I gotta problem

[AWorkInProgress]

Heya,

Yes I am human and even with all growth I made, life throws me a curve ball.

Some how I become self hating, asking myself why God made me so weak? I feel like it is a seesaw, I will be fine one day and next my mood is borderline depression.

Really pressing on my patience and I just feel really frustrated. Worked so hard just to be knocked down to square one again. Also I am so tempted to go on swearing spree to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] off the moderators in Singles and get banned. Drives me nuts whenever I try to be my sarcastic self they nickpick at what I say.(mods here are not the problem, you folks are great).

I must have forgotten something. Anyways, I am here to humble myself.

 

[Gatorgal]

I hate to hear about your situation. Sometimes God allows us to fall so we can put our whole faith in him to bring us through. If we did not have our weak moments God would never be able to build our strength. Take Care.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Thanks Gatorgal,

Seems God answered my prayer... well I think I know what I forgot. I forgot my disorder of ADD. My knowledge of it is still in my head, just forgot question way I handle things.

Common ADD Communication
Behaviors​

* ​

Not talking—often from preoccupation with internal
thoughts, feelings, worries. we create intimacy by communicating
with each other. Intimacy: "into-me-see"​

* ​

Impulsivity—can be a good thing because it is helpful to
know where your partner really stands on issues, what their real
thoughts and feelings are. Sometimes, poor impulse control can get
the ADD person in trouble over and over again—when you speak
your mind at the wrong time. open mouth, insert foot. to control:
breathe, think first, think slowly, then speak. One way ADD people
try to show their partner they are listening is to finish their
sentences for them. Good intentions, but often leads to frustration.
* Subject changing—very common. Big problem. Because
nothing ever gets resolved. neither partner feels heard, neither
partner feels significant and neither partner knows how you got
from point a to point z.
* Low self-esteem—after a lifetime of feeling criticized and
ridiculed, defensive behavior results. Being told for years that you
are not good enough creates a defensive way of communicating.
feeling like you always have to defend yourself—whether or not
anyone is accusing you of anything—you spend a lot of time and
energy developing your case, so to speak. and, not nearly enough
time listening to what your partner has to say.
* Pressured speech—rapid fire constant talking. Difficult for
partner to get a word in edge wise. the need to get all the
information out there, all at once for fear of forgetting something
(especially common with the hyperactive/impulsive type). Often
unaware of other person's need in the conversation. Become
monologue. Person with ADD often thinks out loud. speaks what
they are thinking. Serves the purpose of self-stimulation.
* Not remaining focused—not being present when partner is
talking due to mind wandering/daydreaming. TV, computer, kids
distract.
* Obsessive thinking—getting stuck in thinking to the
exclusion of everything else (In the brain, it's an overactive
cingulate gyrus).
* Not receiving the intended message—misinterpreting
comments, feeling attacked. ( in the brain, it's the temporal lobe
that is creating this problem). The brain can confuse incoming
information.
* Brain melt-down—usually 1 of 2 things happen. Either a
person can become totally stressed and the ADD person shuts
down, or the stimulation can prolong the conflict. both cause
problems. a person has difficulty sorting through and taking in
information. ADD person walks away. best thing to do is to give
space, physically and emotionally, to gather thoughts and regroup.
* Conflict-seeking behavior—stimulation seeking.
"adrenaline junkie"—"i like to be angry, I feel good when I'm​

angry." Not good for relationships.

http://www.adders.org/partners5.pdf

Thankfully my coworker knocked me out of my thinking trance. Now I have to forgive myself, crap happens. Shame I don't have a warrenty on this mind of mine.

 

[aflower4God]

Hi there dear brother!!!

First, pat yourself on the back cause I think you are ONE of the wisest memebers here on CF, you have always been there for us all and you have SUCH WONDERFUL uplifting advice my dear brother!!!!! I am honored to have you as my CF buddy!!!!

SECOND, dont feel bad we all have days like this. Gosh I have the WORST PMS's ever some months. Recently my dearest friend had a birthday and I was drowing in my sorrows, so I do know how you feel bout those gosh darn down days!!!!

Third, hang in there, and DEFINATLY pour your heart out to the Master, he DOES listen to us dear brother. When I am down I just like being alone and cry to the Lord, I totally feel Him there too!!!

God bless ya and KNOW that you ARE IN MY PRAYERS!!!!!!!!

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Hi there dear brother!!!

First, pat yourself on the back cause I think you are ONE of the wisest memebers here on CF, you have always been there for us all and you have SUCH WONDERFUL uplifting advice my dear brother!!!!! I am honored to have you as my CF buddy!!!!

SECOND, dont feel bad we all have days like this. Gosh I have the WORST PMS's ever some months. Recently my dearest friend had a birthday and I was drowing in my sorrows, so I do know how you feel bout those gosh darn down days!!!!

Third, hang in there, and DEFINATLY pour your heart out to the Master, he DOES listen to us dear brother. When I am down I just like being alone and cry to the Lord, I totally feel Him there too!!!

God bless ya and KNOW that you ARE IN MY PRAYERS!!!!!!!!

haha thanks sister. That's a big hug. O.O

Feeling lot better since this morning. Praise the Lord for hearing my prayer. Admit feel silly that I forgot to pay attention to my syntoms

 

[aflower4God]

haha thanks sister. That's a big hug. O.O

Feeling lot better since this morning. Praise the Lord for hearing my prayer.

Answered prayer dear brother!!! I am so glad that all is well with you!!!!! God listens and he SURE does care!