I feel so lost

[Jh24]

Dear brothers and sisters, I wanted to plead for advice or any form of help. I feel so lost in my faith in Jesus at the moment. I feel like He's silent to me, and my heart hurts so much, because I love Him. I feel like I fail Him because I can't overcome lust. Is he punishing me? I want to hear him so bad it makes me well up with tears. Can anyone help me or give me some guidance? I feel so lost. I dont want to sin anymore, I want to enter into His presence and embrace it. But how do I? I'm so confused.

 

[trophy33]

Dear brothers and sisters, I wanted to plead for advice or any form of help. I feel so lost in my faith in Jesus at the moment. I feel like He's silent to me, and my heart hurts so much, because I love Him. I feel like I fail Him because I can't overcome lust. Is he punishing me? I want to hear him so bad it makes me well up with tears. Can anyone help me or give me some guidance? I feel so lost. I dont want to sin anymore, I want to enter into His presence and embrace it. But how do I? I'm so confused.

Well, you are 24, you are in the peak of sexual/hormonal activity, there is nothing strange or weird that you must struggle with it, if you are a healthy man living in today's sexual/naked bodies society.

Just do not give up the struggle, try to minimize your lust as much as possible (find a hobby, find a wife...). But you will never be totally without it, you just need to learn how to control it.

Minimize the bad outcomes of your sexuality.

 

[Anthony2019]

Read the words of the hymn "Just as I am without one plea" and see that you can come to the Lord just as you are. You do not have to be perfect and get everything right in your life before you come to God. It's the other way around. You first believe in Jesus, confess your sins and it is God who brings about the change.

Ask for the Holy Spirit to help you. It's a prayer you will make that will definitely be answered (Luke 11:13).

 

[Petros2015]

I can't overcome lust. Is he punishing me?

He's not punishing you, you are just facing in the wrong direction. Turn around, He's behind you.

 

[Jh24]

How do I control it, I plead to the Lord everyday, twice a day with all my soul for deliverance. And what daughter of God could ever love someone as hopeless as I? I want to know Jesus so bad, I want to learn how to fight back against sin and be rid of it

 

[trophy33]

How do I control it, I plead to the Lord everyday, twice a day with all my soul for deliverance. And what daughter of God could ever love someone as hopeless as I? I want to know Jesus so bad, I want to learn how to fight back against sin and be rid of it

Sometimes, it needs time, sometimes, you need to get older. Just do not give up and to not have a depressed, hopeless thoughts.

What you are struggling with, we all are struggling with too, there is nothing specifically wrong about you. Just try to find ways how to get it under control. Its individual, nobody can probably give you a specific recipe. Somebody does sports, somebody works hard physically, somebody is drinking geen tea (lowers testosteron)... Pray for mercy, forgiveness and self-control, but also try to fight it from your own strength.

(And BTW, quick masturbation without porn is a lesser evil than to have sex with women, to risk a child etc).

 

[Jh24]

I believe masturbation is a sin personally, and I'm a Virgin, I don't want to rely on masturbation anymore, I wish to seek Christ and draw close to Him. Thank you though or your wise words. Maybe I just need to dive deeper into my worship and prayer. I pray we all find deliverance from this wicked sin. It was also nice to have someone to talk to for a change, thank you all

 

[Petros2015]

How do I control it, I plead to the Lord everyday, twice a day with all my soul for deliverance.

It definitely gets easier with age; stay away from porn though, don't feed the beast. It'll go one forever and get worse and worse. If you try to stop and find you can't, support and accountability groups can help. Gotta learn to love women for who they are not what you want them to be; if sex and lust is 'God' in your life, it won't bring you anything but resentment, misogyny, discontentment, misery and infidelity.

 

[Jh24]

It definitely gets easier with age; stay away from porn though, don't feed the beast. It'll go one forever and get worse and worse. If you try to stop and find you can't, support and accountability groups can help. Gotta learn to love women for who they are not what you want them to be; if sex and lust is 'God' in your life, it won't bring you anything but resentment, misogyny, discontentment, misery and infidelity.

Any advice on how I could flee? I don't get out very often, only when I have to go to university. I live at home with my parents my I feel like I'm awkward to them because I stutter sometimes, and mince my words. I don't have any friends except online. That's why I love the Lord so much is because he loves me for me, and wants to see my rise above sin. That's why I get so downhearted when I sin, because I don't want to displease the only one who truly understands me. I am learning to look at the soul and not the appearance, but I just get overwhelmed sometimes and I want to learn to fight it.

 

[Petros2015]

Any advice on how I could flee?

I'm not sure I want you to 'flee'. What I would advise doing is surrendering your sexuality to Christ. I think men in general and society encourage a 'right to lust'. Hand over the right to lust, and ask for the ability to love, and do that daily. Don't deliberately feed yourself pornographic images or erotica. If you see someone or an image that is sexually stimulating, instead of fantasizing about having them, pray for them. Pray for their health, their happiness, their joy, their peace, their relationship with God and loved ones. Ask God to make you useful; put yourself in His service today. Ask Him, 'open my eyes to anything you would have me do today for others', and you may find yourself in the middle of doing something small but important for someone that has everything to do with love and nothing with lust. You become an expression of God's love for others (love flowing outward), instead of taking from them in fantasy (lust pulling inward). Put sexuality in the back seat for a while, and just get to know people as people (particularly women). We kind of get 'trained' to think that flirting and sex is 'winning'; it's a false definition of validation. Change that definition. Relationships, good ones, are winning. Beginning with your relationship between you and God and you to yourself. Hold on to your viriginity until you find a partner who you know deeply and that you can look at and say 'you know, I would like to see more of you in the world. More of you, spiritually, more of you emotionally, more of you physically. The world would be a better place with more of You'. Because that's what sex is. It's essence is NOT about pleasure, validation, power, fantasy. It's raw essence is a creative process. It creates more. And, you get to vote on who you want to see more of in this world.

Understanding that helped me a lot. There's just not that many people I'd vote for! And, there aren't that many people who would vote for me, but that's OK, in most cases I wouldn't want their vote anyway

 

[Jh24]

I'm not sure I want you to 'flee'. What I would advise doing is surrendering your sexuality to Christ. I think men in general and society encourage a 'right to lust'. Hand over the right to lust, and ask for the ability to love, and do that daily. Don't deliberately feed yourself pornographic images or erotica. If you see someone or an image that is sexually stimulating, instead of fantasizing about having them, pray for them. Pray for their health, their happiness, their joy, their peace, their relationship with God and loved ones. Ask God to make you useful; put yourself in His service today. Ask Him, 'open my eyes to anything you would have me do today for others', and you may find yourself in the middle of doing something small but important for someone that has everything to do with love and nothing with lust. You become an expression of God's love for others (love flowing outward), instead of taking from them in fantasy (lust pulling inward). Put sexuality in the back seat for a while, and just get to know people as people (particularly women). We kind of get 'trained' to think that flirting and sex is 'winning'; it's a false definition of validation. Change that definition. Relationships, good ones, are winning. Beginning with your relationship between you and God and you to yourself. Hold on to your viriginity until you find a partner who you know deeply and that you can look at and say 'you know, I would like to see more of you in the world. More of you, spiritually, more of you emotionally, more of you physically. The world would be a better place with more of You'. Because that's what sex is. It's essence is NOT about pleasure, validation, power, fantasy. It's raw essence is a creative process. It creates more. And, you get to vote on who you want to see more of in this world.

Understanding that helped me a lot. There's just not that many people I'd vote for! And, there aren't that many people who would vote for me, but that's OK, in most cases I wouldn't want their vote anyway

Thank you my friend, these words have given me a new direction to follow, thank you for your wise words ill take them to heart. May God bless you my friend

 

[trophy33]

I believe masturbation is a sin personally, and I'm a Virgin, I don't want to rely on masturbation anymore, I wish to seek Christ and draw close to Him. Thank you though or your wise words. Maybe I just need to dive deeper into my worship and prayer. I pray we all find deliverance from this wicked sin. It was also nice to have someone to talk to for a change, thank you all

If it works that you pray and your bodily needs are away, then its great.

It it does not work, then it does not work... and you must find another strategy. Like lowering your testosteron or learning self-control of your mind.

But if you are still a virgin, then you are doing great with the struggle, do not worry too much. It will get easier with getting older.

 

[trophy33]

And what daughter of God could ever love someone as hopeless as I?

Do not worry, girls/women are not as ideal as we imagine them in our twenties. You will be probably disappointed, later.

And that you think that you are such a bad man and that girls are so high and clean can be a psychological reason why you have such problem.. maybe. And why later, when we discover the problems with them, our lust for them lowers...

 

[SarahsKnight]

Dear brothers and sisters, I wanted to plead for advice or any form of help. I feel so lost in my faith in Jesus at the moment. I feel like He's silent to me, and my heart hurts so much, because I love Him. I feel like I fail Him because I can't overcome lust. Is he punishing me? I want to hear him so bad it makes me well up with tears. Can anyone help me or give me some guidance? I feel so lost. I dont want to sin anymore, I want to enter into His presence and embrace it. But how do I? I'm so confused.

I know this is not much, but, I do want to at least say that I empathize with you in this, sir. And I will pray for you.

 

[Jh24]

I know this is not much, but, I do want to at least say that I empathize with you in this, sir. And I will pray for you.

Thank you, I appreciate your prayer my friend, Petros2015 inspired me though, I need to replace lust with real love. To demonstrate the Love of Christ outward to others, instead of being selfish and pulling it inward with lust. I appreciate you prayers, Ive got a long road ahead, I'll remain faithful in Jesus Christ my King, He will deliver me, and teach me what true love is.

 

[AdoptedPrince]

I dont want to sin anymore, I want to enter into His presence and embrace it.

I have always found comfort in knowing that the Apostle Paul, who God used so mightily, felt the exact same way:

"I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death."
- Romans 7:15 - 8:1

 

[Jh24]

I have always found comfort in knowing that the Apostle Paul, who God used so mightily, felt the exact same way:

"I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death."
- Romans 7:15 - 8:1

Thank you, this really inspires me. I haven’t read this part yet, there truly is and answer for everything in the bible, praise be to the Lord for His perfect word.