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Hey, man ... Hang in there. I've also been through periods of not wanting to live any more -- this week, in fact ... But death wishes are not good things to have. God put us here for a reason -- if he didn't want us to exist, we wouldn't exist. (For that matter, if he decides our time is up tomorrow, then tomorrow we die -- but death is a result of our sinful actions, not something God really wants for us, thus the bodily resurrection promised in Jesus.) I'm reading Ecclesiastes right now, and basically one of the only things to do with your life is to enjoy the gifts God has given you, and help others to do the same. (At least, that's what the first three chapters imply.) We are only here for a very, very, very short time -- God wants us to be happy.

And this next statement frustrates and angers me -- I have many problems and angers with the world -- but happiness is a choice to some extent. (As stated, there can be chemical imbalances causing depression, as well as the more obvious crap going on in your life.) People in the United States are far better off than people in poorer countries, yet those in poorer countries do not necessarily wish for death, but rather thank God for living, just as we do. (Social scientists have found that if one's basic needs are met -- food, shelter, etc. -- one is basically happy regardless of circumstance: being a millionaire does not bring happiness. Indeed, celebrities are known to have hurt and killed themselves.)

So be happy. :) As much as we feel we're alone, we're not. (And if you're sitting in your room alone for long periods of time, go out and join social organizations! Do homework with others, and don't worry about being something other than yourself...)

I don't really know if these thoughts are helping you, or helping me ... I'm pretty depressed, too. Right now I'm reading through the Bible and the Catechism, am participating in the Why Catholic? program at my local church, am reading Good News about Sex & Marriage: Answers to Your Honest Questions about Catholic Teaching by Christopher West, searching for whatever God has to say (I have grave problems with my sexuality), trying to learn what God has in store for me -- but who knows the future but God?

We all constantly fail God, although we apparently don't like to talk about it (because we're ashamed of it. A frustrating paradox, that God wills all things into being, yet allows us free will, is beyond our understanding -- see the Book of Job: who can know the ways of the Almighty? We must simply accept that we are responsible for what we choose to do...) But if we didn't fail God, would God have needed to reconcile us to himself through Jesus? That he chose to do so shows that God loves us despite our sins. A priest at my local church told me Jesus saved all of humanity when he died on the cross, and that is a very powerful statement...

Anyway, peace.
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Jesus died on the cross for us... as someone who has really messed up my life, I just want to say thats why he died for us. None of us are worthy thats why such a heavy priced had to be paid. Accepting that we are not perfect and we need him is when we can see his grace. Remeber, God made us in his image, even you and he loves us so much that he gave his life so we could be with him. He died so we could live. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just ask for forgiveness and guidance and he will set you free.
 
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Wow!

I was just feeling the way you do this morning. In fact I was going to post an entry from my journal when I stumbled across your post. It's important to note that "falling away from Him" sounds a lot like the Enemy whispering in your ear.

Hang in there...I'll be praying for you!

Sorry i missed your post in here. I am praying for you. :crossrc:
 
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Some amazingly good advice has already been given, so I won't add to the pile, however I will pray for you and ask Our Beloved Lord+ to lift you up and keep you in His+ heart.

Please accept my prayers too. When we feel helpless, it is God's turn to act. For this I pray.

Amen.
 
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I am doing a little bit better. I will go to confession tomorrow

Thanks for taking the time to keep us updated. I'm pleased that you are feeling a little better. I think you will feel even better still once you have confessed your sins to a priest. You get a clean slate to start over. Thanks be to God!
 
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Thanks for taking the time to keep us updated. I'm pleased that you are feeling a little better. I think you will feel even better still once you have confessed your sins to a priest. You get a clean slate to start over. Thanks be to God!

until he does them again or does some other sin he will have an guilt complex over.

confession doesn't fix these kinds of issues- it fixes only spiritual ones/.
 
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until he does them again or does some other sin he will have an guilt complex over.

confession doesn't fix these kinds of issues- it fixes only spiritual ones/.

His sins are between himself, his confessor and God. He can share about them if he wants to but i'm sure he would get much more benefit from sharing them with his confessor, and thus, with God. It is through the practice of regular confession that we bend ourselves to the will of God and a holy priest can provide adequate guidance to the penitent, to enlighten their attachment to a particular sin and how they best might avoiding into this type of sin henceforth. Thank God for the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
 
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I am doing a little bit better. I will go to confession tomorrow


I am praying for you. My brother remember that in Christ Jesus we have victory over every sin. He came to set us free, John 8:36. We are more than conquerors through Him who loves us, Romans 8:37.

And also remember that you are loved. God loves you, John 3:16, even in all your imperfections, Romans 5:8.
 
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I am doing a little bit better. I will go to confession tomorrow

I am so glad to hear you are doing better. And it did take some courage for you to come back here and post. Thank you for doing that. I hope that you will continue to post here. You'll find a lot of friends and may have some fun conversations that even make you laugh. Take good care of yourself and don't forget about us, whether you need a prayer, a shoulder to lean on, or someone to laugh with.
 
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