I dont know how to be...

[Jennn21]

I posted in here very recently after i lost my dad in august 2007, also my step mum in january 2007.

since then ive been on a very painful journey, The family i shared with my dad has broke apart, we hardly speak to much, so i now feel ive lost a whole part of my life. That side of me has gone now.

I still feel so empty, i still listen out for my dads voice and id give anything to see his beautiful face again.

I feel utterly lost, i dont have much support. I stay in my room all day unless i have to come out.

Im in my own little world, and im so scared

I miss him so much

 

[heartscriber]

Hi, Jenn!

My Mom died July 2001, so I sort of know how you feel.

The main thing is...people try to put a time frame on grief. That simply can't be done. Coping is an individual process, and some people do cope in ways that other's can't.

My way of coping when my Mom died was to reach out to other folks that I saw in need. Sometimes it was something as simple as sending a card, or saying a prayer. Sometimes it was talking and listening to someone. Sometimes it involved giving someone a special gift or just giving someone encouragement and telling them that there IS hope.

Please PM me here anytime you want. I will listen.

It is ok to be scared. That is part of losing someone, but don't let your fear consume you.

Take hold of the things you like to do in life...and think about how your Dad would have been proud of you for doing this or that...and start doing things in his memory...even if it is a tiny thing like taking a newspaper to an elderly neighbor...

You WILL get through this.

God seems far away right now, but I promise you, He has NOT moved ONE inch!!! He will never leave or forsake you...that's His promise...You can depend on God.

God had to give up his Son Jesus to death on the cross. Even HE knows the pain you feel right now...and He Cares.

I care too.

{{{{Jenn}}}} hugs and prayers...

Take care and God bless!

Please keep in touch!

Heartscriber

 

[longcall911]

I posted in here very recently after i lost my dad in august 2007, also my step mum in january 2007.

since then ive been on a very painful journey, The family i shared with my dad has broke apart, we hardly speak to much, so i now feel ive lost a whole part of my life. That side of me has gone now.

I still feel so empty, i still listen out for my dads voice and id give anything to see his beautiful face again.

I feel utterly lost, i dont have much support. I stay in my room all day unless i have to come out.

Im in my own little world, and im so scared

I miss him so much

Jenn, I think we each have to grieve in our own way, and in our own time. Each time I pray to our Lord Jesus for help, I am able to visualize him comforting me. Maybe the same will be true for you.

But I think it is also important for each of us to come out of deep sorrow and to face the world again. That doesn't mean we should pretend to feel better. It means looking for God and looking for comfort in all the things that God has given us here in this beautiful world. Talk to your friends and family. Through them, Jesus will speak with you. . . I'm sure.

/*tom*/