I don't know what to do!

[circa02]

I have a major problem that's getting, no, it IS intolerable. Here's the situation. Almost 6 years ago I was living with my father after my parents divorced. To put it simply, my dad is an evil monster and I finally realized it, so after years of estrangement from from my mother, she took me in her home, and for years we were closer then most any mother and son. We're both disabled and can't work, so money is extremely tight, and neither one of us have a social life, and no car, so there's nowhere to go, and therefore we're always kooked up in a tiny 4 room house. Between both our mental illnesses, lack of any social life, despite a life time of trying, and the little issue that I'm 29 and still living with my mother, we're driving each other, not crazy, we fight so much and so hard, it's ruining our lives, literally, we have no peace in our lives, and our health is being seriously affected through stress an anxiety. I have literally nowhere else to live, but my mom says she literally can't live with me, and I feel the same. No one can see any options, but living together is no longer one either. It's beyond the point of resolving our differences, beleive me, we're just not compatible housemates. What can I do? I don't want to ruin our renewed reconciliation, so for that alone we must part. Please pray, i don't want to lose my family

 

[NewCovenant]

I would look into Section 8 housing and other government programs right away. The waiting list on those is quite long but it's worth the wait. Also, find out if you qualify for assistance, like SSI, food stamps, and whatever else is available. There may be some funds available out there to help you become more independent. You might also check Craigslist and other local classifieds and see if you can find a roommate. Lots of people are looking to share their homes or apartments with a responsible person. Learn how to use the bus system. There are resources out there for you, you just have to do the work and learn how to get plugged into the system.

 

[If Not For Grace]

we fight so much

It takes 2 to fight.
Being right is NOT always worth the price.
Honor whom?

Have you ever tried a group home-if you have a mental illness, you will qualify.
Coping skills, would be very useful here. Your nearest MH faciity or most LSW can help with those (Anger Mgt, accepting responsibilities, money management, resentments & expectations--not as easy as they sound)

Seems like financal mgt is the source of most of the disagreements. A clear cut definition of needs vs wants, agreement of Priorities and who pays what is in order. It may sound silly but it needs to be discussed and then WRITTEN just like any other business arrangement util independance can be obtained. Starting from today-(yesterday is gone).

Grace.

 

[Jazer]

No one can see any options, but living together is no longer one either.

If you can not work then get a hold of the FHA and fill out an application. They usually have a room they can put you in right away. If you go on a waiting list they maybe able to find something better for you.