I HATE 90% of people

[Musician4Jesus]

Yes I really do love God and I really do have a relationship with Him.

However I am so fed up with people.

All most of them have done is screw me over and treat me like dung.

I know people here are going to want more specifics so I'll clarify.

I get no say in anything with my living situation; I am the one who chose to move in, so it's their way or the highway. The person is extremely reluctant and inflexible with compromise. I realize it's their house and their rules, and I live under their roof. However their rules effect me, and I just want a small say in the rules, I don't want to change them completely to suit my favor.


I get no support with my goals; I am told incessantly they are a complete waste of time pointless and meaningless and will basically accomplish nothing. I am constantly at odds, clashing and getting into arguments, because we don't see eye-to-eye on this at all.


Most of my life has consisted of verbal and emotional abuse, some intentional, some not.


I am honest of past experiences with past interactions of my life experiences as well as being honest of past experiences with interactions with Christians.
All I'm doing is being honest (it's my life so I know what experiences and interactions I've had with Christians). I get accused of blaming them when all I'm doing is being honest.

I'm real about my problems and because it's not a happy and pleasant warm and fuzzy message like Christians want to hear, I get accused of whining and complaining.

Many Christians have this delusional and unrealistic view on life that if you exhaust all your resources and use all the opportunities God provides and try as hard as you can, that your disposal things will work out. This aggravates me to no end; that's because it's not not reality and this isn't a utopia.

Sometimes you can try until you're blue in the face and do everything you're supposed to and things still don't work out; it's not being negative it's the reality of a fallen world which is full of disappointment and failure.


I've been rejected and endured loads of stigma; I'm not playing the role of victim, again this has been the reality of a lot of my life experiences.

I've seen many Christians have this mentality that you have to do 'a b and c' to be worthy and deserving of love, and if you don't fit their huge laundry list of requirements you don't deserve love. This really irritates me because Jesus doesn't do that, so what gives them the right to do that?!

I realize Christians aren't human and will fail make mistakes etc. but when they use the line of "christians are humans too and we make mistakes' incessantly as the answer it's like they're just using it as an excuse to be complacent.

Even God expects accountability.


I have not had good treatment with a lot of people in my life so I don't see any reason to trust them or like them.

I have become accustomed to being treated badly by many (NOT ALL) people.

I am so sick of this that my reaction is to immediately respond in anger because I am fed up. I don't have infinite patience.

 

[clark thompson]

Hate does not come from even from the cross Jesus showed love to those who showed Him hate, you to pray to love like Jesus did.

 

[BFine]

I just go through the emotions and work towards sliding all that "hot mess"
off onto God's plate-- He rightly judges and I trust Him because He is true
to His Word.

Making new friends....
I look into the vastness of God's family to make friendship with members
there who are receptive, I've mentioned this before and it still holds true...
I looked for those who are pushed to the back of line and or are sidelined because
they can't be like other active people-- me and my husband have found ourselves
with more of a social life now than we've ever had.

Patience...
None of us have infinite patience nor do I -- amongst all that waiting I did
for over 3 decades, I was busy learning health care procedures, taking online
classes, learning more Hebrew culture/history-- exploring Greek, Hebrew and
Aramaic languages, I also got involved with volunteering, writing/journaling,
learning to cook foreign dishes, taking martial arts, learning about old cars,
learning about running one's own business etc.... everything I took hasn't
been wasted-- over the years I've used all the things I've learned either to
help myself, my family or others.

Just remember-- until I was nearly 36 years old I'd never been on a vacation
or traveled outside of my home state of North Carolina... I had people who
"walked over me", made fun of me/put me down, sabotaged my work, bad-mouth
me, laughed at my dreams etc... now, here I sit in Canada, where I retired at age
37 and me and my husband have a paid for home as of 2009.
Funny, all those who laughed at me aren't laughing now...all those who scoffed at the dreams God gave me, those people aren't scoffing now.
All those who tried to derail me, they are the ones who ended up derailed because
they choose not to honor God and or seek Him for salvation.

Keep pressing on with the Lord... and continue to uphold His Word in your life.
Hard times are going to come and probably stay a lot longer than one wants...
but we can find contentment, just as I found out during all those years I spent
in poverty and being without real friends.

 

[Galadriel]

BFine, Just want to say I love reading your posts and so glad life is going great for you finally! It just takes time sometimes.


To the OP, I understand its tough. There are plenty out there who just want to use and abuse you, but then there are good people too out there who do really care. I have had my share of being stomped on too in life. I am finally learning that I don't have to take that from others.

I too hear ya that life is certainly not all warm fuzzies, and some Christians do like to try to act like you cannot talk about anything negative or real. I used to know a lady who was so super smiley and trying to be positive that you could tell just looking at her she must have been dying inside. I like realism and honesty. Its OK to admit things just plain rot sometimes and life is not fair plenty of the time.

 

[MichaelRockyMtns]

90% of people??? There are 7 billion people. It would be hard to hate 90% of them.

 

[saved24]

I sure do feel for you. God's love is the best. Ask God for His love for others. God bless.

 

[Armoured]

Meh, fair enough. 90% of people suck.

 

[FriendlyJosh]

I'm sorry you're going through the struggles that you are. In terms of your living situation please work hard to save up and move, it really sounds like a very wrong fit for you and i'm sure you'll find a better one. Living with strangers can be difficult, especially if they're just not a good match. So please really focus on getting out of there, instead of trying to change your roommates or their mindset, I think this will help your stress levels a great deal, once you find a better place.(searching on craigslist is a great start).

As far as the other things you're dealing with, it's important to put all your problems, all your issues, wishes, desires, fears, everything at Gods feet, cry out to Him, there is no limit to what God can do if it's His will. He can make all things better.

 

[Quasicentennial]

What a horrible accommodation situation you are involved and I would imagine that a leader has been voted among you so that he/she can assess everyone's private rules, and how everyone should obey the chosen individual's private rules - by having everyone's credit card/bankcard/whatever business card with their name on it jumbled in a plastic container, so that the card name selected will be the winner where everyone must comply to the winner's private rules for 24 hours:.
It's definitely a daily selection game where at least everyone get's a fair share of theit private lives in this accommodation lifestyle struggle:.
Our future-coming kingdom of God, I imagine, would provide enough accommodation for every saved brother and sister of Christ where there will be no frustrations and arguments whatsoever as Jesus can communicate our new future-coming new minds of Christ "telepathically", rather than through face-to-face communication, only because Jesus could be elsewhere doing something else, and yet somehow, still communicate through telepathy at the same time - whether or not Jesus can "doubleconcentrate" with his superior mind is another story.;'*';.

 

[Goodbook]

Arrgh!

What I do is put on worship music when nobody's around and play my guitar and sing to God.

I just quit work cos I was fed up. It wasn't I hated 90 percent of people, but I hated 90 percent of the job..originally I hated maybe just 20 percent but somethings pushed me or rather shoved me over the edge. Wont say anything more as I don't want to look back but thankful Im not there anymore.

In your situation is there anywhere you can go? I found just getting out for fresh air helped. I would go up on the roof of the office and just talk with Him. Nobody was around.

Are you involved in a church that holds to Word of Faith doctrine? Positive thinking stuff. Sounds a bit like that. I would advise you to leave and find a biblical church that allows you to worship in spirit and in truth..i.e. Be real with God.

 

[Inkachu]

Yes. We know. You post the same thread over and over. And over. Never asking for advice, only ranting about how everybody sucks.

 

[Hetta]

Really? 90% of people suck? I love most people that I know, and I wouldn't ever give up on the vast majority of people. Ever.

 

[giantgardener]

Sounds like you are fighting----yourself. You knowingly put yourself into a position to interact with negative people, knowing they are negative. But you want them to not be negative with you? That ain't gonna happen. Face it. It's their makeup, and you cannot change that. All you can do is change "your" behavior, and keep all that encompasses your life focused on what God has for you. Not hoping they will appreciate you or relax their rules because you ask. (In fact, I'll bet the more you ask them to conform to your wishes, it only makes them more adamant, am I right?) So why seek approval/grace from those who have no intention nor concept of giving it? If it aggravates you seeing some Christians assume, if striving to fulfill some "do-gooder laundry list" they will automatically be rewarded for it, it aggravates me in the same way to see Christians trying to force non-Christians to live by our values. They simply cannot! Don't expect them to make the same ethical, moral, and positive choices as a spiritually aware person. They can to some small degree, being human, but will never quite grasp the full result of it. I'm starting to realize that is how atheists are made. Frustrated (and maybe shocked) that God will not submit to their ideals, instead of them submitting to HIS. As far as rules go, if you don't like them sit down and outline a goal/plan to leave them behind, then stick to it. Make it your goal to exit your situation as fast as you can. Sounds like all you can do. They certainly are not going to help you do that when having this free emotional punching bag sitting around, whining...about being an emotional punching bag. This world refuses to conform to a Holy God's desires, so why fruitlessly hope it will ever conform to yours?

You should also realize that you claim to hate 90% of who God loves as much as He loves you. Not a spiritually good thing to do, for your own spiritual walk, let alone theirs. Don't think they can't see your disapproval of their lives, because they certainly can. People are NOT stupid. If you don't wish to walk the extra mile, don't. But don't expect them to regardless.

 

[Kingsdotter]

Here's my two cents:

1) Better to eat a dry crust of bread with peace of mind than have a banquet in a house full of trouble (prov. 17:1)

2) If u want people to like u, forgive them when they hurt u (Prov. 17:9)

3) Gold and silver are tested by fire, and a person's heart is tested by the Lord (Prov. 17:3)

4) Being cheerful keeps u healthy. It is slow death to be gloomy all the time (Prov. 17: 22)

God bless.

 

[Goodbook]

I have a book recommendation for you (apart from the Holy Bible)

Its called the christians secret of a happy life, by Hannah Whitell Smith.

It is not 'the secret' or 'the power of positive thinking' or 'how to win friends and influence people'. It is not positive confession, word of faith. Find a copy, give it a go.

Ive just read the first few chapters, I though it might be schmaltz, but its pretty good so far. More than 90 percent of people who read it say they like it.

 

[Michael Hawk]

Yes I really do love God and I really do have a relationship with Him.

However I am so fed up with people.

All most of them have done is screw me over and treat me like dung.

I know people here are going to want more specifics so I'll clarify.

I get no say in anything with my living situation; I am the one who chose to move in, so it's their way or the highway. The person is extremely reluctant and inflexible with compromise. I realize it's their house and their rules, and I live under their roof. However their rules effect me, and I just want a small say in the rules, I don't want to change them completely to suit my favor.


I get no support with my goals; I am told incessantly they are a complete waste of time pointless and meaningless and will basically accomplish nothing. I am constantly at odds, clashing and getting into arguments, because we don't see eye-to-eye on this at all.


Most of my life has consisted of verbal and emotional abuse, some intentional, some not.


I am honest of past experiences with past interactions of my life experiences as well as being honest of past experiences with interactions with Christians.
All I'm doing is being honest (it's my life so I know what experiences and interactions I've had with Christians). I get accused of blaming them when all I'm doing is being honest.

I'm real about my problems and because it's not a happy and pleasant warm and fuzzy message like Christians want to hear, I get accused of whining and complaining.

Many Christians have this delusional and unrealistic view on life that if you exhaust all your resources and use all the opportunities God provides and try as hard as you can, that your disposal things will work out. This aggravates me to no end; that's because it's not not reality and this isn't a utopia.

Sometimes you can try until you're blue in the face and do everything you're supposed to and things still don't work out; it's not being negative it's the reality of a fallen world which is full of disappointment and failure.


I've been rejected and endured loads of stigma; I'm not playing the role of victim, again this has been the reality of a lot of my life experiences.

I've seen many Christians have this mentality that you have to do 'a b and c' to be worthy and deserving of love, and if you don't fit their huge laundry list of requirements you don't deserve love. This really irritates me because Jesus doesn't do that, so what gives them the right to do that?!

I realize Christians aren't human and will fail make mistakes etc. but when they use the line of "christians are humans too and we make mistakes' incessantly as the answer it's like they're just using it as an excuse to be complacent.

Even God expects accountability.


I have not had good treatment with a lot of people in my life so I don't see any reason to trust them or like them.

I have become accustomed to being treated badly by many (NOT ALL) people.

I am so sick of this that my reaction is to immediately respond in anger because I am fed up. I don't have infinite patience.

I feel like this all the time. But then I realize that most people do hateful acts because they are hurting. When I look at it like that I feel sorry for the person rather than hate, because for some people hate is all they've experienced.

 

[Goodbook]

This is more than my 2 cents but I just want to say you are not alone and its better to concentrate on loving the 10 percent you do like and let God deal with the rest. You are too precious to spend your life and energy hating on others.

 

[Pal Handy]

In the end, we all die and all that we have done and all that we
have tried to build is gone...

Only what we do in the Holy Spirit will endure.

Surrender to Christ and stop hating as hate produces nothing
but death and destruction.

Can you see that your own heart is not right?

Can you admit that you are the one who has a problem?

God loves everyone that you hate.

If you love God, you will love those who He loves.

You are angry because you know that God wants you to surrender
your life fully to Him but you are not willing to give God all of your life.

Until you surrender absolutely to God and give Him permission to
to do whatever it takes to bring you into agreement with His love,
will and purposes for your life, you will continue to blame all others
and defend your own wrong attitudes and behaviors.

Time to grow up.....