I can't handle it, is there any way to avert this mentality?

[Lady Bug]

Hi, I try to go to a parish where I know at least one face at the Mass, but you know, sometimes it doesn't work out that way. Or, they may know your face but you are just a random attendee (but not parishioner) now and then. My thread applies to that kind of situation, not my usual parishes. My question is, I can't handle the feeling I get when I have to walk past all the pews to get to the front and "everyone is looking at meeee" and I feel like they all hate me. It may never fully end. (I like the front because I can't stand seeing ANYONE'S heads in front of me, lol. It's a distraction. The only exception are handicapped people who may need to sit in the front pew. They're excused)

Has anyone also sat at the end and waited for the chitter-chatter of those around them to stop, and for the people to leave, so that you don't feel so lonely walking out amongst them? Does it make you look like you are fishing for people to come up and talk to you, or does it simply look like you're trying to be more reverent?

Before you dismiss these questions as elementary or childish, I'm having serious social issues (internally) lately and I almost can't handle it. I walk in the church as if I'm simply walking in the church and none of them know the mental torture I'm going through, being "scared" of "people hating meeeeeee."

 

[chevyontheriver]

Hi, I try to go to a parish where I know at least one face at the Mass, but you know, sometimes it doesn't work out that way. Or, they may know your face but you are just a random attendee (but not parishioner) now and then. My thread applies to that kind of situation, not my usual parishes. My question is, I can't handle the feeling I get when I have to walk past all the pews to get to the front and "everyone is looking at meeee" and I feel like they all hate me. It may never fully end. (I like the front because I can't stand seeing ANYONE'S heads in front of me, lol. It's a distraction. The only exception are handicapped people who may need to sit in the front pew. They're excused)

Has anyone also sat at the end and waited for the chitter-chatter of those around them to stop, and for the people to leave, so that you don't feel so lonely walking out amongst them? Does it make you look like you are fishing for people to come up and talk to you, or does it simply look like you're trying to be more reverent?

Before you dismiss these questions as elementary or childish, I'm having serious social issues (internally) lately and I almost can't handle it. I walk in the church as if I'm simply walking in the church and none of them know the mental torture I'm going through, being "scared" of "people hating meeeeeee."

I don’t think I hated more than about ten people this morning at mass out of all the people there. I really doubt that you are hated by that many at your mass. Maybe you are hated by exactly nobody. It’s possible.

 

[FaithT]

I don’t think I hated more than about ten people this morning at mass out of all the people there. I really doubt that you are hated by that many at your mass. Maybe you are hated by exactly nobody. It’s possible.

It’s probable.

 

[Lady Bug]

Chevy so you hate 9 people?

 

[Learning always]

Nobody hates you there, it's a sin.
They'd like you if you behave well.

 

[chevyontheriver]

Chevy so you hate 9 people?

How many people I actually hated on at mass this morning was very tongue in cheek.

 

[Aaron112]

Jesus is the answer. Jesus does not share the answer with churches.

 

[boughtwithaprice]

I used to feel that way. It could be a sign that you are being oppressed by spirits. Satan does not want you to go to Mass, and He also does not want you to contemplate God, so he plays with your emotions

I wonder if you feel hated or do you hate the people? If you feel hated, start praising God
His word says, you will be hated by all men for my names sake

Your love for God does not require people to like you, nor to worship only among friends. Keep your resolve to worship God no matter what others think and these feelings will pass

Use them as an excuse to not attend Mass and Satan has won.

Peace be with you and I’ll pray for you as you fight your spiritual battle

 

[Michie]

Hi, I try to go to a parish where I know at least one face at the Mass, but you know, sometimes it doesn't work out that way. Or, they may know your face but you are just a random attendee (but not parishioner) now and then. My thread applies to that kind of situation, not my usual parishes. My question is, I can't handle the feeling I get when I have to walk past all the pews to get to the front and "everyone is looking at meeee" and I feel like they all hate me. It may never fully end. (I like the front because I can't stand seeing ANYONE'S heads in front of me, lol. It's a distraction. The only exception are handicapped people who may need to sit in the front pew. They're excused)

Has anyone also sat at the end and waited for the chitter-chatter of those around them to stop, and for the people to leave, so that you don't feel so lonely walking out amongst them? Does it make you look like you are fishing for people to come up and talk to you, or does it simply look like you're trying to be more reverent?

Before you dismiss these questions as elementary or childish, I'm having serious social issues (internally) lately and I almost can't handle it. I walk in the church as if I'm simply walking in the church and none of them know the mental torture I'm going through, being "scared" of "people hating meeeeeee."

Nobody hates you. It’s all in your mind unless you have definitive proof. You might be disappointed in finding the friendships you seek there which may make you come to that conclusion. People when they are in Church tend to people watch but it really does not mean anything.

 

[RileyG]

People are focusing on Christ and not those around them. Do you have anyone to share your concerns with?