I know people in my State that were on such good terms they got a simple $400 divorce with no drama.
Upvote
0
I know people in my State that were on such good terms they got a simple $400 divorce with no drama.
Unbelivers do this and they don't know better. Christians remarry divorced people all the time and they should know better. The Bible clearly says if you marry a divorced person you have committed adultery. I could not, in good conscience, marry a divorced person, especially if they had kids.
I know people in my State that were on such good terms they got a simple $400 divorce with no drama.
Unbelivers do this and they don't know better. Christians remarry divorced people all the time and they should know better. The Bible clearly says if you marry a divorced person you have committed adultery. I could not, in good conscience, marry a divorced person, especially if they had kids.
Unbelivers do this and they don't know better. Christians remarry divorced people all the time and they should know better. The Bible clearly says if you marry a divorced person you have committed adultery. I could not, in good conscience, marry a divorced person, especially if they had kids.
---edit---
Erased my message and turned it into my sig. Sometimes the this marriage section really makes me wonder about where christianity is going.
I did not believe in divorce either and I had ever inyention to stay married to my now ex husband even though he was an unbeliever but he didn't feel the same,,,,,he decided I wasn't what he wanted without telling me,,so he committed adultery on me several several times until the last one which is where I found out,,,i hoped to work things out with him,,,he didn't want to,,,so I had no option but to divorce,,,, it devastated me for quite awhile,,i love being married,,,,God placed a wonderful loving man of God in my God together in Celebrate Recovery,,,,,i truly believe in cases where one of the partner has no ontention of reconciliation divorce is ok,,especially in cases od adultery,,,,broken trust is a big problem in relationships,,,i believe God has blessed me for remaining faithful...thank you
It can only go as far as the law will allow. When dealing with other people (especially people who have been burned before) have to do something to protect themselves from exploitation. It is really nothing more than that.
We are not a Christian nation and there is no way the femist movement will ever allow the laws to go back to the way they were way back in the day. Women LOVE the way marriage is today, if they are happy they stay, if not they walk away with cash and prizes and have a new man lined up in a month or sometimes less if they are even half way decent looking. In the USA they don't have to be in the top 1% looks wise to swing vine to vine.
Its why some of the remaining few true Christians are opting out of legal marriage, especially the men.
I think the problem isn't that marriage is being degraded. It's that some people allow their own views of marriage to become degraded, then blame that poor mindset on others, absolving themselves of taking any sort of effort to fix their mentality. For example, here's somebody who thinks marriage is flawed and blames feminism, even going so far as to say that the only solution is to cancel out feminism, acknowledging that isn't going to happen. That acknowledgment basically is the build in excuse for not trying to seek a better understanding or opinion of marriage as a whole. For him, the value of marriage is determined by something other than him, and because he's willfully given away his power, he's excused his apparent lack of effort in improving himself and quelling negativity that apparently has evolved to define the whole of marriage and a significant chunk of women to be unfavorable.
As a woman who's, for some baffling reason, been called a "feminist" with the same venom that one uses when they utter an obscenity or accuse somebody of being racist, I have to say that yes, I am glad that women can get divorces. Obviously as a divorced woman myself, I seeing being able to take control of my own marital life as being a good thing and not a bad thing (though in the spirit of full disclosure my ex physically filed because his post-separation home was closer to the court for the county we lived than mine and because I couldn't afford the filing fees, though our paperwork said it was a "joint, uncontested petition to dissolve marriage," which it was). But you know... The fact I got divorced, that my husband now has been divorced... It means absolutely nothing to the value of our marriage or marriage in general. The marital behaviors of others, of society, others in the US, others in the world, none of that factors in to what determines the value of my marriage. That comes from one and only fountain, and that fountain's source is that space occupied by me and my husband.
Tomorrow, the whole of femaledom could leave their husbands, divorce them. Marriage could be abolished. Marriage could be opened up to allow more inclusion through the recognition of same-sex marriage. Marriage could just a business arraignment. People can do it for money, citizenship, or because they got really hammered in Vegas and it seemed like a good thing to do. People can have open marriages, long term relationships with no marriage... Absolutely, positively none of it has any impact on how my marriage is rooted, how I view marriage, or how I view my marriage. Why? Because the roots of how I define the importance of a marital bond come from me, and I live it accordingly. As a result I reap all the benefits of a great marriage, a great outlook on marriage, and full control of the determination of value to what matters to me.
Sure, I could sit here and wail about men who marry their starter wife and build off of her then divorce her for another woman to step into the life the first wife carved. Yeah, I could rant about unfaithful men. I can point fingers at the guys who jump through women like I change my pants, marry and divorce then feel scandalized that the woman they chose to build a life with has the gall to think she deserves something out of their mutual marriage than lost years and walking papers.
But you know what? I don't. Because none of the behavior of others comes back to define what my marriage means to me. Because of that, I can demonstrate quite clearly to the world just exactly how much I value my marriage and... Guess what? Cultivate that respect that I've sown, regardless of what the marriage of anybody else is or isn't doing.
Looking at these couples who've hit their 30, 40, 50 years, I've never once seen one that said "If it weren't for feminism, we could celebrate this as a milestone. Instead, our marriage has no value."
Really, it makes about as much sense as saying your birthday has no value because people die, people get better gifts than you, or don't celebrate it at all. It's like saying because Jewish people and Atheists don't celebrate Christmas, the whole holiday is meaningless. Because the vegan movement exists, because other people go gluten free, there's no way you can enjoy your steak and biscuits like you otherwise would. It's utterly asinine.
That is very true, just as you value your ability to get an easy divorce I value my ability to not sign things I dont want to sign. But you are right we should not allow society to dicate what we do in our individual lives, if I choose not to sign a marriage licence then I choose not to sign one.
I think the unfortunate fact of that is how such people are treated in nearly all church bodies, however another poster in another unreleated fourm said that church does not determine our salvation, we should look to the bible for that not the opinions of man.
If there was ever anybody who could say they had an easy divorce, it'd be me. Completely uncontested in terms of money, property, no kids, we waived our appearance before a judge... Filed, processed, divorced in less than a week.
That all being said, divorce isn't easy. Anybody who thinks so clearly, and I mean CLEARLY, has no idea what they're talking about. It's a hard, hard thing from pretty much any angle it could be.
And I agree, if you don't want to get married, don't. Find a man or won't who also doesn't want marriage and cohabitate forever (but don't expect, if you break up, the process is any easier legally or otherwise than divorce, or that you get out of it without having to offer a payout to her). Or stay single. Or have a series of superfluous relationships. Or have everything from the kids to the house without the little paper (see note above about if you break up). That's your choice and I 100% support you in doing it if that's what you want.
But at least be honest about it. Your decision has nothing to do with feminism, evil women, society, or anything else. It's your fear of committing to somebody or the idea of giving your life over to such a degree that you've fully melded with somebody else. The idea of removing a "mine" for "ours" is too terrifying to want to get married. And that's fine. Again, a lot of people feel that way.
What people are treated how in church?