I cyber stalked my match. I'm an idiot!

[Inkachu]

Ok, the idea that this guy is somehow going to be able to anonymously approach this girl without her knowing who he is, is not true.

On Match.com, you can see WHO has viewed your profile. She knows who he is already.

He didn't just go freaky over her Match.com profile, he tracked her down on Myspace and did the same thing there, to the point where she got so scared she shut off public access to her profile.

And you guys think he is stable and mature enough to contact her? And keep his stalking a secret? What kind of honest, grown-up foundation for a future is this?

 

[overit]

I think he did her a favor, those sites are full of creeps, stalkers, basket cases and weirdos (yes there are nice people too) and as a woman it's just not worth the risk. So likely she'll find another avenue, likely women reading this will try other avenues of meeting people, so IMO you did women favor by posting about it and even though you scared her, you'll be doing her a favor in staying away from the creepy places-ahem-sites LOL

JMHO of course.

 

[KarrieTex]

Ok, the idea that this guy is somehow going to be able to anonymously approach this girl without her knowing who he is, is not true.

On Match.com, you can see WHO has viewed your profile. She knows who he is already.

He didn't just go freaky over her Match.com profile, he tracked her down on Myspace and did the same thing there, to the point where she got so scared she shut off public access to her profile.

And you guys think he is stable and mature enough to contact her? And keep his stalking a secret? What kind of honest, grown-up foundation for a future is this?

I agree with you there

 

[Inkachu]

The internet is FULL of pervs, wackos, stalkers, and worse. You CANNOT be too careful.

Guys: if you want to approach a lady online, you'd better do it with honesty, politeness, respect, candor, and openness.

There is NO FREAKIN WAY I would dismiss a guy doing something like this to me as just being "interested", and I would absolutely 100% NOT keep in touch with him. The obsessive/impulsive behavior before even KNOWING someone...that alone would send me running for cover.

 

[Lady Bug]

I think the OP should leave well enough alone.

She shut off public access because she probably no longer wants you to access her pages. Let alone anyone who exhibits similar behavior. And by confessing to her, she may view the confession as a stalking tactic to get to know her, which she doesn't want you to do.

This is a reason why I am not too keen on joining an online dating site. I'll probably be blamed in future years for not trying it out if I am still bemoaning my singleness, but marriage has existed for millennia before the internet ever came into existence.

 

[*Starlight*]

NO. Leave her alone. You've shown you cannot control yourself and I'd be scared of you if I were her.

Do not contact her. If you did that to me I'd be ready to call the cops if you tried to keep in touch with me.

That's rather scary. :o I can't really understand the reason to call the cops just because someone likes you and wants to be friends with you... I hope not many people are like that.

Ok, the idea that this guy is somehow going to be able to anonymously approach this girl without her knowing who he is, is not true.

On Match.com, you can see WHO has viewed your profile. She knows who he is already.

He didn't just go freaky over her Match.com profile, he tracked her down on Myspace and did the same thing there, to the point where she got so scared she shut off public access to her profile.

And you guys think he is stable and mature enough to contact her? And keep his stalking a secret? What kind of honest, grown-up foundation for a future is this?

If he feels that the girl could be the right person for him, then it's good for him to actually try to get to know her. He can just say that he wanted to contact her earlier, but was too shy to do it... which was actually true. He doesn't have any bad intentions towards her, so he should do all he can to become friends with her. Hopefully she's someone who understands that someone viewing her profile many times before contacting her doesn't mean that the person who does it a bad person or has harmful intentions.