I don't understand

[ChildByGrace]

My sister in law (hubby's sister) came round yesterday to say hi as she hasn't seen me since Christmas therefore this was the first time she saw me after she'd been told the news of our pragnancy.

That was fine. But then my MIL came to pick her up and not once in about 30 min did she ask how i was or how i was getting on. I was actually feeling pretty grim as i had a headache i just couldn't shift.

The only eludsion to the baby was when she asked to see a picture of the pram we have decided on.

This is her first grandchild and i would of thought that she'd want to know how things are going from me (as my H is likely to say fine lol). I just can't get over the lack of interest.

I know that they were very surprise when we told them but they've known for 5 weeks now so i would of thought they'd be used to the idea.

Maybe it's just me and i'm just expecting everyone to be as excited as we are about it all

 

[Beth1231]

I'm sorry your MIL was not a bit more thoughtful of you. I would have been disappointed too. Perhaps she had something weighing on her mind and when she got home, she realized her error.
I hope you get the excitement you are hoping for next time!

 

[ChildByGrace]

Thank you. I really hope so to.

I kind of get the impression that she though we were going to wait for another few years and is a bit disappointed

 

[PegasusOnFire]

My MIL was a bit standoffish when we announced this pregnancy, though instead of this being their first grandchild it is there 6th, she has since come around and is very excited about the baby. I hope the same goes with your MIL.

BTW it really helped when I took her to my 20 week ultrasound.

 

[Redstiletto]

We can always trade MILs!!!

Mine is already inviting herself on the baby's first vacation to Disney.

 

[jgonz]

Is it possible that she's waiting until you're further along to make sure she doesn't get emotionally invested in case of a miscarriage? I'm always Amazed at how many people Wait to share their pregnancy news~ and how many Wait to get excited. One lady I know refused to connect to her unborn child until the child was born and everything was ok... she'd had several miscarriages before that baby. I guess it's a defense mechanism for some...

At any rate, I'm sorry your MIL acted that way.

 

[ConservativeChristian97]

jgonz said something I didn't think about and should have! My hubby isn't real excited about the baby either and I believe its bc his first child died two months before she was due (along with his wife). So, its possible she's seen a lot of tragedy from friends, or maybe experienced them herself, and doesn't want to get her hopes up.

 

[olafias]

Maybe she's a little frightened at the thought of being a Grandmother. I know my Mom told me once (long before I got pregnant) that she felt too young to be a Grandmother. I hope your MIL comes around so she can experience the excitement that you are experiencing!

 

[Redstiletto]

My mom had said that too, that she was too young to be a grandmother, but its funny, the bigger I get the more excited she gets!

 

[ChildByGrace]

I hadn't thought about the miscarriage thing. I'm not sure that that is it but i'll keep it in mind.

The funny thing is that it's my parents 7th grandchild and they are excited as if it was their 1st - so i guess it's the marked difference between the two sets of parents that makes it so obvious

 

[ChildByGrace]

We can always trade MILs!!!

Mine is already inviting herself on the baby's first vacation to Disney.

lol - i'm not sure i could deal with that either

 

[Just4Jesus]

My sister in law (hubby's sister) came round yesterday to say hi as she hasn't seen me since Christmas therefore this was the first time she saw me after she'd been told the news of our pragnancy.

That was fine. But then my MIL came to pick her up and not once in about 30 min did she ask how i was or how i was getting on. I was actually feeling pretty grim as i had a headache i just couldn't shift.

The only eludsion to the baby was when she asked to see a picture of the pram we have decided on.

This is her first grandchild and i would of thought that she'd want to know how things are going from me (as my H is likely to say fine lol). I just can't get over the lack of interest.

I know that they were very surprise when we told them but they've known for 5 weeks now so i would of thought they'd be used to the idea.

Maybe it's just me and i'm just expecting everyone to be as excited as we are about it all

Hey honey, so sorry to hear that. It would have made me feel pretty grim too. But you never know what is going on in someone's mind. Maybe she had alot on her mind? I hope you feel better.

 

[Kazamataz]

Oh i was the same as you hun! when we told my MIL she gave me a 20min lecture on how a baby is a big responsibility and asked if my husband and I had really thought about what we were doing.

our bubs wasnt planned but it wasnt like i could send him/her back now could I???

my in-laws havent been interested in bubs at all in fact they act like he/she doesnt even exists.

I dont get it either i would have thought being their first grandchild they would be excited.

who knows whats going on in there heads???

 

[ChildByGrace]

Oh i was the same as you hun! when we told my MIL she gave me a 20min lecture on how a baby is a big responsibility and asked if my husband and I had really thought about what we were doing.

our bubs wasnt planned but it wasnt like i could send him/her back now could I???

my in-laws havent been interested in bubs at all in fact they act like he/she doesnt even exists.

I dont get it either i would have thought being their first grandchild they would be excited.

who knows whats going on in there heads???

Thank you - sorry you're going through it too. Maybe when they arrive both sets of InLaws will get all excited