I don't know what to do

[Beautyinsteadofashes]

I have a four year old son who is developmentally delayed and speech delayed. He is not potty trained and could really seem to care less. Most of the time, while my son is energetic, he is fairly decently behaved. He has good manners actually and is really very sweet and loving. He especially loves babies. He just has trouble staying still. If its time to sit still to eat or have story, chances are in a group full of four year Olds, my boy is the one up running around while all they others sit. Its nit so much about attention span because he can sit and watch a whole movie if it interests him. Its more that he is very high energy.
But anyways, tonight he had taken his clothes off and refused to get dressed in clean clothes so he peed on me. He then peed on the chair. (Which now Has to go). He back talked me and spit at me. I don't know what makes him act like this. This is not normal behavior for my son. Well, spitting, he's been doing. In trying to break him of it. Nothing seems to work. But he has never peed all over like that. He has also been saying things that aren't like him. Im wondering if hes picking things up from day care.

 

[Winken]

You are certainly in our prayers. It is obvious that this is a behavior disorder. Medical and child development intervention is called for. I'm not an M.D., so look to one for treatment.

God loves you, loves your son, and we love you.

 

[woobadooba]

Im wondering if hes picking things up from day care.

Could be possible. Perhaps it would be best to seek counseling from a trained professional (not a psychiatrist). Does he eat and drink a lot of things with sugar and/or food coloring (particularly red 40)?

 

[Beautyinsteadofashes]

Idk about red 40. He did have orange juice tonight.

 

[Breve]

Food sensitivities can affect behaviour. Maybe try an elimination diet for a while e.g. GAPS diet ? If no change, well you know it's not that. I hope you find an answer.

 

[Tolworth John]

Bringing up children is always difficult and double so when they have special needs.
Do see if there is a specialist teacher in your area for advice and to ask if there any support groups for children with special needs.

Avoiding lots of sugar and food coloration can help.

Once he calms down talking to him about bad/undesirable behaviour will slowly work, as will the use of the naughty step, time spent having to sit still and quietly until allowed to get up.

 

[woobadooba]

Idk about red 40. He did have orange juice tonight.

My sister had problems with her child behaving very badly. She was giving her child soda to drink and fruit juices. It was recommended that she stop giving these things to her child. When she stopped giving her child these things, a significant change took place in her child's behavior. Many fruit juices contain ingredients that are not healthy and can affect behavior. Water is a healthier option.

When it comes to food and drink, it's best to go all natural.

 

[JAM2b]

I wouldn't jump to assuming it's caused by foods or beverages. He needs a professional evaluation. Start with his medical doctor and ask for a recommendation for child psychiatrist or psychologist who specializes in developmental disorders.

One thing you can do is make sure everything you can do that is healthy is happening as well as you can make it happen. Follow recommended nutrition plan from the doctor, good sleep habits (10-12 hours a day at this age), predictable routines, etc. I know if he is struggling with behaviors, then these things can be difficult, but attempt it as well as you can.

If he does have a disorder of some kind, punitive discipline is not likely to work because he lacks the ability to regulate his own behavior. He will need help of a different kind to manage his behaviors. If you discipline consistently, and his behaviors do not change, then it is likely that he really can't help it.

His behaviors sound very much like my children, especially my oldest. My oldest was not potty trained until he was almost 5. The worst incident was when he was about 4 1/2 and he smeared poop all over himself, the carpet, and TV. The only thing that worked was just putting him back in diapers/pullups and giving up for a while. When he was ready, it just happened.

My children both have ADHD, anxiety, depression, and my oldest also has what used to be known Aspergers. Pervasive Developmental Disorder was his first diagnosis, then it was upgraded to Aspergers. Both of these are now simply called Autism Spectrum Disorders, considered to be high-functioning levels of Autism.

BUT try not to jump to too many conclusions. Seek professional diagnosis and plans for dealing with it.

 

[Bro. Daniel]

I have a four year old son who is developmentally delayed and speech delayed. He is not potty trained and could really seem to care less. Most of the time, while my son is energetic, he is fairly decently behaved. He has good manners actually and is really very sweet and loving. He especially loves babies. He just has trouble staying still. If its time to sit still to eat or have story, chances are in a group full of four year Olds, my boy is the one up running around while all they others sit. Its nit so much about attention span because he can sit and watch a whole movie if it interests him. Its more that he is very high energy.
But anyways, tonight he had taken his clothes off and refused to get dressed in clean clothes so he peed on me. He then peed on the chair. (Which now Has to go). He back talked me and spit at me. I don't know what makes him act like this. This is not normal behavior for my son. Well, spitting, he's been doing. In trying to break him of it. Nothing seems to work. But he has never peed all over like that. He has also been saying things that aren't like him. Im wondering if hes picking things up from day care.

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