I Fear Marriage

[.Mikha'el.]

It's too easy for me to feel like I just want to please myself and stay alone for the rest of my life and stay away from people, but this is sinful.

May I ask what your rationale is for believing contentment as single is sinful?

 

[ValleyGal]

I may be wrong, but I don't think she's saying contentedness in being single is sin, but rather "pleasing herself" (I'm guessing MB) is sinful.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I may be wrong, but I don't think she's saying contentedness in being single is sin, but rather "pleasing herself" (I'm guessing MB) is sinful.

Well, I've got my view on the subject, but it's not one I care to discuss in the open forums given my position as a moderator.

 

[CrystalDragon]

I'm afraid of getting married and having to cook for a guy and having to have his kids and take care of them and socialize with his friends and go to the bathroom in the same house and for him to see how weird i am.... sigh. I like being alone too much. I enjoy sleeping way too much and I don't eat the same foods a lot of people do because I try to be healthy. I am also uncomfortable with my body due to my acne. Even though I am in good shape.

At the same time I want a companion and I like sex. It's too easy for me to feel like I just want to please myself and stay alone for the rest of my life and stay away from people, but this is sinful. It's also easy for me to date a guy and commit acts of fornication and never commit so I can enjoy my free time. That's also sinful.
I feel like I can't love anyone and I'm scared of marriage.

What do I do with myself?

How is it sinful to want to not get married and stay away from people?

 

[RedPonyDriver]

I didn't get married for the first and only time until I was 34. I LOVED being single...I pursued my education, my career, travelled a bit...I met my husband and...well...that was that. Our marriage was stormy for awhile but that's all been straightened out. We will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary at the end of next month. I don't regret a thing...I've had the best of both.