I don't know what to do

[Niaa]

I don't know who else to talk to about this so I decided to come here for a bit of advice.
I recently turned 20 and I have a boyfriend whom I have been dating for 2 years on February 14th. I live in England and he is in Malaysia for University. He is a Christian and so am I. We haven't had sex but we both have had sex with different people. I have only had sex with one person and I haven't bothered to ask him about his sex life because we both have a new life now. We have spoken about marriage and have planned what we are going to do after we both finish University (we have discussed starting a family, basically everything). Anyway because we don't see each other for a long period of time he often asks me to send him nudes. And I have read on yahoo forums and others that this is only fine for married couples. I don't send them to anyone else except him and he doesn't show anyone and deletes them after he sees them and sometimes asks me if he can keep one or two. Am I wrong for doing this with him and should I wait till he marries me? Also I am going to Malaysia for holiday this summer so we can spend time together and I will be staying with him. I would like advice on that too.

Thank you in advance x

 

[GraceNationMIniss]

Ok, Before I respond, why is he asking for them? What is the purpose behind you sending them.

 

[GraceNationMIniss]

If he is using them for why, I think he is asking for them, then yes it would be wrong to send them. He is finding sexual pleasure outside of marriage and that is for sure a sin. The Bible is clear that sexual relations should be kept within a marriage and only a marriage. Even after you are married I don't know if it would be the wisest decision to make.

If he is using them for why I think, then yes, you both are in the wrong. He is sinning sexually, and you are allowing Him to do this by sending him the photos.

Ephesians 5:3
Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God's people.
Proverbs 6:32 - [But] whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he [that] doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

Just 2 of the many verses that discuss it. Hope I helped and good luck with everything I am praying for you and your relationship!

 

[farout]

I don't know who else to talk to about this so I decided to come here for a bit of advice.
I recently turned 20 and I have a boyfriend whom I have been dating for 2 years on February 14th. I live in England and he is in Malaysia for University. He is a Christian and so am I. We haven't had sex but we both have had sex with different people. I have only had sex with one person and I haven't bothered to ask him about his sex life because we both have a new life now. We have spoken about marriage and have planned what we are going to do after we both finish University (we have discussed starting a family, basically everything). Anyway because we don't see each other for a long period of time he often asks me to send him nudes. And I have read on yahoo forums and others that this is only fine for married couples. I don't send them to anyone else except him and he doesn't show anyone and deletes them after he sees them and sometimes asks me if he can keep one or two. Am I wrong for doing this with him and should I wait till he marries me? Also I am going to Malaysia for holiday this summer so we can spend time together and I will be staying with him. I would like advice on that too.

Thank you in advance x

This guy is not worthy of you. He is asking you to lower your standards. next time when he is in town he will expect even more! Sexuality is like a ladder, each rung takes you a little higher up. If you do not have intentions of becoming sexually involved with him, as soon as he gets back, tell him you are a Christian and NO WAY! He would just lust and use your picture to get sexually aroused and pleasure himself with. That is totally wrong. If he is asking for nude pictures of you he most likely is into porn already. I think he is not good enough for a woman like you. Tell him anymore of this will end your relationship, which you most likely should do anyway.

 

[GraceNationMIniss]

I am going to have to agree with this

This guy is not worthy of you. He is asking you to lower your standards. next time when he is in town he will expect even more! Sexuality is like a ladder, each rung takes you a little higher up. If you do not have intentions of becoming sexually involved with him, as soon as he gets back, tell him you are a Christian and NO WAY! He would just lust and use your picture to get sexually aroused and pleasure himself with. That is totally wrong. If he is asking for nude pictures of you he most likely is into porn already. I think he is not good enough for a woman like you. Tell him anymore of this will end your relationship, which you most likely should do anyway.