I hate myself

[bccc06]

This is a phrase I tell myself about five times a day. I am so stupid for ever thinking I could live up to God's standards. He gives me all the desires of my heart, and I still manage to look at women like sex objects, watch porn and please myself in the process. I prayed this morning and told God I wanted to make a covenant with my eyes, heart, and mind so I may live for him, and to be a husband and father that God wants me to be. I asked him to lift this burden from me, but felt nothing in return. I don't deserve His love or acceptance. I hate myself for doing this to God and my family. I feel like giving up on being a Christian. I feel like a loser and a failure in every category possible and don't blame God for not responding to my prayers.

 

[1watchman]

It sounds like you are reasoning from the natural state. If one does not receive the salvation of God, and goes on trying to follow God's teachings and being religious, they are excluding God. He tells us we are condemned in sin and need His salvation (note John 3:18). Have you received it? See what God says in John 1, John 3, John 14, and then act on it in faith. I believe God will then reveal Himself and seal you by His Holy Spirit. That is the place of salvation and blessing. Look up always!

 

[drjean]

http://www.christianforums.com/t7628469/

It's never good to feel so bad.

Try and focus on the good things of God rather than how you feel you don't measure up. (Carline Leaf wrote a book about toxic thoughts and how that destroys our brains... telling yourself those negative things all day long are becoming toxic...)

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.

 

[belovedharlot]

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[xBladesx]

This is a phrase I tell myself about five times a day. I am so stupid for ever thinking I could live up to God's standards. He gives me all the desires of my heart, and I still manage to look at women like sex objects, watch porn and please myself in the process. I prayed this morning and told God I wanted to make a covenant with my eyes, heart, and mind so I may live for him, and to be a husband and father that God wants me to be. I asked him to lift this burden from me, but felt nothing in return. I don't deserve His love or acceptance. I hate myself for doing this to God and my family. I feel like giving up on being a Christian. I feel like a loser and a failure in every category possible and don't blame God for not responding to my prayers.

You are not a loser or a failure

Fact is none of us deserve His love and acceptance. We are all sinners saved by grace
You know whats the most amazing thing? As undeserving as we are He gives it anyway.
All we need to do is accept it. If we refeuse to accept His Love He won't force it on us

Matthew 11
28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls
30 For My yoke is easy and my burden is light

When we get saved and born again it's our Spirit that get saved, not our body. We will still battle with sin and temptation.
The important thing is don't try to come right on your own with your own strength.
As a human, if you try to come right on your own you may fail.
Take it to the Lord and He will walk with you and see you through it

Whatever you need to make right with The Lord, do it without condemnation.

Romans 8:1 There is no Condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus
Accept His forgiveness then just as important, you must forgive yourself

Don't let the enermy steal you Joy. God loves you more than you will ever know. No matter how much we mess up nothing will ever change it and He will always be waiting for us to come back to Him.

Contrary to the rubbish the enermy tells us, When we mess up that's all the more reason to come to The Lord
His well of love forgiveness will never run dry.

 

[Johnnz]

Beating up on yourself won't help you develop the healthy values of good sexuality that you desire. You need some really sensible. realistic guidance, support and well grounded teaching about sex.

John
NZ

 

[weakenedDeacon]

It is good you hold yourself accountable.As far as Gods laws go,no one can live up to them.When Jesus came,he did not do away with them,rather He raised them even higherJesus fulfiled the laws~NOT completing,but filling full.In the OT,Christ was said to "magnify the law,and make it honourable"Isaiah 4:21.In this same part of the bible,it warns of a people who would hear the word,yet not hear.The holy spirit is within you to drive you to desire the will of God so you will have it written in your heart and on your mind.While you have evidence of the holy spirit in your life,(the desire to obey God),you also have grace given for your inability to follow God.
And as far as deserving God,it doesnt even enter into the picture.Adam and Eve didnt "deserve" to be with God,rather it was His total delight to create us and His desire that we be with Him.He chose to create mankind with a free will,and than gave a set of laws and rules.It was inevitable that we would faulter and that is why there is grace through Christ from BEFORE the world began(2 Timothy 1:9)
I understand your feelings and many others dne of my favorite lines from the bible(although I take it out of context) is "be still,and know that I am God"

 

[Chaplain David]

This is a phrase I tell myself about five times a day. I am so stupid for ever thinking I could live up to God's standards. He gives me all the desires of my heart, and I still manage to look at women like sex objects, watch porn and please myself in the process. I prayed this morning and told God I wanted to make a covenant with my eyes, heart, and mind so I may live for him, and to be a husband and father that God wants me to be. I asked him to lift this burden from me, but felt nothing in return. I don't deserve His love or acceptance. I hate myself for doing this to God and my family. I feel like giving up on being a Christian. I feel like a loser and a failure in every category possible and don't blame God for not responding to my prayers.

Hello,

When we pray sometimes our prayers are answered and we can move forward without further assistance. Often however, God wants us to interact with others to bring us out of the mire of sin. I think talking to your pastor would be a good idea. I guarantee your situation would not be the first one your pastor has helped with.

Posting in our Men's Corner, Pornography Addiction Support forum is another place to interact. You would be with Men only. Here is the link: http://www.christianforums.com/f46/ If you cannot enter or are blocked go to MSC to request permission. Here is their link: http://www.christianforums.com/f883/

Coming to the Ask a Chaplain forum which you can access through the link at the bottom of this post is another place where you can talk to ordained ministers who work at CF as chaplains. We'll do our best to provide assistance and advice.

You are taking action to overcome your problems. Taking a little more is often what a situation requires.

God bless you.

 

[cerette]

Where and when do you do these things? If it's on the computer, you could put the computer in a "public area" where the screen can be seen by others, that should sort of help you from watching things you shouldn't be looking at.

 

[glorify_him]

I use to have the same issue with pornography but i had a pit fall as well yesterday but instead I talked to god and told him i know i was wrong and the flesh was stronger and all i asked him was to guide and help me conquor the flesh. here is something for you bro " casting crowns" east from the west Casting Crowns - East to West - YouTube

 

[fdsfndls]

sin is sin

If God is for us, who can be against us.

 

[emily catherine]

praying for you

God bless you

 

[I Eat Pie]

Hi there. Hope everything works out for you. Try finding some things to do to keep yourself busy and your mind off the bad stuff. When I exercise, my mind is usually off that stuff. Hopefully it works for you too. God bless.

 

[hutch1cor1013]

Everyone has their own vices that they feel like they cannot overcome. I know I do. There is a lot of people that struggle with sins like that. You are not alone. I often struggle with similar sins like yours.

The apostle Paul said in Romans 7: "The trouble I with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin. I don't really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do what I hate. But if I know that what I am doing is wrong.; it is the sin living in me that does it. And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can't. I want to do what is good, but I don't. I don't want to do is wrong, but I do it anyway. But if I do what I don't what to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. I have discovered this principle of life - that when I want to d what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God's law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God's law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin."

Like you the apostle Paul had a sin that he seemed like he couldn't control. According to the verses, "it is not us that is doing wrong, it is the sin living in us that does it." God knows your heart more than you know - He knows you are human and what you struggle with. He knew that before you were born, as He knew how many times you have sinned or going to sin in your life, and He still chose to love you!

Nothing can ever separate you from God's Love - nothing, not even all your sins. In Hebrews 10:17, it also says "God will never again remember their sins and lawless deeds." This means "Christ forgives completely, so there is no need to confess our past sins repeatedly. As believers, we can be confident that the sins we confess and renounce are forgiven and forgotten" (says this in my Bible).

"There is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus." (Romans 8:1). When God looks at our sins (filthy rags), He sees perfect Jesus covering them. That's why God accepts us, never leave nor forsakes us. 1 John 2:1 says, "But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus, the one who is truly righteous." So, when you sin, you have God's Son advocating in your behalf.

If you committed one sin, you've committed them all. You are counted righteous, not because of your work, but because of your faith in God who forgives sinners. No works can ever earn grace.

Ask the Holy Spirit every day for the power not to sin. Stay connected to the Vine (John 15), the only way we can produce good fruit. Galatians 5:23 fruit of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control {self-control, needed to not do desires of the flesh} are by-products of Christ's control or us, we cannot have self-control, etc., without His help. Remember: "I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me."(Philippians 4:13)

Remember also: "God knew all your sins before you were born, and still chose to have Hi Son die for you". We are all Prodigal Sons who the Father opened His arms and welcomed back with unconditional Love. Even after the wayward son tells his Father, "Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son" (Luke 15:21), the Father responded, with love and joy, as He wanted to celebrate His son's return with a feast".

No sin or sins you do will ever separate you from God's Love. Don't listen to the lies of the Evil One. Embrace God's love and grace with open arms and let the Father unconditionally love you.

hutch1cor1013

 

[Logan Musil]

Hi bccc06,
Your post struck a chord in me. I’d like to invite you to the thread I started – ‘From Shame to Infinite Worth.’
Blessings,
Logan Musil

 

[davidtriune]

Want to make it short so you're more likely to read it. 3 things that helped me with lust are confession with Christians (James 5:16), gathering the Spirit through prayer, musing on God's word, and worship (Eph 5:18), and removal of all tempting items that stumble you (Mk 9:43)--all 100% essential. I highly recommend settingcaptivesfree.com (free Christian sex addiction course) which has helped thousands be freed with same principles.