I fear for my safety

[restlesslilly]

I can't take anymore. I just can't. We tolerated his constant drinking and parties. Even tolerated living with him after he sexually harrassed me on various occasions and groped me....then denies anything happened since he was drunk and couldn't remember. There's a whole list of things he's done to us, to the point that one of us are on meds just because of him, and the other two need them.

Last night he had sex with some girl on our couch. I stated when he came in today that "IF he did indeed do that then it was ignorant" He then blows up at me saying "If you ever call me ignorant again....*threat left unsaid" and proceeds to say I am ignorant because he LET me come into HIS place to live after getting myself kicked out of college and needing a place to stay. Riiight.

I pay rent just like everyone here and he didn't let me do anything. I would have moved in here regardless if he had said yes or not. Its not his place, its the landlords.

Honestly, I fear for my safety now. I hope to be out of here asap. Moving out to anywhere but here this week. I don't care. I can't stay here. With my mental health issues, this situation will not help me. And who knows what he will do next? He would never go after the other two living here, but I know he would me. He knows my past and he knows he can hurt me.

I'm scared and I wish I could leave right now.

I'm in Indiana, Pa....anyone care to let me live with them for a month or two? I have a new place but can't move in there until June 4th.

I just don't know what to do. I'm scared and I don't wanna be here anymore.

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Can't you talk to the other two in your home about this? If you are all being terrorized by him, you could contact the authorities/landlord and have him move out. At the very least you could watch each other's backs if he tries anything. What about relatives or friends, do you have anyone you can crash at? I know this is a serious situation, but moving in with a total stranger (assuming you find one on the internet) isn't safe either.

 

[skunkfeather]

((hugs))

 

[ineedUtoloveMe]

Lifting your precious soul up in prayer hun.

Love you

 

[madison1101]

My son lived in Indiana, PA when he was going to IUP. I don't know of any place for you to live, but the Lord does. Pray and seek Him in this situation. Also, if this guy touches you, call the police and file charges against him. You have rights.

Praying for you.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[BigToe]

oh *snuggles* I wish I knew of somewhere you could go! I'll be praying for you.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

I can't take anymore. I just can't. We tolerated his constant drinking and parties. Even tolerated living with him after he sexually harrassed me on various occasions and groped me....then denies anything happened since he was drunk and couldn't remember. There's a whole list of things he's done to us, to the point that one of us are on meds just because of him, and the other two need them.

Last night he had sex with some girl on our couch. I stated when he came in today that "IF he did indeed do that then it was ignorant" He then blows up at me saying "If you ever call me ignorant again....*threat left unsaid" and proceeds to say I am ignorant because he LET me come into HIS place to live after getting myself kicked out of college and needing a place to stay. Riiight.

I pay rent just like everyone here and he didn't let me do anything. I would have moved in here regardless if he had said yes or not. Its not his place, its the landlords.

Honestly, I fear for my safety now. I hope to be out of here asap. Moving out to anywhere but here this week. I don't care. I can't stay here. With my mental health issues, this situation will not help me. And who knows what he will do next? He would never go after the other two living here, but I know he would me. He knows my past and he knows he can hurt me.

I'm scared and I wish I could leave right now.

I'm in Indiana, Pa....anyone care to let me live with them for a month or two? I have a new place but can't move in there until June 4th.

I just don't know what to do. I'm scared and I don't wanna be here anymore.

This is going to sound funny check to see if there is a YWMCA around and see if they have open appartment to rent.

Also check the papers and ask around, do whatever it takes to get out of there. Also check with your parents too, inform them of the situation.

Life is going to be rough from here till July 4th. Probably means won't be able do what you like to do, but you got stay focus and get out of that situation. No amount of comfort is worth living with a destructive personality like that. Also seek help from trusted friends and/or family. Let them know what is going on and accept their aide. DO NOT TRY TO DO THIS ALL ON YOUR OWN. Let people help you if they can, but do whatever it takes on your own will to get out.

I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[restlesslilly]

Thank you all very much!

I wouldn't move in with strangers unless I really had no other choice, but if worse comes to worse I'll just move in with my parents for a few months.

I have told my mom, the three of us have told all of our moms, and they all think we need to gete out of here asap. First, we're going to go explain the situation to the place we're renting from starting in June. If they can't get us in anywhere we will ask our current landlord, because we know he has some other places open in the building next door. If neither one of those work then my friends will have to stay here with him, and I'm going home. My friends can't go home because they go to school at IUP, but all my classes are online so I can leave. The only issue is my job, I would hope they would understand the situation and hire me back when I return.

I hate to leave my friends here though. So I hope we'll be moving into a new place within the next few days. None of this helps my depression and anxiety thats for sure.

 

[UnitynLove]

I will pray for you sis!

 

[restlesslilly]

The landlord can't/won't do anything since he hasn't broken any rules of the lease. The place we went and talked to has nothing open. So, we're stuck here. There's no way out. I could leave and go home, but that risks losing my job. I can't afford that. There is no answer. No place to go. Its all such bull.

 

[BigToe]

are there locks on your bedroom doors? if not, can you install one?

 

[restlesslilly]

are there locks on your bedroom doors? if not, can you install one?

me and my boyfriend share a room with him. The only one who can escape him is our friend amanda, she has her own room. I moved in later than everyone else so its crowded and such. her room is very small and full of stuff, no room for us. He hasn't been here much this week, but that won't last and then who knows what he'll do next? We can't say anything to him if/when he does something again, cause then he'll just scream at us again for being to ignorant ones. I guess we just have to suck it up and stay quiet no matter what he does. There's nothing we can do, nothing. This has thrown me into such despair. I can't believe I have to be stuck here for another 2 to 2 and 1/2 months. I thought God was going to help us. I thought he would help us find a place. Why would he have us stay here and have to go through this misery? Why do I have to live in fear of what might happen next, when I've had to live like that so much in the past? I'm so angry and upset...and I can't do anything. Just sit here and wait for him to walk in, and ignore the sick feeling in my stomach. Just deal with it.

 

[BelindaP]

Have you considered going to the Church for assistance? I don't know that much about Indiana, Pa, but is there a convent nearby in which you could stay?

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Have you considered going to the Church for assistance? I don't know that much about Indiana, Pa, but is there a convent nearby in which you could stay?

I agree. There are options out there but they are not going to come to you.

Matthew 7:7
"Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you."

Your boyfriend and yourself might have to choose something that is substandard but like I posted before No amount of comfort is worth being that close to a destructive personality. Also you just need something to carry you till mid summer for other place.

Anycase I will keep praying for you.

EDIT: Only other path to take is for all 3 of you to confront the landlord and tell him that he is about lose 3 tendants because of 1. Tell him straight up about your fears. ONLY problem I see with this is that if this kid gets wind of this, might provoke a fight. So if anything becomes of it, has to be done fast and with supervision. Just a thought.

 

[restlesslilly]

Thank you all. I think I might go talk to our priest about it. We have told the landlord we were looking to move out, but he really can't do anything about it with no laws broken. We keep hoping he will just leave us alone now, but fear another confrontation coming up since we cleaned our own stuff up yesterday. He was complaining on the phone this morning about it and how he can't find some money or something(so of course we took it, its not possible that he dropped it or spent it while drunk). The only thing we touched of his was some pencils and a tube of lip balm that was on the coffee table. We put it with his stuff. And he will get all nutso over that because we dared to invade his space! I bought my own dishes yesterday so he can't complain about any of us using his stuff. He obviously has issues and none of it has to do with us, but thats what he turns it too. The three of us will probably be going home this weekend. If any of our stuff is damaged when we get back we'll just call the cops. Luckily, he has made himself pretty scarce lately, so hopefully there won't be anymore blowouts.

Thank you all again. Take care and God Bless