destroy each other from within. so don´t be surprised when somebody wants to hurt you.

it is normal that the tone is different in no matter what other community.

So sad but true dear brother, Thanks for the advice and God bless ya!

 

[skunkfeather]

((hugs))

 

[aflower4God]

((hugs))

Thank you sister! Back!

 

[BigNorsk]

May I ask why when someone who is basically an anonymous person on a website says something that you considers wrong and unfair about you why you get so bent out of shape and take it to be such a big thing?

When they said that and then you went and deleted all those posts, that would really look to me like what the person said was probably true, and you felt bad for doing it.

Feeling bad for doing it would be to your credit.

But to delete everything and then complain that what they said isn't true seems inconsistent to me.

But in any case, I wonder why you are so insecure that you would so react.

If you are not what was said, that would become clear to people over time as they see what you do and say. If you run everytime someone says something about you, that really kind of says they are right.

I would suggest, standing and defending yourself when you are falsely accused in the future. Realize of course that it often cannot be proven conclusively right then, but setting the stage that as the others see the both of you over time, they will come to understand who speaks truthfully and who doesn't.

Marv

 

[Shiversblood]

Maybe you should only post on Christian forums.

 

[Wyvern]

May I ask why when someone who is basically an anonymous person on a website says something that you considers wrong and unfair about you why you get so bent out of shape and take it to be such a big thing?

When they said that and then you went and deleted all those posts, that would really look to me like what the person said was probably true, and you felt bad for doing it.

Feeling bad for doing it would be to your credit.

But to delete everything and then complain that what they said isn't true seems inconsistent to me.

But in any case, I wonder why you are so insecure that you would so react.

If you are not what was said, that would become clear to people over time as they see what you do and say. If you run everytime someone says something about you, that really kind of says they are right.

I would suggest, standing and defending yourself when you are falsely accused in the future. Realize of course that it often cannot be proven conclusively right then, but setting the stage that as the others see the both of you over time, they will come to understand who speaks truthfully and who doesn't.

Marv

Well said...

 

[aflower4God]

May I ask why when someone who is basically an anonymous person on a website says something that you considers wrong and unfair about you why you get so bent out of shape and take it to be such a big thing?

When they said that and then you went and deleted all those posts, that would really look to me like what the person said was probably true, and you felt bad for doing it.

Feeling bad for doing it would be to your credit.

But to delete everything and then complain that what they said isn't true seems inconsistent to me.

But in any case, I wonder why you are so insecure that you would so react.

If you are not what was said, that would become clear to people over time as they see what you do and say. If you run everytime someone says something about you, that really kind of says they are right.

WELL SAID! And God bless you for your DEAR AND WONDERFUL post here...WOW this puts a MAJOR skip in my walk!!!! THAT WAS BEAUTIFUL and your advice is SO right on!!!!! SUPER SUPER SUPER advice...WOW you are totally the best!!!!

I would suggest, standing and defending yourself when you are falsely accused in the future. Realize of course that it often cannot be proven conclusively right then, but setting the stage that as the others see the both of you over time, they will come to understand who speaks truthfully and who doesn't.

Marv

 

[aflower4God]

Maybe you should only post on Christian forums.

Thank you dear brother!!! You are right this is a good place to post!!!!

 

[goldenviolet]

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