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[dogs4thewin]

In Christian advice are here posting here if it is moved then OK.

I WANT to be a Christian. Trouble is I am scared of getting a Christian icon again because I am scared I will start doubting my faith again and be back the seeker icon AGAIN so wish I could be confident.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

In Christian advice are here posting here if it is moved then OK.

I WANT to be a Christian. Trouble is I am scared of getting a Christian icon again because I am scared I will start doubting my faith again and be back the seeker icon AGAIN so wish I could be confident.

Hi,

Well, sis, what seems to be the part that bothers you most?

2PhiloVoid

 

[dogs4thewin]

Hi,

Well, sis, what seems to be the part that bothers you most?

2PhiloVoid

There is this one particular person that each and every time I try to forgive her it just seems to get worse. Christians are to forgive people who wrong them. That and some "Christians" seem to think that particular sinners are crazy.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

There is this one particular person that each and every time I try to forgive her it just seems to get worse. Christians are to forgive people who wrong them. That and some "Christians" seem to think that particular sinners are crazy.

Yes, you're right that some people aren't made better when we forgive them, and the burden of the trouble lands on us somehow. Forgiveness doesn't always heal the relationship breaches, and that is difficult to deal with, even for Christians

And you're definitely right that Christians are to be forgiving when wronged.

I'm not going to ask what it is that has to be forgiven with this other individual, but it would be helpful to know why you feel you must forgive them. Let me ask this. Do they actually tell you that they are sorry and ask for your forgiveness for the wrong being done?

 

[seashale76]

I understand your concerns here. However, I do have some advice for you as well.

1) Start attending church.
2) You need to be instructed in the faith. For example, all Orthodox parishes will instruct inquirer's regarding the faith.
3) Even if you are a believer- these things need to take place before you are baptized into Christ. Christianity is a big commitment and you absolutely should know what you're getting yourself into.
4) Despite your concerns about whether or not you are a Christian there is absolutely nothing that should be stopping you from reading the scriptures and even praying.

Where to find an Orthodox parish (as I only recommend those being biased as I am on the matter): Orthodoxy in America - Contact

Basics about the faith:
OCA - The Orthodox Faith

Prayer resources that I've found helpful:
P r a y e r
Let us
Abbreviated Prayerbook
The Message of the Lord's Prayer

A daily lectionary (esp. good if you have no idea where to start re: reading scripture):
Online Chapel — Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America

 

[1watchman]

If one has a forgiving heart, and is not holding anger or resentment --realizing we all offend and sin at times; and is praying to God to save the person and bless them with help, then that is about all one can do. If the offender asks for forgiveness, then the relationship can also be restored.

Just be sure you are a "born again" believer in the Lord Jesus Christ and devoted to Him, and then your relationship with God will bring peace, blessings, and assurance forever.

 

[paul1149]

There is this one particular person that each and every time I try to forgive her it just seems to get worse. Christians are to forgive people who wrong them. That and some "Christians" seem to think that particular sinners are crazy.

Both of those sound like performance issues. What do they have to do with being Saved?

because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. -Rom 10:9​

That's the essence of it. Faith is in the heart, and we bring our soul into conformity with what we believe. That's a lifelong process of sanctification. If you're having a problem forgiving someone, rather than giving up your faith it's something that needs to be worked out through faith. And if others aren't behaving lovingly, that's a different problem that needs work. But don't give up your faith because of it. Faith is the solution, not the problem.

There are plenty of times my mind isn't where it should be. That's not a good thing, but the Lord hasn't given up on me, and won't. Neither will He give up on you. The problems are something we need to work on, because we only hurt myself if we don't.

Also remember that forgiveness does not always mandate reconciliation. If the other person is adamant, usually we are called to let go and let sovereign God deal with it, in His way and time. Our job in that case is to let our peace return to us.

 

[jimbattle]

Mr 5:36 As soon as Jesus heard the word that was spoken, he saith unto the ruler of the synagogue, Be not afraid, only believe.

 

[chrisstavrous]

In Christian advice are here posting here if it is moved then OK.

I WANT to be a Christian. Trouble is I am scared of getting a Christian icon again because I am scared I will start doubting my faith again and be back the seeker icon AGAIN so wish I could be confident.

Whats wrong with seeker, its the most honest place to be.