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So, I met this guy back in early July, we became quick friends because both he and I have gone through something similar w/ our exes and we often texted 5+ hours a day on and off. It wasn't until maybe 3 weeks ago, that our long hours of texting halted and, the texting became less and less.
I am interested in how his day went or how he was doing and would often ask him. He responded and would tell me about his day or how he was doing and I would try and continue the conversation by asking questions, etc., but, usually, whenever I try and tell him about my day or, what not, he usually doesn't respond. It's very frustrating.
However, whenever I see him in person, we continually talk and it's not a problem at all.
The other day at work, I asked this older lady about this and she told me that he's just a typical guy but, is that really all that it is?? Do guys not respond to texts or something? I mean, if I ask a question about whatever, he does respond.
This lady at work told me that her bf of 5 years does just that. That she can go throughout the day and not hear from him at all, almost like she doesn't even exist and he doesn't always respond to her texts about her day or whatever and she said, my friend is just a typical guy.
But, that, I'm NOT used to. My ex, well, even before he and I dated, he Always responded to my texts when he could. He rarely left my texts go unanswered. I don't know many people who don't not respond to texts.
So, can anyone please help me understand?
Should I speak up and say something to him or just let it go? I just don't get the silent treatment when in the beginning we talked for hours on end and now, the texting is down to basically nothing. I don't even know how to continue a conversation w/ him via text, but, in person or talking on the phone, the conversation btwn us can last for hours.
He and I had a talk maybe 2 weeks ago and he told me he realized that he doesn't want to get into a relationship yet, but, especially for me because I need time/space to find myself and I need to work through the different emotions that I'm going through and I need to do whatever I need to do. So, we had an open conversation and we're both on the same page but, the silent treatment and not responding to really any of the texts that I sent him about my day, or, about what's coming up, that I just don't understand. To me, that's not in any way typical for any person.
Can anyone clear this up for me please? Should I be concerned about his lack of response now compared to early on?
I am interested in how his day went or how he was doing and would often ask him. He responded and would tell me about his day or how he was doing and I would try and continue the conversation by asking questions, etc., but, usually, whenever I try and tell him about my day or, what not, he usually doesn't respond. It's very frustrating.
However, whenever I see him in person, we continually talk and it's not a problem at all.
The other day at work, I asked this older lady about this and she told me that he's just a typical guy but, is that really all that it is?? Do guys not respond to texts or something? I mean, if I ask a question about whatever, he does respond.
This lady at work told me that her bf of 5 years does just that. That she can go throughout the day and not hear from him at all, almost like she doesn't even exist and he doesn't always respond to her texts about her day or whatever and she said, my friend is just a typical guy.
But, that, I'm NOT used to. My ex, well, even before he and I dated, he Always responded to my texts when he could. He rarely left my texts go unanswered. I don't know many people who don't not respond to texts.
So, can anyone please help me understand?
Should I speak up and say something to him or just let it go? I just don't get the silent treatment when in the beginning we talked for hours on end and now, the texting is down to basically nothing. I don't even know how to continue a conversation w/ him via text, but, in person or talking on the phone, the conversation btwn us can last for hours.
He and I had a talk maybe 2 weeks ago and he told me he realized that he doesn't want to get into a relationship yet, but, especially for me because I need time/space to find myself and I need to work through the different emotions that I'm going through and I need to do whatever I need to do. So, we had an open conversation and we're both on the same page but, the silent treatment and not responding to really any of the texts that I sent him about my day, or, about what's coming up, that I just don't understand. To me, that's not in any way typical for any person.
Can anyone clear this up for me please? Should I be concerned about his lack of response now compared to early on?