I Hate Guys Who Flirt

[leothelioness]

Before you get the wrong idea, let me explain.

I don't mind flirting in and of itself (what girl would?), but what I hate is guys who will flirt with anyone just to flirt. That I can't stand. Why? Because you think they're flirting with you because they like you, so you get this wonderful confidence about yourself only for it to come crashing down after you realise they had no intentions of pursuing you.

Guys, please don't do this. Seriously. We ladies are schooled to believe that guys show their interest in us through flirtation, so do us a favor and don't flirt unless you really like us. Otherwise, you're just a huge douchebag if you get off on toying with people like that.

 

[Incariol]

Before you get the wrong idea, let me explain.

I don't mind flirting in and of itself (what girl would?), but what I hate is guys who will flirt with anyone just to flirt. That I can't stand. Why? Because you think they're flirting with you because they like you, so you get this wonderful confidence about yourself only for it to come crashing down after you realise they had no intentions of pursuing you.

Guys, please don't do this. Seriously. We ladies are schooled to believe that guys show their interest in us through flirtation, so do us a favor and don't flirt unless you really like us. Otherwise, you're just a huge douchebag if you get off on toying with people like that.

Um, "interested in" and "like you" are not the same thing....

 

[Touma]

What do you consider flirting? I've been accused of flirting before, but in reality I was just being kind and brotherly, as a brother in Christ should be. So maybe we could start with a clear definition of what you feel flirting is?

 

[kevlite2020]

Before you get the wrong idea, let me explain.

I don't mind flirting in and of itself (what girl would?), but what I hate is guys who will flirt with anyone just to flirt. That I can't stand. Why? Because you think they're flirting with you because they like you, so you get this wonderful confidence about yourself only for it to come crashing down after you realise they had no intentions of pursuing you.

Guys, please don't do this. Seriously. We ladies are schooled to believe that guys show their interest in us through flirtation, so do us a favor and don't flirt unless you really like us. Otherwise, you're just a huge douchebag if you get off on toying with people like that.

Where's the line between flirting and innocent compliments? Many of us have been raised to compliment women, especially on their appearance, because it's a nice thing to do that can make somebody's day. I get that you don't want guys creepin all over every girl and trying to get in their pants, but it's hard to understand what is kosher and what isn't.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

To Sarah: How you doin'?

 

[MacFall]

What do you consider flirting? I've been accused of flirting before, but in reality I was just being kind and brotherly, as a brother in Christ should be. So maybe we could start with a clear definition of what you feel flirting is?

Same here.

 

[Tink]

Blind post:

Men - Feel free to flirt with me as long as you let me know if it's real flirting, or flirting for kicks.

kthx.

 

[IDKFA]

I'm ahead of the curve. I hate everyone equally. :D

 

[Incariol]

I don't get it. I never, and I don't really know any guys, who flirted "just for kicks". What would be the point?

 

[SweetDee]

Blind post:

Men - Feel free to flirt with me as long as you let me know if it's real flirting, or flirting for kicks.

kthx.

and sara wins the thread! I heart you, sara. Did you know that?

 

[SullivanZ]

Before you get the wrong idea, let me explain.

I don't mind flirting in and of itself (what girl would?), but what I hate is guys who will flirt with anyone just to flirt. That I can't stand. Why? Because you think they're flirting with you because they like you, so you get this wonderful confidence about yourself only for it to come crashing down after you realise they had no intentions of pursuing you.

Guys, please don't do this. Seriously. We ladies are schooled to believe that guys show their interest in us through flirtation, so do us a favor and don't flirt unless you really like us. Otherwise, you're just a huge douchebag if you get off on toying with people like that.

Women do this too, you know.

It's not just guys.

That is all.

 

[Tink]

and sara wins the thread! I heart you, sara. Did you know that?

I win!! YAY!

And no. I had no idea!!!!!!!!

 

[MacFall]

I don't get it. I never, and I don't really know any guys, who flirted "just for kicks". What would be the point?

Taking pleasure from manipulating the emotions of women.

 

[Incariol]

Taking pleasure from manipulating the emotions of women.

That seems like a dull sort of pastime, most guys I know would prefer to just get laid.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

That seems like a dull sort of pastime, most guys I know would prefer to just get laid.

lol

 

[leothelioness]

Nevermind. I can see this thread is a bust already. Carry on.

 

[leothelioness]

Um, "interested in" and "like you" are not the same thing....

The two can be used interchangibly.

 

[Incariol]

The two can be used interchangibly.

Sure they can, but in this context "like you" means, well, he likes you. "Interested in" means he wants to have sex.

That is the point. Guys generally don't flirt for no reason or some bizarre fetish for emotional manipulation. If a guy who doesn't "like you" is flirting with you, he is probably horny and wants to have recreational sex.

I'm a guy. I was never really all that sheltered or uptight. I know what I am talking about here, and "interested in" and "like" in this context are not interchangeable.

 

[leothelioness]

Sure they can, but in this context "like you" means, well, he likes you. "Interested in" means he wants to have sex.

Maybe to a 21-year-old horn dog. Mature men want more than just sex.

 

[Wren]

To say that men only flirt when they either genuinely want to date someone or just want sex, seems naive. There are plenty of men (and women) who are just flirts. They flirt because it's a fun form of social interaction to them.

I'm with Leo in preferring guys not flirt with me unless they are romantically interested (as in dating, not casual sex) in me.