I had a bad dream..

[L0veLy]

I can't even begin.. I had a bad bad dream that my hubby was cheating on me.. This is not the first dream for the past month since the baby it's like at least 6-7 times and soo dramatic. It woke me up from my sleep because in my dream i was so devastated and crying so bad I did not know what to do..
He was cheating on me.. and it broke my heart.. We were poor too we live in a small place where everything was rusty and old and broken. The room soo small like a rectangle shape. And he came home and told me everything that happen. Which was that he was with someone and kissed her.. sigh***
I am not insecure I am happy so happy with my marriage.. God has really blessed my marriage...
can someone help me ..why is this happening so many time? It is starting to startled me...

 

[LegomasterJC]

It may be an attack or it may be a fear that you have subconciously... either way, ask God to deliver you from that dream.

 

[rogsr]

No Worries

Hello,

I believe that dreams are probably one of two choices. One, they are signs from God. Two they are stress being burned off in the subconscious mind. I would opt for the latter in your case, even though I also believe in the former. You are probably stressed over some issue, perhaps only subconsciously, and it is bothering you a great deal and so your mind disposes of this stress in your dreams. If you don't mind I like to disect my own dreams and I will try to disect your dream. Your dream to me sounds like a classic case of a new mother becoming stressed about a new child. This is totally normal. You may be, at least subconsciously, afraid that you are now less attractive to your husband and in the dream this fear is brought to life when he cheats on you. The financial stress from having a newborn is emense, and so this fear is brought to life by the poverty you expierience in your dream. Once again this is totally normal. The human mind was created in such away that it can dispose of stress subconsciouly through dreams. If this were not so we would all probably be lunatics . Perhaps you should look at it like this, in the dream you were completely destitute but in reality you are not, so let it serve as a reminder of the many blessings the Lord our God has bestowed upon your family.

Peace-

 

[L0veLy]

Rogsr... The financial part.. i recalled that part before i feel asleep last night I was stressing to the Lord that we were financially burden and wanted a house so bad and thought it was impossible. I also told him that if we have to live here with the inlaws then ok.. Then I feel to sleep.
Yeah about the cheating part i feel sometimes i am not pretty. I told him to his face yesterday that he needs to compliment me more and tell me he thinks im pretty. but he insisted on saying that looks are not everything. I dont love you because you are pretty later on wrinkles will come and teeths will fall out..lolz so he reassured me that he loved me no matter what .. i still need to hear i am pretty gee! lolz
thanks now they all fit together ..it all happen yesterday.

 

[TheMainException]

Talk with your husband. Peace be yours. Pray. I shall pray too. I love you because Christ loves me. I pray that this dream stops and that your husband stays true to his word.

 

[L0veLy]

ahh thanks lawise for your encouragement..lol may christ bless you for your words...

 

[IDS]

Lovely, you wrote that the room was too small. That everything was old and rusty. And that it was a rectangular shape.


You need room to grow. You don't feel that is possible where you are now. What shape is a coffin? Don't let your dreams and hopes die. Your dreams are speaking what you cannot. Your husbands answers satisfy his needs but not yours. You are pretty.


You shared that in the dream he told you he was with someone else and kissed her. Was that all he did? What harm is there in that? Very much.


Men tend to think of unfaithfulness as a physical thing. Women tend to broaden that to include emotional and social indiscretions. An example would be pornography. A man tends to think of porn as harmless. There is no physical contact with another person so no big deal. But a wife is often hurt and feels betrayed (cheated on) if she discovers her husband is viewing pornography, I posted a poem, "Innocent" Porn, over on the Creative Writing board a while back on this subject that looks at what is actually taking place when this happens. Anyways.....


From the dream your husbands unfaithfulness may very well be symbolic. You are supposed to get all the kisses and love and attention. That probably ain't happening living with his parents. Again, the dream may be speaking what you cannot.


Whoever it was that came up with the saying that women are the weaker sex certainly was not a woman. You feel that if the situation was to change then everything would be better. Oftentimes, GOD leaves us in situations so we can become better. The "all things work together for good" of Roman 8:28 makes sense when we see the purpose of Romans 8:29 "pre-destined to be conformed into His image".


I have a prophecy. Ten years from now you will not be living with your in-laws.


Too often we miss today as we long for tomorrow. Enjoy today.


Grow where GOD has planted you and all will see your true beauty.


.....peace.....

 

[IDS]

Abraham had a choice to make
He allowed Lot the best to take


Lot's choice met his immeditate need
Plush pastures for his sheep to feed


But GOD's "second best" is not second rate
GOD blesses those who on Him patiently wait





Joseph could interpret a dream
Things are not always as they seem


Hated by his brothers sold as a slave
In GOD's timing his brothers he forgave


Success is not measured by how much you own
But rather by how much your spirit has grown





Saul lay sleeping at David's feet
Vengenance now would have been sweet


But David did not take the easy way out
Honor has a way of turning things about


The righteous path is lined with "steal-trap" lies
Better a season of pain than a moment of compromise





Saul tired of waiting for the Lord to speak
His resources diminishing his faith was weak


So Saul took matters into his own hands
After all he had to protect his lands


That which feels right isn't always right
We are often tempted to walk in our own light






Oftentimes we struggle with what we should do
GOD has spoken but we look for something new


GOD has a perfect plan not a painless one
In the end you will look more like His Son


When I give my all to Him and wait patiently
GOD is responsible for what happens to me



.....peace.....

 

[forgivenmuch]

i think everyone woman has had some dreams like this.. you just had a baby.. maybe you dont feel secure with your body.. and your hormones have not got striaghten out just yet. your subcontious mind will ussally bring out what you are really hiding. and yes maybe there is something going on in your home that only you know about thats giving you some doubts about your husband. but just pray and be open with your husband about the dreams. i know for my self that i learned the hard way.. about putting my trust in my husband than more than God.. i will never do that again. always put God first and then your husband. and let God help you in every aspect of life. the dreams are normal for your life right now. alot of woman have dreams like that. and most of the time..theres nothing to it.

 

[Highland Watchman]

hm... The only thing that I can really think of doing is to speak with your husband about your dreams and concerns. (Pray first, of course, that God give you wisdom as you approach this).

The others may be right, it might just be stress. But on the other hand, it may not be as well, and you would be wise to be open and honest about this, whichever the case may be. If it is just stress or feelings, then it could help to strengthen the relationship, and bring you closer.

Whatever the reason for these dreams, I firmly believe that God is trying to speak to you about something that needs to be addressed. I do not believe it is an attack, nor should you pray against the dream itself. Instead, you should explore (alongside your husband, and perhaps also with your pastor) just what this dream is saying, and what needs to be done about it.

Because who knows? Perhaps God is trying to get you back on track by showing you how HE feels when we forget HIM and pursue after other things to replace HIM in our lives. That's what I get out of it from what you've mentioned so far... Or perhaps there is the risk of your husband being tempted in this way in the future, if not right now, and the dream is a warning of this, which is an attack... But whatever the dream means, go before God, and make sure to talk to your husband about it.

 

[L0veLy]

yeah i just got married i believed maybe its that i am replaceing God and I think that he wants my attention..
Also sometimes I want to feel more love by my hubby I want that sometime I feel like it's not enough


thanks everyone

 

[Los]

Post-pardem Syndrome can also be a cause of the dreams.

 

[Ave Maria]

Hmmm, it may have been a Satanic attack on you or something. But personally, if I were you, I'd talk to your husband about this. Maybe talking about it will make you feel better. Also, if you consistently have bad dreams, you might want to talk to your doctor and see if they can't give you some kind of medication to help calm the dreams down.